Vasectomy vs. female birth control?

I am in a tough spot everybody...I been in a relationship for 7 mths with my boyfriend he been on my butt about using birth control pills I'm not too keen on the idea because im extremely scared of the side effects being I'm already anemic and have problems with tightness and leg swelling as it is...he gave me a choice ..he like if i don't do it he will get a Vasectomy which sounds ok...I heard its reversable but there is no guareentee that it can be reversed all the time...and so far i seen this man as my future and being with him for the long haul...he already got 2 toddler kids from a previous relationship and doesn't want anymore kids till he is mentally capable of wanting kids and living more comfortable as far as his career goes...me im not ready to have kids not sure if i want any but down the line i would like the option to have them if im ready too...i love him but im scared the procedure won't reverse..do u think his choice is a right one? help!

You should definitely consider a vasectomy as a *permanent* procedure. Sometimes they are reversible, but most insurance companies won't pay for a reversal, and they are *very* expensive. There is also *no* guarantee that the reversal will work.

If you're worried about the side effects of the pill, try an IUD. There is a copper IUD that has no hormones, and there is also one that gives a continuous low dose of hormones--you don't have to remember to take anything, the copper one can be left in for up to 12 years (the hormonal one can be left in for up to 5).

I recommend going to your OB-GYN or to your local health department and getting as much information as you can on the different types of birth control and then make an informed choice (you can also start your research on the Internet so you have some questions to take in with you). Tell your doctor your situation and get your doctor's opinion. Don't just keep using condoms because they break!

A vasectomy should NOT be considered reversible in any way, shape or form.

It is a permanent surgery. The longer after the vasectomy, the less likely a success in reversal (which is really low to begin with).

If you do not want kids with him at all, and he is done, than maybe the vasectomy is good.

Otherwise, may I suggest condoms, spermicide, cervical cap, etc. There are a lot of other methods that can be used before jumping straight to surgery.

Vasectomy.

Vascectomy is mostly permanent. A reversable is about $10,000, and no guarantee of success.

No other form of birth control is 100% effective, so if you don't want to take the pill -- maybe you shouldn't be having sex until you are married and ready for kids.

NO, you should never opt for those surgeries unless you are absolutely sure you do not want kids, chances are so slim they can be reversed and you can have an easy time of having kids if you want them. Its also from the sound of it not likely that anyone will put you on a birth control pill due to your symptoms you listed. Your only choice is to have both of you go to a planned parenthood or an OB/gyn and talk about other reliable birth control methods. You can use a sperm cream, female condom / male condom and there are tons of other choices out there. But I do not recommend you go have surgery or him either. Good Luck

If I were him, I'd have had a vasectomy a long time ago so I'd cover my own butt about getting another woman knocked up to support.

If I were you, I'd bite the bullet and go on birthcontrol because I'd know I wouldnt' want to risk getting knocked up. Talk to your doctor and see what they say - see what birth control your doctor would recommend to use wtih the already health issues you face. I have an IUD - no hormones, no pills. I'm covered for 10 years and never have to remember to take a pill or do anything.

Ofcourse, you two could just continue (I assume you do) using condoms. They're annoying, but at least neither of you would have to see any doctors for anything. After merely 7 months, I think it's ballsy of you to ask a man to go through such an operation. 7 months isn't very long.

Vasectomy. Frankly, gotta admire a guy who will volunteer for this surgery...

To be on the safe side, considering if you want the option to have children with him in the future, have him leave a few 'samples' at a sperm bank. Then if the two of you opt for a child of your own, you can have his baby via in vitro fertilization.

I didn't see it mentioned...but if HE want's (I don't see why you should have MUCH say in the matter after a just few months of dating) to get a vasectomy (which is MOST likely NOT reversable) but there is some possibility of wanting more kids down the road why not get some of his "genetic" material frozen and stored? Granted this will require artifical conception (which I'm sure ain't cheap) but it would keep the option open for future disscusion...Flip side...like others said...stick with condoms...they're pretty effective when used properly and generally don't cause much hassel.

Birth control pills carry a high-risk. A vasectomy carries almost no risk (less than getting a tattoo, or in-grown toenail removed). Recovery time, from a vasectomy is about 2-5 days. If you get female sterilization, you are taking 3-6 weeks. When you current health is thrown into the mix, it could take even longer.

A vasectomy has no side, effects, or scaring. He really does not need more kids. He should get it.

Don鈥檛 ever consider a vasectomy reversible. Reversal cost $5000, has a low success rate and it very painful, when compared to a vasectomy.

Why would you want kids anyway? They are overrated.

It is far better to regret not having children than to regret having an unwanted pregnancy.

One in five women, in the USA will choose not to. If you don鈥檛 have children you can maintain a youthful appearance into your late 40鈥檚. I know because I only date women without children.

I had my vasectomy at age 21, and have no children. I know others that have done the same. We can pass for much younger than most people with children.