Emotional Wounds...?

(Emotional Wounds, not physical) How do you deal with past wounds when to seem to have gotten rid of them but then something is said or seen and it reopens the wounds you just healed? What do you when this happens? Would you mind telling your situations that you have had where youre wounds had seemed to healed but something reopened them? Thank You!!

Ok Ashley,
it is very deep question ..
And my answer would take a long .. so please take my apology if i will be so boring ..

When we get hurt physically, we immediately try to cure it by chemicals, medicines etc. After few days you get cured and forget the wound. BUT what about the emotional wounds. MOST people leave them open, bleeding, try to cover them by fake smiles, by finding artificial means to treat it, cure it. THE result is very bad. The emotional wounds remain there, get worse, untreated and even become infectious. A single emotional hurt left unattended can depress a person completely. If you have any old emotional wound somewhere hidden, deal with it now. Do not hide it. Even if you have any residuals left somewhere forgotten, you must remove them now or get ready when they re-surface at a time when you are weaker.

Emotional pain, however, presents more of a problem. Many people treat emotional pain by hiding it; that is, they do something self-gratifying鈥攕uch as drink alcohol, use drugs, have sex, gamble, watch TV or movies, eat sweets or fats, and so on鈥攖hat numbs the pain but does nothing to heal it.

Many people also use anger and revenge to respond to hurt.

Anger, in its technical sense, is a desire to harm the person or thing that hurt you; revenge is an act of carrying out that harm in some way.


Excuse me for not telling any of my situations .. cause it might lead to reopining them ..

the most painful wounds are which come from near one's ...

Hope you get passed ur wounds ..

Have a great day ..
Good luck ..
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This is just part of life. Sometimes you have to deal with these types of things but dont worry. Its a good thing. It only makes you stronger than before and it will make you mature in time. Ive been through so much and I thought I wouldnt get over it. Now I learned that even though the pain might still be there, I have grown and become stronger and not to mention wiser. You wont think that mine is the best answer right now, but within a few years if you remeber this, youll think its the best advice ever. Keep your head up. Good luck.

Getting hurt is a part of life... how we deal with it is what shapes us as humans. I don't want to sound like a cliche, but to be honest I pray a lot. God has the power to heal all wounds and give us strength when those wounds reopen. The rest of your life is going to have pain and heartache in it, but make sure you don't just hold it all in... that makes wounds just fester. Try getting a mentor to talk to, and always remember to pray and lean on God for the power to overcome these obstacles. Try to stay positive and refuse to let the negative have an impact on your fragile heart.

Shoot the little things make me relive what I went through for 15 years. I was badly treated by my exhubby ( beat me for no reason) By the slam of the door, I knew if I were not going to rest at night. He fuss all the time, it was like he had two personalities.
I am out of that situation now, it has been 5 years since I left him and still have flashbacks of the past. It is very painful for me, but I think that I was the one that hurt my mind, for not getting away from the situation, even though it was hard for a while. I had to tote a gun every where I went, but I don't anymore, because he has remarried.
I have a boyfriend now, that acts like he is stupid, but he would never hit me and we don't fuss, we talk. It is a lot different than what I am used too. However when my boyfriend comes in, he will remark by saying, I see you have left the cabinet doors open, you don't have to do that anymore and did you have a bad day? He is very understanding about those things, he knows I do it, to feel safe. He loves me and he does not act like my ex-hubby!
He tells me all the time that he loves me and he is not my ex.
It is a hard road within my mind and my boiyfriend tells me that I will never get over what my ex did because he did me wrong. And he reminds me that he will not come around here, because he will take care of me. I'm glad he tries to understand, but he still does not know why anyone would hurt me.
Although, my boyfriend is not the romantic, he does care for me and is not controlling and wants me to be happy and look nice.
wher has my ex, beat me if I look nice or talk to anyone, even say hi.
boyfriend is quite different, he doesn't mind me giving someone a hug no matter if it is the opposite sex, where I would show brotherly love.
I thinks I have the biggest heart.

I know what you are talking about, thought I was all over it, that I'd forgiven the person that hurt me and then something happens and it' s all back.
I went England on a working/holiday. 6 wks into the trip my bf (of 5ys. at the time), calls me and tells me (in tears) that he got drunk and cheated on me. He'd never do it again, blah, blah, blah.
I was hurt, and still had a 41/2 month commitment to fulfill. I decided to forgive him, everyone makes mistakes and deserves a chance.
When I returned, our relationship was back to normal and life went on, things were good.
Over a year later I found out that my bf had not only continued to see this woman right up until the weekend I returned home, had introduced her to his family, taken her and her kids to an out of town wedding etc.
Talk about ripping a wound open. The bf seemed to think I had nothing to be upset about as I'd already forgiven him for the first time and it was all behind us as he hadn't seen her since I returned. It was old news.
It took me a long time to get over that betrayal and it was not so much the hurt that kept me back, but my anger. Once I could let go of the anger, the jerk didn't deserve all the negative energy it created within me, I could move on and heal.
I have asked God for help with these types of things, but that might not be your thing...

i was sexually abused as a child now i only think about it when i see something on tv or read something i get very angry..but sadly to sad i think that helps me deal with it no one knows so i can let my anger out and tell everyone seeing kids treated like that makes me so mad..

