Why would a samaritan woman quash my hopes and dreams like this ?

i phoned the helpline last night because i was feeling lonely and low, i talked to her about my unfortunate life, the fact i have borderline personality disorder...the fact i'd had a terrible run at life so far...that id bullied growing up, suffered sexual abuse, assaults,.. muggings....time in a psychiatric unit etc.

i told her i was 30 now and still had hopes, goals and dreams, even though i'd been unfortunate enough to miss out being employed...gaining qualifications.....making any friends...and never having a girlfriend or partner.

i told her my goals were to move back to europe and get a fresh start, a clean slate...to live in a little village with a job, a home...find a girlfriend etc, in a non comercialized part of europe.
she laughed at me in a mocking way & said how am i going to do that? with the disadvantages i'm at...because id never worked...got a mental health history etc..

she said i have to be realistic, & said i can try, but i don't have a chance, then she laughed

iam extremely hurt by her words, i feel deflated...

shes made me feel even more trapped here in this
situation in britain than i already feel.

made me feel like i'll never leave my one bedroom apartment
living of welfare benifits coping with BPD.

how should i handle this ?

dont take what she said to heart..some people just say things because they are ignorant.. i think your plans are good and you should try to fullfil your goals cause life is short so we must live to the fullest extent.you shouldn't blame yourself entirely, sometimes its just as simple as asking for help,maybe someone will come along who is willing to help you out.

The first thing you should do is call the hotline again and let them know what the woman said to you, ask to speak to a manager.

You should report her to the help line. That was not helpful. She probably should not be in that job.

I am sorry she was so negative to you. Don't let it get you down. It is never to late to better your life. Good luck.

Quit whining!!! Get a life!!!! Get a job!!!! nobody likes a looser!!!

sorry
i dont know how she got hired.
a proffesional counselor would be better for you.

She was out-of-line.

The Samaritans are there to be helpful. I would recommend calling them back and asking to speak to someone in management. Tell him/her the time and date or your call (I don't know if they give out their names over the phone; but if they do, by all means give the manager the person's name) and tell said manager what happened. It will probably make you feel better about yourself if you know that you did what you could to keep this kind of thing from happening again. It is one if a Samaritan tries to remind someone that they need to be realistic, but it is entirely out of the question for them to be that rude and laugh at you.

We all have our situations, some better then yours, and some worse. What that woman did was wrong. She puts herself in a position to help others, and then shoots down your goals as if they are unimportant.

Well here are the facts. Your goals ARE unimportant, at least to anyone other then yourself and those that care about you. It is YOU, that you need to justify these goals, and it is FOR you that you need to strive to reach your goals.

Yes...you are at a disadvantage, but in this life, ANYTHING is possible for ANYBODY.

Call that helpline again, and speak to someone else about her treatment of you. Once you handle that, set small goals for yourself, but goals which will get you closer to your one main goal. Sooner or later, you will have made that journey. If you never make it, well at least you can rest peacefully knowing you gave it your all, no matter how the odds where stacked against you.

Good luck.....