I am too tight; i can't have sex. does anyone know a good cure for this? [real answers]?

yes, i can wear tampons; the skinny kind and it kind of hurts when i wear them. i have posted questions before about this. i think i have vaginismus. people say just have sex to stretch it out or get fingered but i cant even do that. i know i could spend a lot of money on sites, but does anybody have this and have overcome it or knows how to.. please help!

Maybe you should find a guy who's small enough not to hurt you.

if there is pain whilst inserting a tampon, it may not be just because you are tight, there can be other factors, even infections... see your doctor now

try some lubricant. and you have to stay calm. if you can get a tampon in then your ok. Just work with yourself.

I would agree that you see a doctor. It may be that you are not well lubricated or you maybe need to be widened slightly.

Ok, there are several things you can do, before you insert a tampon, or have sex (or anything to do with that area), you should relax, take a deep breath and relax your vaginal muscles. If they are tightened when you go to insert, it will be painful. In regards to sex and fingering etc, use lube.

I have endometriosis which is bad at the moment, so my ovaries are glued to the walls of my bowel and other abdominal organs, so when I have sex, its painful... but I relax, and I communicate with my partner and we just take things slowly...sex isnt a sprint, its a marathon!

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Good luck!

There are alot of over the counter jellies, creams, etc. for this problem. You can also discuss this with your physican if you have already tried these, there is a surgical prodcure for this problem.

Are you a tense person usually? Sometimes it's this tension and not being able to fully relax that makes you so tight. Try self-exploration, caressing yourself and stuff xD and helping your lil friend relax cos well that's what they're supposed to do... relax and tighten/expand on demand... or something like it.

you're going to need to be eased into it to work those muscles out.
make sure when you do have sex, you are relaxed, and turned on, so it's a well lubricated easier fit!
:)

there are just too many answers, better and more lube. there's got to be thousands of positions, try some more of them. forget penises, you and your partner can try playing with objects, tongues, and fingers.

or my personal recommendation: guys with small penises. what do you say?

I am a male with a condition which means that penetrative sex is impossible (it's not contagious) , although i always enjoyed giving oral to a female more than penetration anyway. I am finding it very difficult to find a female who is open to a relationship without penetrative sex.
Does anyone know of a contact group for males + females who can't have penetrative sex, but would still like a fulfilling relationship?
If there isn't one, i'm thinking of setting one up.....would anybody be interested???? The site would be password-protected, and you wouldn't need to give contact details to me (apart from an e-mail addy), although i would probably charge 拢5/US$10 to put off time-wasters (and to pay for the cost of running a site).
Maybe if 10 people or so say they are interested i will get to work setting it up.....