HELP, with a couple of things, please, I am DEPERATE?

I am not sure if my other posts went through or not so here it is again, just in case. First, I am wondering if it is normal to have pain of the vulva after intercourse, usually the lower sides and very bottom of it. I have done some research and have come up with either vulvodynia or lichen sclerosis? I am almost always irritated as well, sometimes yeast sometimes not. Needless to say, marital relations could be much better. I have been dealing with this for about 7 years and have been to at least 5 doctors multiple times with no conclusion. Which leads me to this question, if anyone is familiar with any doctors in Michigan, preferably southeast Michigan, I could really use a good referral, or even a website if anyone knows of one, to look for specialists in this area. The other question I have is about lubrication. Lubrication helps at least a little bit, I think part of the problem half of the time is friction, I just do not produce a lot of natural lubrication. None of the brands I have tried have been very good, dry up fast and are sticky. I have heard olive oil, but haven't tried yet, has anyone out there tried olive oil? I have tried durex, astroglide, and ky. Don't like any of them. I have also read slippery stuff? Don't know where to find that, any suggestions? Please, any help with any of these questions would be GREATLY APPRECIATED. Thanks for taking the time to read all of my problems, PLEASE HELP ME. Thanks again, J.M.

I went through the same problem with my exhusband. I had to find a vulvadinia specialist. We tried many treatments and the only time I seemed to find any relief is when we treated yeast. I stayed on very long treatments of lamisl and Ketoconazole. I also started taking acidophilus pills on a daily basis.
I started noticing a huge improvement but I will really never know because i divorced my husband and with him is where the problems began and now the problems have completely stopped.
it was almost as if i had an allergic reaction to him. I was treated and tested repeateadly for everything else. I would be carefull of lubrication. A doctor did suggest that our problem may have come from too much oral sex to get lubrication.
I have the national vulvodynia assoication number as 301-299-0775 this information is old - try to find a doctor in your area.

you may want to try expirementing with some different positions with your spouse, to see if they may be more comfortable to you.

also, more/better foreplay may help to lubricate you naturally.

if your husband is open to it and willing to try new things to make sex more enjoyable for you, ask him to patiently explore with you and see if something works better than what you are used to doing.

also - is the sex rough? there are other ways for a man to orgasm than going hard and fast - which could be causing the pain. perhaps you should both see a sex therapist?

There are several lubricating creams that could help. Have you spoken with your Gyn about this? Your dryness (if that is the problem) could be a hormonal thing and possibly corrected with meds and/or special lubricating creams. Just a little added tidbit...not meant to be crude.....I am told that some of those lube creams...un hum....taste pretty good. Ask your husband for help in the choosing. I can tell you....it is worth it!!!!