Is first time having sex suppose to hurt this bad?

it happened thurs&its already sat well...sunday.the pain subside in comparison to fri but it was completely unbearable what i felt.it hurt a LOT& i was seriously regrettin it.i felt like i was having cramps but WORSE pain& i culdnt do nething to ease the pain except dose on motrin.evry time i had to pee,it burned....i walk sort of funny.it bothered me at times wen i sit down...&i felt "loose".i spent 4 hours in the bathroom sittin on the toilet becus i was in so much pain whenever i tried to sit in a chair.it acutally woke me up in the morning & i couldnt go back to sleep becus of it...it might be teh weather too or somethign but i culdnt stop feeling cold which made the throbbing worse so i had to sit on the toilet 2 ease the pain n try to catch some Zzz's at the same time.
is it suppose to hurt THIS bad?im thinking it might be tis: http://sogc.org/health/health-vaginismus...
or tat the guy was too rough n forced himself too fast..we had trouble finding the hole,it was really tight

OOF i really hope its not a bladder infection because..i cant go to a doctor, my parents arent suppose to know about this! lol im NOT underage, im perfectly legal its more like i have conservative parents and they'll KILL me if they find out

i get the burning after i pee.i think its more like when the urine makes contact with my vagina it sends off a burning sensation because of the salt in it..and since it was my first time, it was like ripped open lol
but,sometimes i feel like i need to go but its not even that bad but because of the throbbing,the pain is bad,that i HAVE to go. i somewhat cant control my bladder..
OMG i really hope its not a bladder infection. i would like to curse right now.

do u also think its about the size?& the fact that i was really tense..we had to keep on trying to get it to go in and it would keep on slipping out
maybe fi we tried ot a little more each time instead of all at once huh?
MAN! why am i the one suffering??rather unfair

Yes, it can hurt a lot, and can hurt for several days. I had problems my first time too. Oils and lubes help a lot. I would guess you are just bruised and it will take some time for those bruises to heal, but I'm not a doctor. However there are sites that you can go to where doctors answer your questions. If you would like to talk more about the subject you can email me. I'd be happy to help you, and give you some tips/positions to ease the pain next time. i promise it does get better though.

tough..

Yes, somewhat sounds like my first time.
When you have sex, you really need to take it slow at first...
start out gentle and work your way up.
Tell your partner when it hurts and tell him to stop or slow down
or be more gentle with you.
Try to sustain from sex for a few days til you recover.
Also, if it hurts to pee, you have a UTI [aka. bladder infection]
it is can be caused by sex.
ALWAYS pee after having sex to prevent that.
Now, head to your doctors to get medication for your bladder infection, if left untreated....it can cause serious health defects.
Good luck dear!!!!
and stay healthy

It will wear off. The first time was rough for me. Something similar happened. It will subside.

The burning could be from a bladder infection.. Sometimes rough intercourse can cause them. If your not better by Monday I would call your Dr. No it shouldn't be that bad at all!

yea it's wack but sometimes people or i guess only girls react very negatively physically in response to their "first time". Although it may bleed, blister, or burn, although I've honestly never heard of burning as a common side-effect, this does seem possible, you still have to realize it's just a result of the stretching the skin must do. If you've ever pierced or gauged your ear, you know how it feels to penetrate and tear away at skin when it is in the way of inserted objects.. tell him to be more careful next time and go slower/softer rather than faster and harder :-D

yes it is.

It didn't hurt that much for me. There was a little bit of soreness the next day, but that was all. You might have had a thicker than average hymen, or an unusually small opening. If you were nervous or not turned on at all, that could have made it more difficult. It's possible that the guy you were with was really well endowed too, and that you were too inexperienced to realize it.

You should soak in some warm water, and you can use ice packs down there (wrap it in a towel first of course so it doesn't freeze your skin)...that's what helps a lot of women after they have babies.

If you keep feeling a burning sensation when you pee, and it seems to be from where the pee comes from, and not from the area right around the vaginal opening, that could be a UTI, which needs to be treated with antibiotics. You mentioned feeling cold, which could be a fever and could indicate an infection.

You might want to see a gynecologist before you have sex again...both to make sure everything's all right down there, and to get a prescription for birth control. You didn't mention how old you are but the gynecologist wouldn't tell your parents you've been having sex, if that's an issue.