What if i have vaginismus?

....that really intefer with my sex life...what do i do about it

If you have a sex life - you don't have vaginismus.

Some women with vaginismus have a history of sexual abuse, rape or other trauma and have an intense fear of further pain, penetration or violation. The tightening of the vaginal muscles may be an unconscious effort by these women to protect themselves.

Diagnosis and Treatment of Vaginismus

The diagnosis of vaginismus requires a detailed history and physical examination by a gynecologist familiar with the problem. Because vaginismus is often situation-dependent, it can be difficult to diagnose and its presence or absence during a gynecological exam is not a definitive diagnosis. For example, while involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles may prevent insertion of the penis, a pelvic exam might not be as anxiety provoking, and even insertion of a speculum might be possible. (A speculum is the instrument used to hold the walls of the vagina apart so the interior can be examined). For some women, vaginismus may occur with one partner but not with another. For others, it might occur in all situations. For an accurate diagnosis, the combination of a physical exam, gynecological history and sexual history from both partners is often necessary.

Treatment for vaginismus is promising, with research studies reporting success rates of 80% or better. Typically, treatment includes relaxation, Kegel exercises (to relax the vaginal muscles) and individual and partner involvement in a series of at-home exercises, including repeated practice with insertion (dilation) training. Each woman moves at her own pace and decides when she is ready for the next step. Pain and discomfort are avoided throughout the treatment.

Are you afraid you develop it or do you have it? If the former then don't be, relax and take things easy. If the latter, see a doctor/therapist.