I've had sex wit my bf but sumtimes he cant enter me, I clamp tightly & it hurts if he tries. Vaginismus?

I don't understand. Even if he sets the mood and we do foreplay I have trouble getting aroused. Andmy vagina closes too tightly so that he cannot enter me at all. For hours we try. help?!!

You have vaginismus. While I agree that you need to relax, just being told to do that isn't at all helpful. Here are some ways to help your body relax enough for penetration.

1. When you are first attempting penetration, you breathe out hard while pushing him in. If at any time it starts to hurt or burn, just stop where you are - don't have him pull out - breathe in and go again.

2. Vaginismus is ultimately about control. So, you be on top. That way, you have all control of penetration levels. Once he is in, and you are comfortable, then you can flip around and be acrobatic if need be.

Worse comes to worse, you will need dilator therapy to overcome this. There are various yahoo support groups that you can join and talk to other vaginismus sufferers. Good luck.

Thank you very much, this was very helpful info. Report It

i think that you are trying to hard, relax and let things take its course. You get all stressed out and when you don't get aroused and your body reacts. so the next time don't think of intercourse think of all the pleasure of the forplay and i bet you will see that all will end well,

u r tighting up your muscles in your vagin....... just relax

I dont know your age, or if u have ever had a bad sexual experience, or ur feelings toward this guy. But I would bet its nerves, you have some issue or u really dont want him or u r not really ready for sex, u r the only one who can answer this, I wish I could be more help, but without more info that the best I can do. I will say I doubt this is a physical issue, so please if any of the above apply, answer it honestly to yourself, if its a mental issueisuch as u have been abused, had a bad sexual iexperience etc. please see a Dr. and talk this thru U may want some counseling as well, it will help and u will have a normal sex life. Now if its u r not ready for sex then stop! If he cares he will wait, if not let him go! If its u really dont want to with him then u know u r with the wrong guy, or having sex for the wrong reasons. Believe it or not stress will cause u even without u knowing it to tighten ur muscles which include the vagina as well! If u r older than u should remember ur 1st pap test I do, I was so tense and stressed the Dr. had to keep talking to me and telling me to relax, why do u think so many obgyns have music, and a calming picture on their ceiling. Hope this has helped.