Did you have a parent or spouse die of cancer? How old were they?

My mom died of over a week ago. She died on her 64th birthday. She had breast cancer, but died of sepsis. She was diagnosed 3 years ago and it seems that she suffered for about the last 4 months.

I miss her.

I am very very sorry for your loss. I am 34 and my father died of cancer when he was 52 (it will be five years ago this Thanksgiving). He was originally diagnosed with arthritis. When things weren't responding to treatment he went back to the doctor and was told that x-rays showed lumps in his legs and neck. He should have gone for further testing but he was scared and in denial I think and so he blew it off. Things got progressively worse amazingly quickly and when doctors finally told us what was really wrong with him (he hadn't told any of us about any of this) it was far too late. He had a very aggressive form of cancer called spindle cell sarcoma which attacked his bones and muscles.

I do still miss him of course. I don't think that that will ever go away. But things do get better, slowly but surely, day by day. It helps to talk to people and just let things out whenever you need to-don't hold it in. That first year after my father's death I made no apologies to anyone if I felt like just breaking down and crying right then and there. People understood.

That following summer I lost my grandfather (my father's father) to complications due to lung cancer and three months after that I lost my grandmother (my father's mother) to colon cancer which doctors believed metastasized from her lymphoma. Both grandparents were 74 and had battled their cancers for several years. I wasn't going to mention them as well but I saw on here that several other people have had multiple cancers in their families and I suddenly felt not alone in the intense grief I felt that whole year. Nor are you alone. People understand what you are going through and empathize.

God bless.

No I have not. Sorry to hear about your mom.

mom 46 , dad 72 , both cancer.

Your not alone. My Mother died at 54 of lung cancer.

Very sorry for your loss.

My mom died when she was 78 of Lymphoma and my dad when he was 73 of liver cancer. My mother-in-law died of breast cancer when she was 71. I miss them all very much. Hang in there, it does get better with time.

I'm sorry. My Dad was 55 when we lost him to colon cancer. He fought it for about three years. Over time, the grief will pass, but that was 16 years ago and I still miss him. Stay Strong.

Sorry to hear about your mom. Mine died when she was 58. Wasn't really the cancer that got her though...it was a urinary tract infection that she was too weak to fight off.

I know what you mean about missing her though...mine has been gone for 21 years, and I still miss her as much now as I did then.

Take care of yourself.

My grandmother died about 9yrs ago from melanoma. She was 69 yrs old. And she was diagnosed about 4-5 yrs before she died.
She had a tumor behind her eye, so they removed her eye. And about a year later they found the skin cancer.
She was in chemo until they gave her 3-6 months to live, and a week later she passed away.
They later told us they thought she had 3-6 months to live when they first diagnosed her and she lived 4 yrs after the initial diagnosis.
It was devestating because I was 14 and she was my mother, I grew up with my grandparents, not my parents.

my grandfather died awhile back and he was 72......sorry about your mother......

My dad died with cancer 4 months before he turned 70. He had colon cancer and was diagnosed in November and passed away in March.

So sorry for your loss, it sounds a she is better off now, not in pain anymore. My father passed away a long time ago of colon cancer. he was 35 years old. i was 17. still at times it seems like yesterday. I miss him too and all the things he has missed out on in real life.However I keep my memories of him alive by telling my kids of him, and in my heart I know he is always there. Hopefully time can ease the pain for you, it did me. my prayers go out to you.

My father passed away 5 years ago at age 65 as the result of very fast growing colon cancer. It is always a very difficult ordeal to lose a parent or any other family member. My dad was diagnosed in November and given 2 months to live by the doctors. He lasted just over 6. The last couple months were very hard, as the cancer spread to other organs, and he was in severe pain. Cancer is an insidious and treacherous disease, and tough to beat, depending on the type and how soon it is diagnosed.

I am hoping that the cure for this disease will be found at some point during my lifetime.

One more thing...there is a strong genetic tie with cancers, so I suggest you be very dilligent about yearly mammograms to ensure you have the upper hand on any possibility that you may contract the disease as well.

I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your beloved mother. My mom passed away from colon cancer when she was 38 years-old; three days after my 17th birthday. It's been over 33 years and I still miss her (always miss her)...

