What is better to do Runaway or Commit suicide ?

Im 15 Years old and last year i was raped among other things and im really struggling with my life. I dont want to live it anymore now that people know whats happened people talk about it all the time and are like ahh poor you i feel so sorry for you all the time and everytime i do something wrong they are like ah its just because thats happened to you. Im sick of my whole life revolving around that i just want to forget it and people just dont seem to want me to... I see a phsychologist and stuff but i dont really find it helps much. I have reported the rape to the police but they cant find the people that done it
and this stresses me out more because i feel like im the only one being punished for whats happened . Ughhh i cant cope anymore please help ..... Run away Or Suicide ?? what would you do ?

Neither one. You need to be strong and stop worrying about what people are talking about. As long as you don't talk about it you're fine.

You have survived a tramatic personal assualt/attack. You have come through and must now deal with the mental stresses that come from the ordeal. You need some counselling. Someone you can open up to without being judged or pittied.

You have already shown amazing strength getting through the first part of this. You have to look at how well you've done. You're almost there at the top of the hill.

People just don't know how to deal with you. The strong front you put up to them will determine how quick the forget and get back to normal with you. They will realize you are dealing with the situation and you are fine. You don't need their pity.

I cannot imagine what you are going through to tell you what to do. I can tell you how amazing you have been so far. Please don't give up now. Be strong, be positive and get some counseling so you can get your life back.

Once you have done that you can move and take up your life somewhere else if you want. You cannot run-a-way from this. It goes where you go. Your doing exactly what the rapist wanted. He wants to take that away from you. Fight the fear and find some friends you can trust.

Suicide is never the answer. With that you lose, your friends and family lose. Only the rapist wins. Depending on your belief's you know that suicides never get to heaven. You will become a lost soul. LIFE is to valuable to be squandered useless. You must deal with the unforgiveable attack and move forward. One breath at a time, one day at a time.

I wish you well.

Well, neither is a great option, but there is definitely never a good reason to commit suicide.

People who have tried to kill themselves and lived - for example, jumping off the Golden Gate bridge - report that the instant they let go, they were suddenly sorry and that they had done so, and that they suddenly realized that every problem they thought they had could be fixed.

By the way, 15 is a difficult age, not matter what you have been through.

Try to find something in life that makes you happy or gives you some joy and focus on that.

geez,t seems like ur life has been harder than most peoples but all i have to say is dont kill your self if you have family to live with out of state or out of town you should talk to them an arange somthing im sure if you tell them wats going on they can help you out please dont kill yourself or run away.

GO SEE A COUNSELOR!!!!!

neither one I work with young girls and boys who have been raped or melested in some way I always tell my clients that the best thing to do is come to group and talk about it with others who have had the same thing happen to them and to join a peer suport group and to talk to family and friends and tell them that you don't want to live in the past any more and not to talk about that in front of you but talking is the best thing you can do to help get your mind off things you may even want to try going shopping with friends and do things that get your mind off things.
GL

I wouldn't recommend you do either. I think you should ask to be referred to another pyschologist if you don't feel your current one is helping. Talk to your parents about how you feel, and hold your head up high when you hear people talk about you. If they see that you are trying to move on, they should accept this and let you move on. Make it known that you don't like people talking about you, point out that other things, positive things, have happened in your life other than the rape, and ask people outright why they don't talk about these things? make your feelings heard and don't bottle everything up. Justice will be done, make sure you stay on top of the police's list of priority cases, keep calling for updates and ask if theres any new leads or information. You have plenty of years ahead of you yet, don't let those horrible beasts who took away your innocence take away your enjoyment of life too.

Both options suck. Running away places you in a very real danger of being raped again. Suicide... well, you're f*cking dead, and that sucks.

My vote is that you see a different counselor and try to hang in there. Sometimes justice takes a long time.

neither cause then u let the bastards who rape u win. I also suffer from ptsd from somethingf else and fnd medication helpful feel free to contact

As for running way teenage runways are the prime targets of pimps and rapist so u are likely to experience it again as for sucide then they really won cause u have nothin no hope nothin

I belive in Karma at some point whether they are charged with raping u or someone else these animals will be locked in a cell with Bubba who will rape them for the next 25yrs

don't run away u might get raped again

If you only see running away and suicide as your two choices, I'd choose running away.

Face your issues head on. Don't take crap from no one or respond to those b.s. people that are stuck in the past. You've moved on why can't they.. as to your question, I'd pick running away. You can do it but that doesn't mean your problems won't come with you, because they will.

Honey, please don't do either. You're worth more than that. Neither of those will help you in any way. No-one knows what waits on the other side of death....Suicide cannot even be an option. Don't even think it. There is so much to live for, even if you can't see it now. You'd miss so much good that life has to offer. It may seem unlikely now, but someday you'll find someone you love, you'll have children, you'll be happy and free...don't miss out on that. And as for running away, it just leaves you more vulnerable to the sort of animals that did this to you in the first place.
There is nothing wrong with you, only with the beast who did this. If you runaway or kill yourself they win.
It's obvious that the psychologist and the people aren't helping you very much. Please call a rape help center. There are clinics and help groups that are run by women who have undergone everything as you have. They won't look at you in pity, because they know what it's like. They've rebuilt their lives, and with their help so can you. Contact them please. They know what it feels like.
Please don't think about death. That's a cruel end for one as young as you.

