What to do when your surrounded by negativity?

I try to be positive (Which is something I learned from my husband when I first met him). But now he is negative most of the time, my parents talk of divorce, my daughter is sick alot & my health isn't the best lately either. I was always the one that others turn to for advice but I have no one to turn to. My mother says "suck it up", my husband won't help he will only complain more, my daughter is too young to be involved and therefore I feel like I want to runaway. I look forward to going to work but even there the people are two faced and stab each other in the back. I get so happy when I bump into other christians that it pains me when they leave. Plus it is hard to find people I can trust. I am not perfect. I just need support. I don't want to complain without solution. I am task oriented and need clear steps on how to "breathe" in a world that sufficates me with negativity. Everything and everyone in my world depends on me. If I hurt no one comforts me. What to do?

Hello,

Your question has the answer within yourself, who are you????? " I love to dance, sing, draw, write, listen to music, listen to nature, watch the sun rise, talk, help others, live, pray, feel the wind blow, and think. I love to create things and look at things created. I wish life was easier for myself and the ones I love. I love God most of all. I wish the world could know and love me for who I am. I like the simple things." This is you....ask yoyself if you are doing these things to make you happy, once u r happy, positivity will b seen, there is no NEGATIVITY, it is juts less positivity at the moment...your husband needs you now, stay with him, talk to him, communicate, keep your mom out of this, this is ur life, face it....when u were low, ur husband cheered u up, remember those times???now pay back....pray and look starigh in the eyes of the difficulties and say 'Thank you' coz they will show u wht mettle u r made of and trust me, You are strong. Bye.

I think you should seek professional help. I am not saying there is something wrong with you but you obviously need to vent. Talking to a professional will help you, it will hopefully also help you get some perspective and see some light in the darkness.

Here's a final word to ( hopefully) cheer you up: "smile, it makes people wonder what you're thinking."

Just keep postitive...I know how it is to live with negitivity around you 24/7. It is hard, but keep happy and positive. Keep smiling :)
have a nice day~

light some nice smelling candles, and read the bible -- dont take what other people say to you seriously...you have to be the strength that pulls your family through tough times...its a tough job butt you can do it :D feel better

R U my wife.......lol

Sounds like my house. I use to be positive, then I became negative. Only recently have I gotten that monkey off my back (mostly).
We now joke a lot. Helps to get over the stress were under (wife and I). Just living on the lighter side now. Also, we feel younger.

NO......I am not taking drugs to take the edge off. Just laughter.

Do some activity that will get you laughting again (with your hubby). Then let the laughter become part of your daily life.

i would say keep going! You are so strong to have gotten this far! God loves you my dear! very much, and God grants crosses in different sizes to each person depending on how much He knows they can handle... so you must be so very special, because He is giving you something so hard to get through, but He knows you can do this... pray for grace and courage to get through each day! By your example your family and coworkers will see eventually, these things just take time! Don't leave, that would mean you give up, and no one should give up the fight for good! smile, and breath, pray for your husband, he'll come around... I have begun to pray for you, and will include you in my prayers for all yahoo!answer members! I bet you would be a wonderful friend!

A wife and mothers tears are endless, but the outcome is always worth the sacrfices you have made! :) may God Bless you and Keep you Safe!

I have often felt like you do. We live in a fallen world and it is hard to change everyone in it no matter how hard you try.

I am very sorry to hear that you feel so alone in this world. It breaks my heart to hear that your husband won't even comfort, help or support you. Afterall, he did make a vow to love and honor you in sickness and in health.

I don't know if I have the answer you are looking for, but I can offer some advice woman to woman. PRAY! When I have fallen onto hard times and I feel like the whole world is against me I can trust in the fact that no matter what, the Lord Jesus Christ is always with me. There is nothing wrong with you so don't let people say you need medication for depression or all of those other worldly solutions out there. What you need is the Lord and only him.

Find a good church, possibly go to a woman's bible study (that definately helped me feel like I wasn't alone) and pray.

I too am struggling to find a good christian friend that I can relate to. Then it seems like when I do, I have the problem you do and that is trustiing them. Just follow you heart and the Lords guidance and he will lead you through everything.

If you need a christian friend and someone to talk to I would be happy to be your pen pal. All christian woman need someone to go to for strength, courage and inspiration so don't be afraid to speak up!