My sympathy is with you, I had a father die when he was 58 of Prostrate Cancer. The loss of a parent is always a sad time and all I can suggest is to let the grieving process occur because the sooner you let it all out the better and then you can get on with the remembering bit, that is remembering all the good times and all the teaching you received from your parent. Life is unfortunately something that has an end in a physical way but thoughts and memories can always go on forever. Have you thought of doing something special that will always make you remember your mother. Plant a tree a big tree that will become even bigger over the years.Then whenever you think of her you can go visit the tree and think, talk or whatever you want to do with her in mind. Good Luck.

I'm truly sorry to learn of your mom's passing. Both my parents had cancer and I'll always feel as if part of me is missing. The shock must have been terrible for you,losing your mom on her birthday. I don't know what else to say to you at this time,because words mean nothing to you when your grief is still so new and raw. But believe me when I say this,I'm thinking of you and no doubt many other messages will be on their way to you,saying the same thing from those of us who have felt the same pain as you. You can only take it one day at a time. Thinking of you

Yes, My Mom died at age 65 with liver cancer, one week before Thanksgiving of '99. My 2nd son was born 2 weeks after my Mom passed away. I missed her very much. Some time I felt like I haven't done enough for her, but truly, I did. I'm sorry to hear your lost. Don't forget, she'll always be in your heart and memories.

I lost both my parents when I was 7. My father had a massive coronary & this was unexpected. My mother died of cancer. They were both 42 years old. It's been many years ago but I still miss them both every single day.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Time will make it easier to find coping tools & it will take the edge off the grief, but you will always feel the absense of your loved ones....and after so many years, I'm finally glad because unlike some who lost parents even younger than me that don't even remember them. I've never forgotten.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in March of 1995. The doctors gave him 1-2 years with treatment, both radiation and chemotherapy, but they were wrong. The cancer had spread to his brain also. He died December 30, 1995. My dad was 57 years old when he passed away.

I still miss him, but as the years have passed, the grief is not as severe as it was. I hope time will help ease your sorrow too.

My great grandmother passed away in the Summer of 2002 from stomach cancer, then my grandfather in late Fall of lung cancer that same year. My great grandmother was about 73 and my grandpa about 61. It was kindof hard that year - starting school and everything. I think I missed a month and a half of my first year of highschool visiting my grandpa. I think about them sometimes and the memories.

I'm sorry about your loss. I couldn't imagin my mom with "any" kind of cancer. It would just be too hard. But on the bright side, time will heel all wounds and you'll gain strength from all this - I did.
Everything's going to be okay

I'm so sorry. Yes, I lost my dad when he was 52 years old. It was very hard and he fought a long battle. That feeling of loss will never go away, but it will get better. My heart goes out to you!

my mom died 1994.she had breast cancer and spread thru her body.she was 78.my brother 35 died in 1985.he had lmyphona.my daughter 32 died in jan.she had sarcoma tumor and it traveled to her lungs.

My mom died 1 year ago.

yes, my father. I was 8yrs old and he died on his 40th birthday. I remember it as if it where yesterday.

My mom passed away almost two years ago from Pancreatic Cancer. She was 44. In her final months I was her caretaker, until it degraded so far that Hospice was needed.

I miss her... even though I know she's watching over me. It may seem corny to some, but she promised us that she'd watch over all of her boys.

I'm very sorry for your loss.
My mom w/DX w/breast cancer. Treated & was doing ok until 6 yrs later this rashy stuff broke out on her collar bone. Then the cancer moved into her elbow, liver, kidneys, brain & heart. She was 69.
In 1994 my sister w/dx w/ two different types of breast cancer, she was 39 yrs old.. One was the worst of the 14 different types of breast cancers. She's still here but has alot of health problems.

my dad died of esophogus cancer at the age of 63.

my mom passed away in sept of 99 she was 37 she had ovarian cancer she had it for a year

My dad died of small cell carcinoma (cancer in the lung) on May 2, 2006; he was 61 when he left us and he was diagnosed in December 2004.

i lost my husband 6 yrs ago to liver cancer.I also lost my mom 3 yrs ago to pancrease cancer,she was 63.she suffered horribly.Nothing helped her pain. she was diagnosed in july 03 and died october 03. I miss her so much but i know she's in a better place and her pain is gone. Not a day goes by that i don't think about her

My husband was diagnosed March 20th He passed away June 6....his daughters birthday. I miss him terribly. He was 57. So sorry about your mother. I know the loss you are feeling. Hang in there.

yes i lost my mom to pancres cancer about two and a half years ago and still miss her like craxy. also lost my grandfather to lung cancer and my great uncle to colan cancer my dad now hasliver cancer. time will take care of some of the pain though not all of it