What can i do if my psychiatrist has told me he doesnt think meds are usefull to me to treat the symptoms of?

borderline personality disorder?
i experience rage feelings that ive had for a long time..flashbacks to traumatic events.racing thoughts that spin and leave me confused and muddled everyday. low moods every day, bleakness, hoplessness and dispair..feelings that people are against me, out to make me fail...constant inner rage...flashbacks to painfull memories of the past, bullying throughout highschool, abuse, sexual abuse, being assaulted countless times in the street by gangs.. memories of being in a psych hospital for 18 months.....i cant organise myself because of the constant racing thoughts, whirl of thoughts of everything spinning through my mind constantly.. feeling unmotivated, suicidle....ive never made any friends in life..myself esteems been destroyed....ive never been employed...& i still have high goals i wanna achieve...relocating from the uk is the top one...
but my psychiatrist has refered me for therapy but is reluctant to perscribe any meds. hes said the ones that

work, the meds that do work are very addictive.
thats the argument their giving...
and im saying these symptoms are very dibilitating and
are impairing my ability to function and to be able to go outside
and live my life......i stay in everyday because of the inner rage
feelings and the fear ill lose control...
does anyone know what i should do in this situation when the
medical services are telling me this?

What you are describing about yourself, is not a personality disorder. It is more like PTSD that you have from the things that have been done to you in your life. You also have OCD..both of these things CAN be overcome with good therapy, and medications...OCD, is actually caused by a lack of serotonin, and is a mineral lacking in your life...the constant flashbacks, the spinning, the paranoia,..the memories..these are NOT personality disorders...these are the result in the abuse you withstood as a child. I would go to the emergency room, tell them you are extrememly distrought, tired of getting no help..and tired of suffering, and that you have a doctor, but you believe that he has diagnosed you wrong...you could get some Luvox, and some xanax,...and that would at least help with your OCD,..and the uncontrollable thoughts you have...the xanax will calm you down when you feel anxious, it is a life saver for that...and then, with some kind therapy, and learning how to deal with life in general, and the people who did this to you,..you will be fine..but I can say, that you do NOT suffer from some sort of borderline personality disorder that you were born with...not at all...ask yourself this...if your life had been different,...if you had been born into say a rich family, with loving protective parents. would you feel the same way today? NO YOU WOULD NOT..you would have the things that bother you taken care of...you would not be concerned about the things that frighten you and upset you and anger you...think about it

Actually he is right. Medications are not all that helpful for BPD or any personality disorders ~ therapy is the answer. Since your behaviors are ingrained in your personality, they are not changed by medication. Medication changes brain chemistry, not personality traits.

Your best bet is to find someone who specializes in intensive therapy or DBT. Both these methods will help you overcome your issues and personality traits.

Riptide_71 is right. Intensive therapy is the only real answer. Give it a serious try. Go in believing it will help and work very hard. You will notice a difference. If you are at the point that you are completely desparate, consult your psychiatrist about TEMPORARY medication for the period that you are beginning your therapy. If he still disagrees, seek a second opinion, but make certain that you are giving therapy a real go.

Anything that will drug you will probably prolong your recovery. It will just push everything back, and then your problem would be subconscious and would lead to worse things. You have been in a lot of situations where you had no control. Most people will respond to this by being aggressive and controlling. You should look into hypnotherapy. It might help you bring those memories to the surface in a setting where you can control them. Any therapies that work for PTSD might help too. When you can control your thoughts you can control your emotions. Drugs wont control your thoughts.

I can imagine that it must be debilitating and frustrating to feel like you do.
I agree with riptide that medication is not necessarily the answer. Give the therapy a good chance to work, it can be a very useful tool if you allow it to be. Have you tried contacting you local MIND group? They are often very helpful and can get you impartial advice, advocacy (if you need it) help with finances (which often get in a muddle when you are feeling so bad), and just give you a reason to get up every day. They have befriending schemes which may be helpful, and drop in centres, all sorts of activities which will give you something to do.
There is a way forward, you just need to find the path that suits you. Good luck.
I have included the link to MIND in case you want to see what they can offer.

I work as a child/youth therapist in a mental health clinic and the adult team here uses Dialectical Behavior Therapy with borderline patients which is a longer term treatment than most counselling models. There is lots of information available on-line to describe and find clinics which use this model. Medications may be used for concurrent disorders, but this therapy does not specifically make use of medications as much as the long-term relationship with the therapist. Look into it, it has had much success for BPD clients.

Borderline PD's tend to be resistant to change, medication eleviates "presenting" problems. But can't counter the personality conditions of development.

Long term psychotherapy with a confrontive / reality based therapists is truly the only thing that seems to have any consistent efficacy with borderlines.

May be he's right. You have said yourself that at times you feel they are not helping. One thing I will tell you is don't go cold turkey. It is not a pretty sight. I worked with mentally slow boys, back in the 80's. The government decided they did not need the medicine on, so they removed the medical orders. Have you every seen a nineteen year going cold turkey after taking the medication for most of his life. It was a heavy tranquilizer, I had lay in the floor and hold him ( in the basket hold because he was fighting all the time). After forty-five minutes he calmed enough to be released, only to have to be placed back in the basket hold for about the same amount of time on the second shift. If you are wandering what the basket hold is, it is the crossing of the arms across the stomach and grabbing the wrist by the staff. After two days they let us use small amounts to calm and later to remove the medicine. I told you one time you do not know what I have seen. To quote a old movie "The horror!!!"

listen friend, i think that you probably have a substance abuse problem because i am 41 and i have abused drugs for over 20 years. what we both need is SOMEONE WHO WILL ALLOW US TO TELL OUR STORIES! whether or not you want to hear mine, please tell me yours; leave out anything that you can't deal with now and maybe later it will be ok. anyway, you have my address... peace* love* healing

you could change your psychiatrist,or try a psychologist -
maybe some occupational therapy may help,as a stepping stone

GO BACK ASK DEEPER QUESTIONS

Snap out of it and stop being such a pathetic little drama queen.

Try getting attention by accomplishing something instead of whimpering for pity because you're pretending to be "Broken." Your father should take a belt to your behind and teach you to stop being such a whiny little brat.