Does rape cause promiscuity?

I was raped more than a year ago. Soon afterwards, I became promiscuis and was later diagnoised with sex addiction. I'm much better now. I'm no longer a sex addict, but I have never gotten actual counseling for it. Do you think this was directly cause by the rape or there were other factors that added to it?

My doctor had actually said that she thought that I did have sex addiction, and referred me to a special psycologist for that, but I never went.

Sometimes... People are looking for someone to love them because they feel flawed

I would guess just the opposite

Everyone is different so if you really want to know you should speak to a professional.

I can see both shying away from AND wanting more sex b/c of being raped. I would say it depends on the person's sense of adventurism and overall personality before the rape occurred.

hard to say, i think you need counceling anyway, they'll help to figure out the reasons

Rape could lead to such deviant behavior, yes... because a person who has been raped often times feels like damaged goods so there is no reason to take care of themself.
I've been there... it really does unlock a pretty nasty side of a person... but fortunately, in most cases it is a phase that goes away in time (and counceling really helps)

Yes, it can cause oversexualization in some cases. Everyone responds to it in different ways. I hope that you do seek counseling at some point, because it may help you to deal with your feelings in a more constructive way. I am very sorry for what happened to you. I hope they caught the bastard that did it.

I would say the opposite would happen. I was sexually abused when I was 9 and 10 by my best friends brother who was 18 at the time. The worst part was getting very depressed and not wanting anyone to touch me for years. I didn't get over not wanting to be touched till I was 16-17 years old. My friend had it worse tho. He started on her when she was 4 1/2.

Firstly, there is no such thing as an addiction to sex. If you were to go to a psychologist, he or she wouldn't treat you for an addiction to sex because it doesn't exist (it's a pop-psychology type of thing, not a real psychological thing).

Rape affects each victim differently. Some individuals who are raped abstain from sex altogether - a friend of mine was raped in college and abstained from sex until she was engaged. Others will engage in sexual behavior, like what you were describing. The rape contributed to your behavior - have you been to counseling for the rape? Often victims of rape will engage in dangerous and reckless behavior (drugs, alcohol, sex, etc) as a way of compensating for the rape. A good counselor will help you come to terms with the rape and give you coping skills for your future.

My daughter became very promiscuous after hers, her therapist said it was usually that or frigid. It is a reaction that alot of girls do because they feel like now they have nothing to lose because the rapist took it from them. Good luck with your life now and keep your chin up.

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Actually I doubt since you didnt recieve counseling that you cant truely say you are or were a sex addict. And rape actually results in the opposite reaction, usually leading women to vere away from actual physical contact with any guy, causing them great distress in emotional and daily lives. Usually leading to depression and fear of the outside world and going places. I think you were actually turned on by the unknown, some women actually crave rape (not trying to be rude just factual) thats why some women right of rape fantasies. I think it only opened your eyes to something you craved which is being desired so much by another that you get raw sex. Now as far as being promiscuity and not wanting to be with one partner which is the true defination of the word...no Rape does not lead to that. That is your desire probably because you were exposed to another sexual partner therefore opening your eyes to other waysBasically in a nut shell you want to be with other men and as I call it...play the field- which is perfectly okay. Those are my thoughts on your question.

When something like that happens your instantly scared. Scared of what you've been through and of what people will think. We don't deal with it we just try and act like it never happen. It's easier to become that person then to deal with the hurt and pain. You have to find away to heal yourself. And know that it will take time. I myself have some good days and then I'll have some day(it's been 3 yrs). You have to be honest with yourself!

Always in my prayers

I think it can, depending on the effect the rape has on the you. Speaking from experience, it lowers your since of self-worth because you feel like it was your fault. You feel like that's what you deserve, so why not be promiscuous. Then because you feel so low, like no one will ever love you feel so worthless, to feel the illusion of love, you give of yourself to men who only want you for just that-your body. Then sex becomes your escape, the only way to feel good-like a drug addiction...I'm sure you know the rest.

You have taken a very important step. You started the imperative process of getting help, but you must continue by seeing a therapist. You may think you are better now, but one day those negative feelings about yourself may come back. You need to get your feelings out in the open, and therapy can be a excellent way of doing that.

Also, as a side point, there is no statute of limitations on rape. If you haven't reported it, it is still not too late. I wish that I wasn't afraid to do it.

May God bless you in whatever you decide to do. Pray to him, he will help you decide what is best.

With Sisterly (I've been there, too) Love,
Pooda

Rape is a terrible ordeal. The mind is a very complex part of the body. Rape did not directly effect your promiscuity but it may have been related to it.

As you might understand women tend to cut out sex all together or like you jump into a world of promiscuous behavior. It is not the rape but the way you, feel after the rape occurred. It was all in your mind, as you may have felt that you were not worth saving anything for anyone anymore. You were not a good person or you didn't care anymore about the sanctity of your body. It is all normal but should be dealt with. You may have turn to drugs and sex or drinking to forget.

What you have not come to realize is that you got nothing out of the promiscuity and you just need to come to grips with the realitiy that your were raped and that you are not at fault. You are the victim here and you are still the good girl you once thought you were. The man that attacked you is at fault. He is animal and should be locked up for doing and violating you in such a way.

So if you have not gotten help by a counsler then you should think about it very much. You will not forget the terrible thing that happened to you but you, have to realize, that you were NOT at fault. You can forgive yourself, even if you don't have anything to forgive yourself for.

Most important is that you need to tell someone about it and talk it out and get out the hurt, fear, and the condemnation you put on yourself for his attacking you.

Good Luck

Possibly. This is a really deep issue. I have read many books- and usually people will completely not want to have sex or become an addict. A lot of the issue has to do with punishing yourself. You didn't feel like you were worth much and so you let other people treat you like you weren't. You had little self esteem. This caused your opinion of yourself to be low.
I would say it more than likely had a lot to do with it.

i guess u had little or no peeps to comfort u wen the incident happened, u blamed ur self an accepted the lie that the best of u had been taken away, the truth is that no matter how painful sex is ur body responds at a particular moment, and depending on ur body make up, u probably desired more of those feelns coupled with the guys who came around you makin u feel important and special after the rape but just wanted anoda session of rape (but the slower version) and i guess u fouund urself were u really are.
i believe there is a bad spirit behind sex addiction, seek prayers and a health thearapist

Interesting question that I know little about. Were you raped by a female or male..or does it matter(I sorta have a feeling that that is none of my business). Sex certainly can be used to make you forget about bad times/things...those hormones and endorphins can make you feel great--but sorry I really don't have much of an answer for you. But I am glad you're better now!:)

No, I do not think that rape causes people to become promiscuous per say. However, my partner was raped a long time ago and has in the past forced sex on me. I think that rape can be responsible for a lot of emotions and actions but I don't think being promiscuous is one of them.

Think about it...most people who are raped tend to stray away from sexual activity because they fear it will happen again.