Is there any syndrome where a teen boy falls in love with ONLY sad/depressive girls? or what is this :\?

Well..its been there since i was around 11 years old

i just see a girl.,..with just seeing her, my brain notices that she is depressed and she immediately gains my affection.

its weird...it always happends..even know that i have a gf (who is depressed)

they just draw my attention, as if i really wanted to see them happy

maybe its cuz im kiinda depreesssed to...over the years my self teem has diminshed and my grades have lowered...

still, nobody has ever truly considered me a looser, and i gt around 86% averages...
and i think that this mental health deterioration is closely related, is cuz of, or causes this weird thing...


i even notice that, the only 6 girls ive started to fall in love with, have some psychological patterns, physical characteristics, and things like that...

i read that i should forget it all and restart(thats all it said)...but...im not leaving my gf...

any toughts or ideas, solutions, experiences or whatever :\?

its dooming my brain...keeps happening
thx

It is called codependency. Your mother was probably depressed.

Read about it, learn about it and heal from it.

Take my word for it, your attraction for depressed girls will create nothing but bad relationships.

I have known someone else who also did this. He would always pick people with mental problems because it made him happy to make them laugh. It is really no different to picking someone who makes you happy for a different reason. No one really wants to be with someone who is so successful that they make them feel inadequate. We all pick people who make us feel good whatever the reason.

The problem my friend had was that when he made a girl feel good about herself and she got over her depression (which sometimes happens but not always) then she would not need him any longer and the relationship would break up.

Also some mental problems escalate and become difficult to manage. When you consider that you might bring children into that situation it becomes more serious as it could have consequences for them.

There;s a number of things it could be, you could be seeing something about yourself in them, or you could have a superman complex. You could just want to save women and lets face it, helping someone with a mental illness is one of the greatest challenges out there. It can also be your family life, if you grew up around people like that, that is what you are going to feel comfortable with. And like I said before you might jsut see yourself in them, it seems easier for people to solve other people's problems and not their own. And also people with certain character traits attract other people with those character traits, hence the reason why group therapy and counceling is so popular nowadays. The main thing is that there is no wrong in being attracted to these types of women, except if it is cause emotional or physical harm to you. And dont cheat on your girlfriend, you can be there for someone without dating them. Everyone needs a friend. Hope this helps.

I don't think it is unnatural or mental, or disorder at all.

You see, animals belonging to some group have distingushed kind of behavior, pattern, concerning mating. For example, male dolphins play wounded to get the attention of a female.

The only unnatural behavior for mating is the human behavior, because humas have no distingushed behavior, a pattern, so you can't define what is normal.

Another thing:
"Depressed" people usually have a kind of depth related to the finding the meaning of life, so their "depression" are the nihilistic phases. Our society admits nihilism only as an artistic expression, it is not incorporated anywhere and generally is thought of as unhealthy. Moreover, people do not persist too long in that phase, they "recover" and are ready for an "existencialist" phase (supported by our society).

So, there are swings in lifes for those deep souls.