Questions about rape?

[female]Well as I was raped when I was 12, 13 now.
Well it was like a month before my 13th birthday, 19th october dunno how long ago that was now but anways,
Is it weird to have flashbacks??, sometimes they feel so real.
Also I can't elp thinking it was my fault, but i don't see how, family friend and i dont undrstand what i could have done.
Am i being a wimp for being scared of being on my own at the moment??
And it it ral bad to cut over it?
Any ways i can stop doing that?
and whats the difference between rape and sexual assult..?
according to someone i told i was raped but whats the difference?

sorry sir or ma'am, but i seriously do not know the # for a mental hospital

its never the victims fault! you should talk to a parent or counseler or someone.

um how was it your fault?
and im pretty sure it is normal to have flash backs but i wouldnt know cuz ive never been raped ha but im pretty sure its normal but you might wanna go see the doctor!!

Get some help. Talk to someone you know/trust. THIS was NOT your fault. Rape is NEVER a woman's fault. The only difference in rape & SA is the perp's lawyer can plea bargain with that more than rape. In many states Rape is a capital offense.

Well hunni, it seems too me, that you need someone too talk too more than just a answer, I am 23 (female) but I went though the same thing that you did, but mine was though my whole child hood... Its nice too have someone to talk too, so why dont you just e-mail me?? h_b_k_4_ever@yahoo.com

Rape is when you do not agree to have sex and they force you to. I know where you are coming from. I was raped and molested from the ages of 11-18 nearly every night and no one would make him stop. My Mother knew but wouldn't do anything about it. You will have flashbacks. You need a psychologist, therapist, or psychiatrist to help you deal with this. I recommend a psychologist, they talk to you and don't make you re-live things you can't handle right now. NEVER EVER think that it was your fault. Rape is the rapists fault. They do it for their gratification. You are definitely NOT a wimp. You have a very serious problem here. In sexual assault you are usually not raped (forced to have sex) the person assaulting you grabs at your female parts but does not force sex on you. Sexual assault and molestation are about the same thing. Get help honey. You will never be able to deal with it alone.

There's no real difference. So don't worry about the difference in the terminology!
It's not unusual for the victim of a sexual assault to feel guilty. It's not your fault though.
Even though it may not be easy to understand for you, Rape isn't about sex, rape is about power. There's nothing you could have changed!
However, there's something you can do now. And that's to get help for your soul!
Talk to a counselor, a friend, your mom, or a teacher. Anyone you trust!
Good luck to you!

Something may have triggered your flashbacks. Something as simple as a smell of cologne or anything like that can bring on the flashbacks. It sounds like you are suffering from post traumatic stress disorder from the rape. The reason you are cutting is because you are blaming yourself and also cutting helps by inflicting outside pain to numb the inner pain you are feeling. You are definitely 100 per cent, NOT at fault and please realize that. You are not a wimp either. You have been through a hell of an experience and am glad you are trying to ask for advice, but should really also talk to a doctor or some professional. As far as I'm concerned rape is a more severe act than sexual assault, but in the event of sexual assault, if it is ongoing many times can be just as traumatizing. This all depends on how the individual copes, what kind of support system the victim has, who the offender was (like if it was a close relative), and if there is closure (like a jail sentence). I was molested by multiple offenders, mostly family, when I was younger, but never raped. No one did anything about it so I got messed up and did the cutting thing too. I find that the more I spoke to people I trusted and therapists, the better I became to cope and stopped cutting. Please, please, please times 1,000,000 do not blame yourself. You did absolutely nothing wrong and I really hope you can find enough support to get through this so you don't have to wait many years like I did to deal with it. Do not hate yourself. You are the victim here. You are very strong for trying to get help even if on answers. Please go to rape counselling or talk to someone. There are many support systems available to you. I wish you the best of luck and hang in there. My prayers are with you.

sexual assault there is no penetration, rape there is.
assault, is grabbing, touching your private areas. fondling those areas. But either way if you are not a will participant then it is wrong. You need to talk to a counselor, it could be a school counselor, or you can call the boys & girls hot line & talk to the people there, they are a big help.

talk to someone and get this out of your chest, you will DEFINETLY feel better, if you don't feel comfortable talking about his in front of someone then try talking to an inanimate object like your soft toy of something just to get the issue off your chest!

and btw, it's not yur fault so quit blaming yourself, it's not worth tormenting yurself for something thats others fault, don't worry too much i' sure you still have friends and family members that still love you A LOT!