Depressed 2??

Thanks everyone who answered my last question but I have more....
I asked about eating my way out of depression because my grandmother would say things that make me depressed such as people she has known for less then a year giving them sentimental things when I specifically ask for them.. A few of the answers where to find other things to do then eat and place what my problem was but I have a hard time admitting my feelings and I feel I have no one to talk to I am a early teen and don't feel that it is nessesary to go to a mental health clincic and I feel stupid telling my mom who should I talk to (plz don't say a school counseler I don't have one) and what do I say I feel bad talking to my grandmother about it because she always just ignores it ~! what do I DO?

Boy can I sympathize!

Please don't try to eat your way out of feeling bad. That can lead to an eating disorder.

Maybe it would be easier to talk to someone that you don't know like hotlines for teens, eating disorders [you really don't want one], depression.

Even if you don't go to church, you could still talk to a local priest, preacher, rabbi. They can't talk to anyone else about what you talk to them about.

And I bet your grandmother isn't really ignoring you. Older people, like my own grandmother, are really set in their ways and beliefs and it's really hard for them to change. She's probably feeling every bit as frustrated as you. That wouldn't necessarily make her wrong, just who she is.

http://www.dbsalliance.org
The Depression and Bipolar Alliance has locals numbers and support groups for you.
Try them.

Forget the grandmother, she isn't any help. You should go to the mental health cllinic. they are really good there. They don't judge you. Its better to have someone you don't know. Its all kept confidential. She may get you to go to group therapy. I would go for it. Your so young and have a long life ahead of you. Why spend it feeling that way... Life is so beautiful and precious.

I don't know what your last question was but you should never feel stupid talking to your mother about anything. I know there are some things we don't like to share with our mothers but let me tell you a mother is the best person in the world you can talk too. They don't judge you and you can trust them like no one else!!!! Remember a mother's love for their child is unbelievable and feels like no other love you could experience. I think your mom might be able to help you more than you could ever imagine. Good Luck

I really think you should see someone. I put off seeing a psychologist for years and it finally caught up with me this past year when I ended up in the crisis center and realized that I had to do something for myself. I've been seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist regularly, and you wouldn't believe how much better I've been doing. I've lost 25 pounds, come out of a deep depression, learned to deal with severe anxiety, been treated and continue to do so for ADHD, quit smoking, and cut down on drinking (I'd try to self medicate with alcohol) in the last three months. I think that you realizing that you have a problem is an amazing first step. You have to want to help yourself, because no one else will do it for you. If your insurance won't pay for a therapist, they probably will for a psychiatrist (they're MD's). Don't wait to do something, you should be enjoying your teen years!

I feel for you. What your Grandmother did is spiteful- and that must hurt. Eating more/less than your body requirements is not going to boost your mood, or help you deal with this or any problems.
It may help to seek a hobby, join a group, focus on something pleasureable for you. Do you like any sport, dance, writing, crafts,which keep your hand/ming going- crochet/knit. Do you have an option in your school to learn an instrument? It always helps to talk to someone who understands. Do you have a good friend/friends?

Okay, based on how you describe things, your grandmother is no help to you and seems actually toxic for you. You should try to minimize the contact you have with her as much as possible.

I know you don't want to hear this, but you really should talk to your mom. You're too young to really get good help without the guidance of one of your parents. You need your mom to help take you to a doctor, arrange appointments for you, find a therapist, etc.

As you can tell, I am really encouraging you to see a therapist or doctor. Probably you should start with a doctor -- it could be your regular general practitioner -- to see if she or he thinks you have symptoms of Depression. If you do, the doctor may refer you to a psychiatrist for treatment, or a psychologist/therapist, or both.

don't be afraid to get the help you need. If you feel consistently unhappy this way (and it seems like your unhappiness is more than just teenage hormones) you should definitely get help. You don't have to feel this way!

Good luck. The earlier responder's suggestion about a support group was a great idea.

that's why i don't talk to my grandmothers. i just say hi and bye. relax that's not very important. close your eyes and look in to your heart what makes you happy. is not the end of life. i know that there are other things you need to worry and they might be more important which makes you happy...

You need to talk to your parents about it.

See the section on depression treatments/resources at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2.