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Why doesnt he want to have sex with me?


ok...i had some issues with vaginismus that we have treated together and we were having sex every day....it was amazing, now my boyfriend wont touch me. i have done everything, i remove pubic hair, shave legs and underarms, brush teeth, i even come to bed with my hair wet because he likes it. he always has some excuse. i am so tired of trying to iniciate and just want him to want me...what is wrong with us?

vaginismus is where the muscles around the vagina contract subconsciously makeing penitration painful, and sometimes impossible.

hi dear
sorry to hear that!
in my opinion:
the best thing is speaking to each other and find the reasons he may have in his mind.we cant say for sure but i have some assumptions here:
1)he maybe thinks he cant satisfy u enough.
2)he didnt want to harm u.some boys think that is harmful!!
3)do u treat him good while u have sex??
4)do u try to arouse him??
5)maybe he is shamed of u!because:he now thinks he is responsible for u or maybe in love with u!or maybe (that is hard to say but i just wan to give u a guide.try not to prejudge.make sure about it first)he has another girl friend,and he is a shamed of u what he has done!
and so many others!
but above all is that:
u should speak with him,ask him why.
u are the best one who can find the reason.
good luck

ask him straight out what his problem is and weather he is seeing some1 else if he replies with "i wont dignify that question with an answer" then he is definitely cheating!
althuogh he could have a problem that he is too embarrassed to talk about. tell him that u have noticed his behaviour around you at night and that if he needs to discuss any thing with you, you'll always be there for him. if this doesnt work well,,,, your ******!

He was good with me last night

Dear, this is something that must be talked about between you and your boyfriend, straight out. Communication is the key to most problems in relationships and this is a biggie. Sit him down and get it done, maybe he's afraid of hurting you, could be something very simple. Good luck

cause he have a new Girl in his life he cheat on you

Oh girl, this is something unusual for both of you, before your relationship sound good right? Perfectly you need to confront him why does he act this way, why does she cold when you are trying to make him hot. try to ask him what are the reason why he treats you such this, and just feel your boyfriend or monitor him everytime he's out. Ok so i hope that you and ur bf can make a resolution for this..good luck

ask him for answer.

The way yo described what you do to get ready has got me horny for you(love wet hair). Sounds like he has psychological problems or he has found some on else. Talk to him about it. Communication is the key found out what's going on.

You just need to talk to him about... no one else can tell you what's wrong with him... he has gotta tell you himself.

Get a lover who will be considerate of you

You should probably fellate him almost to the point of climax, then make sure you use plenty of lube just before intercourse. You could also try anal as well...

has ther bin somthing that u done that he shouldent know about and he cought u like CHEATING

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