What can cause Dysparennia (painful sex)? And how can I make it stop?

I've been sexually active for slightly over a year. I've only been with one person and he's only been with me. I know I don't have an STD. We don't have problems with lubrication. We just started having this problem these last few months.

For me it hurts sometimes and sometimes it doesn't when he first enters me (this is always done really really slowly). If it doesn't hurt in the beginning I'm ok for a little while. But after a few minutes (I think about 15-20) it starts to become very painful. From his point of view he says that I'm really really tight, to a painful point for him sometimes. The more painful it is for me the tighter I always am. I've read a little bit about this, Vaginismus, but I've never been sexually assaulted which is when it usually occurs.

If you've experienced it, how did you get it to stop? And what causes this?

I'm going to go the the DR but I just wanted to have some info. & wanted to know why it happens

Thanks for your answers. Have a good night!

And I've never given birth either.

I would do some self exploring & see if, it hurts when you do it. It is good you're going for a check up to see if, it's not a physical problem.
Below are a couple of good books to read.

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its nice to hear that someone else suffers from the same thing as i do. i havent found a way to stop it,ive never had this with my exs just my current boyfriend, it constantly feels like hes too big for me n if we have sex its really painful after, but i find that the more i have sex with him the easier it gets and less painful. also plenty of lube helps, and maybe a glass of wine or 2. some other things my friends told me to try which i havent got round to because my bfs away is taking 2 ibuprofen about 15 minutes before so it doesnt hurt so bad after. according to alot of people the whole "pain" thing is your body acting to the fact you think its going to be painful because it has been before....so maybe thats what you have?, i say try the wine and plenty of lube, the wine will relax you and the lube will make the whole experience more pleasant, that way you will know if its just you not being relaxed enough or whether you do really have a problem down there. good luck!

hi, how r u?
dnt wory abt it.
now you do one thing you take one bottle of empty wine and the upper part you put in your pussy and make it bigger

after doing that i think it will not pain



bye and take care

First, you don't have vaginismus - yet. If you continue to have intercourse and experience pain, it is certainly possible that you could develop vaginismus. This disorder associates pain with any kind of penetration, and requires therapy to overcome. It would be far easier for you to immediately stop any kind of intercourse and consult your doctor.

It could be that you have an undiagnosed UTI, and the friction irritates it after a few minutes.