Emotional wounds are the harded to get over as for as I'm concerned. When I was 15 I was raped by a uncle who is dead now. But I have since come to deal with what happened to me . About 8 years ago my daughter tryed to choke me, she was on drugs and had been drinking, I felt like i was being attacked all again. I also have a friend that has a drinking problem and she like to hug you when says bye. All these things bring back what my uncle did to me because he smelled like beer when it happened. Beer is a tigger for me. I have learned to say no to my friends hugs, I explained why. When I do have a flash back I cry and get all mad again. Mad at him and mad at myself for letting him come in when my mom was gone. I kept this to myself untll I got into therepy71/2 years ago. My other emotional wounds are is mom dieing, she died in my arms almost. my daugther almost dieing of your eating disorder and a being a addict, and my divorce of 22 years. I do alot of crying over my mom's death still and I can still remember every single detail that lead up to your death. When that part of my life comes up I cry and talk it out with a friend, my best friend. My daughter and the divorce come to mind I always think what could have done different or was it all my fault was a bad mom because I suffer from depression, did that lead to her drinking and druging and to my divorce. All this goes though my mind but I try not to go there very often.When I do go there I also cry alot get depressed or down on myself untill I talk it out with someome like my best friend or my therepist.These are the top three I stress over the most I hope this helps answer your question. Good luck and I can't stress it enough if you're going thur some emotional wounds that won't heal get help. Don't let it eat at you for years like I did with the rape, for 39 years I didn't tell anyone. I don't recommand that to anyone it isn't healthy. I'll will be praying for you.

Wow, this "question" could open up a lot of doors b/c if someone has forgotten or healed their issue they are thinking about it now. Not to be very spiritual or anything but my relationship with Lord has really grown in the last 18 months.

December of 05 my wife and I had our precious baby girl. After spending two days in the hospital they decided to let us go home. My wife and I were so excited yet so scared, we had never takin care of a baby before. I mean dang I've never changed a diaper before.lol. So we go home and its time to give our little girl her first bath at home, while giving her a bath we notice that she is beginning to turn blue on her face. Scared to death we rush her to the hospital and she is not breathing very well. To top things it is the only freakin day in texas that we have icy roads so here I am trying to be safe on the roads yelling at people to get out of the way......we lived two miles from the hospital which seem two hundred miles. We get there and they hook her up to all these stupid machines and my wife and I are scared to death. Things settle down and we get her back to normal after a couple of hours but now she has to stay on the hospital for a couple of days. So we stay......and everything went great we got to go home and man it was a big relief. Another day goes by and my wife starts to have some serous post birth issues. While we where at a friends house just down the street my wife starts having a "major" problem. My wife nearly bleeds to death in a matter of 30 minutes, while I am panicing trying everything to keep calm and show my wife that I am not scared at all. All I know to do is hold her hand and pray that everything is going to be okay. I've have never in my life felt so helpless and useful, even though I knew that God was in control it still a lot for me to remain calm. Everything came out just fine and my wife and my little girl are the joy of my life, but every time someone asked when we are going to have another one it just brings back those memories.

I know that was kind of lengthy but hope you get the idea.
Great question by the way.

Some wounds will never fully heal but you can embrace the lessons and strength that the pain gives you. I was neglected and abused as a child, left home at 16 and at 20 adopted my youngest brother.

In my early twenties I provided a home for three of my siblings and their children as we all worked to "get over it." I had to strong for them even though I was not the oldest, I was the one determined to help us all gain emotional & financial stability.

Even though I have forgiven my parents when I reflect on the past I cry and get really down but then I realize how strong I have become and how wonderful my life is. Usually I have to talk to someone to get me back on the bright side. My husband, who had a perfect childhood, can't relate to my stories but he listens and that's usually all it takes - to know someone really cares about me and loves me.

I have lived with alcoholics all my life and everytime you think you are getting somewhere something happens to knock you right back so i found going to a group where everyone has lived with alcoholism is a great help as everybody is in the same situation and you can talk your prolems over and they can give advice.