Im sad very sad ... it's been like this for about 3 years can someone tell me what to do to feel better ?

sad . sad. sad. some might call it a deep depression or BPD ... i dont know what it is but it causes me much pain ... and the real problem is that i begun to love it and i wish sometimes to inflict pain to other people for them to see what i fel and that is wrog and im strugling very much not to ... by the way i cant aford to do teraphy ...so dont ask me to ....

u should find why you r that sad. try to hang on with friends and family and maybe some of their hapiness will rub off on u

you dont necessarily need therapy...you could go to your doctor and ask for anti-depressants...but the meds only help cover up the problem, not solve it...you need to see a doctor and find someone you trust and talk to them about how you are feeling

try exercising and eating better, it has helped me cope with my depression. And maybe call a natl hotline.

depending on where you live there's usually a mental health place provided by the county which will give you help for free or little $. I know because my husband is bipolar and goes to the one where we live.

I was having problems for a while, too. I told a doctor about it and she prescribed an antidepressant medicine. You may have a chemical imbalance that's causing your sad feelings.

Please see a doctor as soon as possible.

sorry. nobody can.

this is a personal issue.

It is very difficult to diagnose (what a terrible word!) your case, but, ok... hard to imagine what are you feeling, another people can try, but only you can feel what you feel.

Maybe, having a hard time? ... economics, love, ... ?

All I can say is: This time will go, too. Just, hold it, be patient.

Meanwhile, do something for others. This can diminish the pain, your personal pain.

What you are doing... looking for help, is the beginning, but maybe will be better if you can go to a people who has more experience and skills, ... a pastor, a priest, ...

Maybe you need medication...

In the end, you can and you must get some help.

Well, I was like you for some time, and, I have some regressions now and then, but I think you will be better when you decide it.

Do it!!!

Best regards.

You can go to your local Health Dept.

it's a proven fact that the first 30 minutes after you wake up in the morning, sets the mood for the rest of your day. so you should make an effort to feel good in the morning. you could try going for a walk in the morning, listening to some good music while you're getting ready. eat a breakfast that you like.. i don't know.. there's tonnes of things you could do... my aunty (she's a real weirdo) she told me that in the mornings if she wakes up grumpy, she pokes her toes out of the blanket, and wiggles them, and says "good morning toes" and it's so silly that it puts her in a better mood... haha.. i've never given it a go.. but it could work.

You sound pretty desperate.
Nothing can 'make' you happy if your brain chemicals are out of wak.
Therapy costs nothing & I am going to recomend it.
Get yourself along to your local hospital & tell the doctor the truth.
You should be entered into hospital for your own & anybody elses sake.
You are suffering & there is medication & life skills that you can learn to become the person you were intended to be.
Living like you are is Not living, it's torturous.
You deserve to be happy & healthy & a balanced human being, to laugh & enjoy life.
So sweetie, it will take courage, & even if you have to muster up what little you have left, get yourself along to the mental health unit in your hospital, because you deserve a better life.

You don't say how old you are. If you are a teen, unfortunately often that is normal
If or if not,a teen, a vigorous program of exercise like 1 hr 3x a week has been shown to be as effetcive as antideppresents for mild to moderate dpression.
Martial Arts is a good practice, because you gain skill at your own speed and are encouraged both mentally and physically to do your best.
Kuk Sool Won is my favorite, but Tae Kwan Do is also good.It is ok to be gloomy and serious in martial arts, too.
Inflicting pain on others looks like the depression is turning outward, but its not. Because people will not like you when you do that, then you will be alone, even more isolated and more prone to depression. So you are still punishing yourself.
There may be good reasons for your sadness, known or unknown. Someday you probably should get therapy for yourself, when you can afford it.
Also, I am sure you heard this, but writing down your thoughts each day in the morning, even half a page, no matter how unpleasant they are, will help you meet the rest of the day with more hope. State your misery and your problems in as positive a manner as you can i.e. "i really miss my good friend Fred" rather than "I miss Fred"or I miss that jerk Fred". "I am more cheerful today" rather than I"I don't feel as bad as yesterday"
Also, important, go where there are people more upbeat than you when you are feeling especially down. When feeling weak its best to be around people who are either the same or ahead of you on the survival scale of life, don't hang out with troubled friends at that time though its tempting to do so.
Lastly, pray. Not desperately, but gently. Its OK to cry. Ask God if he is there and will help you find your life's plan Then just sit quietly,& listen in a relaxed way. Help may come to you in quiet thoughts or feelings.Maybe you will just be able to get through another day and something external will show you.Your struggle to avoid hurting others despite your dark wish to do so, shows your love and your willingness to change for the better. That is love. Follow that feeling out into the brighter world that is waiting for you...