Is it considered rape even tho i didn't want to have sex and gave in to my BF pressure?

2 years ago i was dating a boy for 1 1/2 years that this point and even tho i didnt want to, we had sex. and when ever i said i didnt want to he pressured me and made me feel guilty if i didnt do that or give him oral sex in prelace of sex. and even when i didnt want to do ne of it he still pressured me until i gave in. he also said that i didnt care about him if i didnt. i need to know if that is consicerd rape or me just giving in for my boyfriend??
we have since then broke up cuz he was cheating on me but i just wanna knowif it counts as rape even tho i gave in after i said no.

no i'm not CRYING rape since i found out he cheated on me. i was wondering becuase i heard that in some cases people consider that rape. I'm not in to ruin his life. thatd be catty and untrue. its bad enough he ruin my 1st time but i could never ruin another life.

Thank you all for your answers very helpful...if there is a next time with another guy and i'm not ready i will put my foot down and not get pressured.

and as for mande95747:
i understand what u meen by what Adults dont want kids having sex but it wasnt like i was 12 when this happend. i was 17 years old and "in love"blinded by "love" doesnt mean idont as u said "have the smarts"

Thanks to all
Jenny

you were not raped. unless he physically forced himself

I'm sorry that you were under that kind of pressure. That's very difficult on anyone. However unless he threatened you or forced himself on you then it's not considered rape by the legal standard. If he's over 18 and you are under 18 then it could be considered statutory rape. I hope that helped.

No its not rape unless he forces himself on you. While he should never have pressured you to do things you didn't want to do, it not rape if you gave in to him. Sorry, don't let anyone guilt you into doing something you don't want to do. They're not worth being with if thats what happens

im sorry but i think i agree, unless it was forced and you didnt say yes then it isnt rape. it is awful though, and he should have his cheating balls cut off and other awful things. what goes around comes around. im really sorry you had to go through those mind games and guilt trips. he sounds like a huge ***.

If you clearly said no then yes it is rape. but you gave in so you are allowing it, that's the tricky part. i think maybe if you said to someone that he made you feel guitly they could have charged him.
he sounded like an a** and he ended up cheating on you. you're better off not thinking about him.

no, even though you felt pressured, you still gave in on your own because you felt guilty, you said. I don't think that would be considered rape. but it's also not truly consensual. I would wait to have sex again until I really cared for someone and just as important, they really care for me. Someone making you do something you're not comfortable doing is your first sign that he's not the "one".

my boyfriend did the same thing to me! Evn the time I lost my virginity I was mad and upset because I didn't want to do it. He used the whole "do oral sex then" thing on me too. I don't think it was rape because I took my own clothes off and then kinda waited for him to go in. It was awful. I think it was always more of a giving in thing than rape for me. I never enjoyed the sex. And i hate oral sex.

1st degree: forcible compulsion including the use, or threatened use of a weapon, or what appears to be a weapon; or kidnapping the victim, or inflicting serious physical injury; or feloniously entering into a building or vehicle where the victim is located;

2nd degree: forcible compulsion (a) when the victim is incapable of giving consent because he or she is physically helpless or mentally incapacitated for any reason, including being under the influence of alcohol and/or other drugs (e.g. Rohypnol and Gamma Hydroxy Butyrate (GHB)), (b) the victim is developmentally disabled and the perpetrator is a person who is not married to the victim and who has supervisory authority over the victim, (c) the perpetrator is a health care provider, the victim is a client or patient, and the sexual intercourse occurs during a treatment session, (d) the victim is a resident of a facility for the mentally disordered or chemically dependent persons and the perpetrator is not married to the victim and has supervisory authority over the victim, or (e) the victim is a frail elder or vulnerable adult and the perpetrator is a person who is not married to the victim and who has signifacant relationshop to the victim.

3rd degree: the victim does not consent to sexual intercourse with the perpetrator and such lack of consent is expressed by the victim's words or conduct.

Rape in the first and second degrees are considered class A felonies punishable under the Washington State Criminal Code by up to life in prison and/or a $50,000 fine. Third degree rape is a Class C felony punishable by up to five years in prison and/or a $10,000 fine.

So you want him to go to jail now for cheating on you in other words.?
Why did this come up in your mind AFTER he cheats on you instead of when it was happening?
Why didn't you call the authorities when this was happening?

Just of couple of questions a defense attorney would throw at you on the witness stand.

You weren't raped unless you said NO and he forced himself on you. It sounds like he pressured you into something that you didn't want to do, but you said that you gave in (your consent), therefor it wasn't rape!

no it does not count as rape because YOU GAVE IN... and i really hope you are not considering yelling rape because he has since cheated on you...that ruins so many guys lives... but i know you are not considering that right?!?

It's not rape unless they literally physically force you to do it, or are threatening you with bodily harm, to get you to do it.

I think your boyfriend was a jerk, for sure, and I've never done what he did, and it's not cool.
However, you did give in, and it doesn't sound like you were afraid that he was going to kill you, beat you up, or whatever, so no, you were not raped.

This is one BIG reason adults tell young people not to have sex.
You're not mature enough to even know that it's your body, and you should get to say what happens and what doesn't happen.
You should not be having sex, if you can't have the smarts to get up and leave a guy if he's being like that.

I can't believe you fell for that bull sugars: "you don't have feelings for me." if he loved you or liked you that much he would have waited and no its not rape.