How do you cope with the family member being diagnosed the last stage of cancer?

My cousin got sick a month ago, and yesterday she was already diagnozed with the last stage of the uterine cancer. How do you cope with that? My family is devastated, and I feel hopeless.

hi there my husband is in the last stages of lung and liver cancer so i do know what you are going thro. i cannot say be positive as everybody keeps telling me this they do not have a clue. only close family take day by day that's all i can tell you and if you feel like screaming do it

my thoughts are with you. kind regards Christina

I'm sooo sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. In order to cope with it you basically have to accept it. I know it's hard, but you have to think about a few things:

1.) Don't give up hope... if you all give up, she may give up
2.) Help her as much as you can... fill her head with positive thoughts, don't talk about the bad, talk about the good
3.) Stick with your family, be there for each other, help each other through this
4.) Stay strong... no matter how hard it is on you, it'll be harder on her to watch you all suffer so bad
5.) Become educated on her options, how long she has, and the details of last stage uterine cancer - educating yourselves may help you understand how, and why this is happening

I hope this helps a little bit. Hang in there, I wish you and your entire family nothing but the best! Keep your head up no matter what obstacle is thrown at you. As a family, you will get through this tough time. :-)

Well there is no real answer for this. Sometimes it helps to do research on your own to be able to understand this sickness. I am sure that the doctors are doing everything they can in their power. The stronger you are for your cousin the stronger your cousin will be. Crying and crying and being sad is not going to help her at all. Pick yourself up and your family and be there for her and make sure to tell her to not let this sickness beat her. That's when you sometimes see people getting better. You have to be strong and stop thinking about this in a devastating way you have to think about your cousin and what God planned for her in worst case...I wish you good luck and please be strong for her and you will make your cousin strong. My father and two sisters beat cancer in the last stages...trust me...even if it doesn't work. You know you tried and your cousin knows you tried.

Much love

Don't give up, pray, be very supportive of your cousin. Just being there to talk with her or even sit there and do nothing is good. Spend as much time as you can with her. Cancer is very hard on the family. I put my husband in the hospital one day and 4 days later had to tell my children that Dad was not going to live but a few days longer. He passed away one week after I took him to the hospital.I wish your family the strength to get through this. I wish your cousin the strength to fight with everything she has.

The unfortunate truth is that you can't really help your cousin in any definitive sense. Because he/she has to travel this road alone. Even though your cousin may have hundreds of people around, your cousin will be the only one receiving treatment or undergoing surgery. He/she will go it alone. It is too easy to say to just be there and blah blah blah. As a cancer patient myself I can tell you that many times people over-compensate. People act abnormal and smother you because they think that you want them to wait on you hand and foot. That is not the case. The truth is that a cancer patient wants to feel normal. They want to feel like they did before they knew that they had cancer. Because having cancer makes them think about dying and nobody likes to think about that. The best way to explain it to you is to be around and listen when your cousin wants you to be around and listen, and leave him/her alone when he/she asks you not to be around. and limit your discussion about cancer. Treat him/her the same exact way you always would/have/will and your cousin will thank you for it.

Just try to keep their hopes up - trust me they could just pull through! Some amazing discoveries have been made now so you never know do you?

Try going to church every Sunday and praying for her - I sure am.