Advice about rape?

what other useful help is there for rape victims apart from sharing what happend with someone? i cant seem to get over it or talk about it, and even though it happened 5 years ago im still not the same person i was before, could i have PTSD?
please only awnser if you know

Yes, you could have PTSD. I do. My rapist went free when my family decided not to have him arrested since it was the 60's and even though I was a child, the general attitude of the day was to blame the female.

I was raped by a family friend at a very very young age and I am 45 and have never gotten over it completely. My life was filled with self doubt, low self esteem, self abuse, self hate. He still rents space in my head for free and I hate him for it.

Almost every aspect of my life was affected by this selfish and monstrous man.

You should address the issues this has caused you as a round about way of dealing with it. For instance, the man who raped me stalked me too so I am very cautious about my surroundings. I had to learn self defence to feel safe again.

Another thing I had to do was to get over feeling guilty. It was interfering with my adult pleasure once I was married. I did this by sharing the triggers with my hubby so he didn't remind me of the rapist.

Sometimes it pops up when I least expect it, seeing someone who looks like him, hearing about rape in the news or on a movie. Actually, I thought about getting involved with censoring the porn industry against rape scenes.

Recently, I was confronted with the knowledge that my neighbor drug raped his wife and drugged his 4 year old daughter so he could watch porn undisturbed and he had relations with his two sisters. I have to see this person often, not by choice though. It gave me a nervous break down that took two years to recover from.

This short lived act of violence against a persons body, mind and soul leave damage that is lifelong.

I went into drinking to kill the pain, don't go there. I went into bad relationships because I didn't feel worthy, never again! I pick my fights for whats right and wrong and dang it...I see way too much wrong so I have a reputation for being a **** disturber.

There are many things you need to get a handle on but do it slowly and one at a time.

Good Luck and Goddess Bless. I hope the creep is rotting in jail and someones Lil Betty!

Helping others who went through the same thing then it helps. It helps you let it out, as well as hearing other persons stories so you dont feel alone, as well as feeling helpful as to gaining recovery while trying to help those recover as well.

You could definitely have PTSD. I have had the same problems in my life, and I have it. It's so hard to get past. You have to talk about it. You can't keep it all bottled up inside. It will eventually eat you alive. Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone you don't really know that well. I'll be glad to listen, and tell you my own experiences. Good luck to you.

i would suggest calling your local rape/trauma center... they will know what to do to help you... my mom started the one in my hometown... i bet there are even places online to go to
good luck!!!

Yes it's very possible that you have PTSD...I'd call a Rape Crisis hotline...maybe they can help...or start a group or something....that might help to...find people online that have been through the same thing you have. You might want to go see a councelor...I dunno if it would help but it's worth a try right? I hope this helps. Good luck

You should get counseling. As much as sharing with just anyone helps, rape is the sort of thing that leaves a mark on a person forever. It takes a trained proffesional to help someone heal spiritually from such a traumatic experience. If you can't afford counseling, there are programs which arrange for them. I can't remember any of them, but google it.

Good luck, and hugs.

Wow, that's really tough. I think what you don't want to do is the best way to move on ---- talking with someone about it, especially a PSYCHOLOGIST. And don't ever forget to pray -- don't give up praying, it takes lots of time to heal!

Rape isn't something you can talk about a few times and get over. It's a traumatic experience whose repercussions can last for years, and yes, you could have PTSD.

Seek out a group for survivors of rape; RAINN is a good one. It operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE. They could help you with referrals.

Hun, i am soooo srry about what happened and yea u should tell someone and i hope he is locked up...and u should see a doctor or a theripist but, if u want to talk sometime email me at kymo411@yahoo.com
And i am soooo srry

You could have ptsd very easily. I was diagnosed with it also after all that i have been through. I have been raped periodically from 4 years old till just a few years ago and i am 26 now. It started with my moms bf's and ended with my bf's and a few friends. It can be very hard and disturbing to talk about. You probably feel that no one understands the pain that u feel. God knows that i still have a problem talking about it. It is a very hard thing to deal with but u need to know that it is not ur fault and that u are never gonna be the same after that has been done to you. You will always wanna shut that part of ur life out. It is scary to deal with and very painful. The best way to deal is find urself a good therapist that truly understands and sometimes family and friends can be the best therapy there is.

This is something that you will never get over. It is a part of you and you will learn to cope with it as you grow. I think you might be right on PTSD. If you have not talked to a rape advocate I would highly recommend that because you will see that you are very normal for feeling these feelings. You can become what you want to be with some inner work.

try seeing a couselor about this.

my e-mail is fathoms1952@yahoo.com. do not try to explain it to someone who has not been through it. when u do talk to some one make sure it is of the same sex.the horror of what u went through can never be told in words. for u it is an emotional act against u. emotions can not be told in words. nor in actions later on by u. any healing process starts with u. but this is the scar est part of the healing . this will be worse than the rape its self! when u reach this point let me know. but what u need is a good female shrink.

People who are sexually abused or raped can experience feelings of
violation that goes beyond physical injury. The person may become distrustful of men (or women, depending
on who abused them) and encounter feelings of shame, humiliation, embarrassment.

Some victims may suffer from Rape Trauma Syndrome which is a form of post-traumatic stress disorder. It is
a psychological reaction to rape involving feelings of shock and shame. Victims who experience this syndrome
are often reluctant to report a rape. Some victims encounter physical symptoms such as headaches, sleep
disturbances, and fatigue. They may also develop psychological disturbances related to the circumstances of
the rape, such as intense fears. These intense fears may prevent them from socializing or traveling as they
would otherwise do normally.

A person who causes sexual abuse is wrong, weather it is a family member who does this frequently or
periodically they are wrong. A person who rapes is wrong, despite what the person may tell the victim; no
person deserves abuse and the person or people involved need to be stopped. Rape is not anyone鈥檚 fault but
the perpetrators! If you are a victim of sexual abuse of any kind, please tell someone immediately.

Be silent NO MORE!

I am sorry that you are in pain. Rape Crisis, Victim Support and the Samaritans are good place to be able to talk and for you to get some support and be able to talk in a safe environment. But it seems you have done a lot of talking. How aware is your GP about your suffering.?. He could arrange for you to see a specialist to moniter you. Don't suffer in silence. What do you think you need that would help you? Rather than maybe trying to forget about it maybe you could look at strategies in learning to live with it. I wish you good luck.

Take a look at this search... you may find more answers here... good luck and God bless.

http://uk.ask.com/web?q=Help+for+victims...

I know its hard but talking really helps. I got severely depressed after it happened to me but seeing a counsellor has helped me and will help you too. Just remember that although you feel low right now you are a survivor, you are strong and you are worth infinitely more than the scum that did this to you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I think that yes you may have PTSD, talk to your doctor, this will help you, or if you cant, call the Samaritans. you will get through this. i did.

kill him