Neither you need to stand up and face your problems. I know it is hard but you will get through it, I have been through the same and I have runaway before and tried to commit suicide it doesn't get you anyway. Stay strong and I will be here to talk to if you want. Email me on rachel_4_god@hotmail.co.uk take care.

Please decide now that you are not going to let that monster who raped you win.

If you have any relatives at all who live out of town, I agree that might be a good solution, to go and live with them for a while.

Running away with no place to go is a painful thing. You deserve to feel loved and taken care of, not lonely and afraid as you would be if you ran away.

Right here on yahoo you find many people who care what you do. Keep reaching out, that shows that you care about yourself too.

Do you have a pet? If not, ask your parents if you can get a dog or cat. When I was your age I poured out all of my misery to my dog. Now I have a cat and she stays with me when I'm sad, she is such a comfort.

You are a unique and unrepeatable gift to the world, and you have a message to bring to the world that no one else can bring. All of the pain you've felt will go into your message, and it will then help others.

I promise you that your life will get bigger when you get a little older, you will have more choices and different friends.

Your life is worth saving. Do what you can, but hang in there.

Definitely not suicide!
This is and will always be the only life you have - so you need to find a way to start enjoying it again.
If you cannot deal with people knowing and talking about what happened to you, I'm sure there is a way for you to get away - if possible even with your parents.
The first thing I'd do is to tell your folks exactly how you feel - and I mean complete with your thoughts of suicide.
I know you don't think that it'll help, but believe it or not -most parents will do anything to make their kid happy. If that means moving to a new city where nobody knows your past or maybe allowing you to go to a boarding school abroad where nobody knows you... there are many more possibilities for you to start over without having to do it on your own.
You strike me as a pretty strong minded person - despite (or maybe even because of) what happened to you.
Just remember: this is your life! You have decades of life left to enjoy and as bad as it sounds - often people that have a really bad experience in their lives live the rest of their time much more aware and happier with what they have than people who never experienced hardship.
I think the key for you is to go somewhere new where you'll be allowed to start over and won't have to look over your shoulder for the people who did this to you.
If your parents don't want to move, I'm sure there will still be a better way to go somewhere else instead of running away.
One thing you may want to think about that I've seen help quite a bit is to pick up a self defense course. It won't undo what happened to you, but it'll help your self-confidence for the future and make you feel like you won't have to be a victim ever again.

Good luck!

I'm a stubborn sort, I'd face it and deal with it.
You might ask your doctor for some group therapy with other women who have been raped, that will help you to get over your feelings of being the only one.
People don't talk about it all the time, they have their lives too and their own dramas, other people don't enter into their discussions as much as you assume.
You don't deal with something by forgetting about it, you deal with it by saying it happened, I'm not responsible for their terrible actions, it's their sick fault not mine, and I refuse to give them more of my life than they have already had.
Like I said, I'm stubborn, I'll be happy to lend you some.

turn to god and a church and leave it in god's hands it will all be taken care of on his time which is the best of times,
as for suicide no need to think about that it is selfish and childish, think of how you're mom and dad would feel and you're friends,
they will all miss you and blame them selfs for that.
that is no life for them to live or you, as for running away no good at all that wont help nothing the problem will still be there haunting you day and night, trust me i know.
you run away you will run away from it forever till one day it knock's you down and sayes here i am face me you COWARD.
no life to live just face it and it will go away in its own time gl with this .

15 was hard as hell on me too, I ran.... Juvie, alcohol, vadelism, these all trail running so heads up


but about 16-17 **** cleared up for me and now im about out of trouble.... best of luck


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suicide is never the answer to anything, and it must get tiresome and annoying to be reminded of your misfortune every time you turn the corner. but running away just to escape isnt the answer either, you DON'T wanna live on the streets talk to your parents and see if you have a relative that lives in another part of the country so you can live with them and your past will be just that your past. living somewhere else will give you a fresh start and a new outlook on life. i know you're going through hard times but don't give up it will get better as for what happened to help clear your mind say a prayer for the people who did you wrong and in time you will come to know some piece of mind again sounds weird but it works ( let go, let god ) helps me through many days good luck hang in there i'm in you're corner and i'm rooting for you p.s. if you're psychologist isn't helping keep getting new ones till you find one that does help

Neither one is a good choice. If you don't find your counselor helpful, try to find a new one. There's support groups out there for rape victims as well. Have you told your counselor about your suicidal thoughts?

you know suitie nothing in life deserves for you to throw yourself in hell because ,all the religions agree that when you commit suicide you go strait to hell .so if you are a believer remember that all the time and trust god he is capable to help you with your problem ,don't give up at all you still Young a lot of good things in front of you just look for it you will find it you , don't pay attention to what people say just concentrate on your future.and i will give you the best advice stay closer to god and pray to him he is the only one that can help you.i wish you good life .