If you son had a deadly peanut allergy and a child at school knew it and taunted him with a peanut butter?

sandwich at lunch. What would you do?
My son is protected under Title 504 in a public school for his severe peanut allergy. It has been a long road, but my son is very aware of his allergy and of the people around him and to avoid anyone with peanut butter. Our decision as a family was not to isolate our son at a peanut free table (which basically does not exist at the school...he theoretically would be sitting by himself.)
Today he tells me that a girl was purposely taunting him with peanut butter after he told her that he could possibly die if he ingested any. She held a sandwich in the air close to his face and waved it in a circle and yelled "oooooo" ... My son and a friend told the teacher after lunch what she had done and the girl was called aside privately and spoken to.
Should I take any more action with the school? A phone call? A letter to the teacher? What would you do?

He is in the third grade.

First, the teacher seems like s/he has the situation under control. Thank him or her for that. That's what I would do. If there is a repeat, and the teacher doesn't escalate action (contacting parents herself), then and only then, go to the principal and talk about it. Why? Because he'll know you're getting involved, and that will cause him more stress, and make him feel more different and isolated than actual bullying will.

It's really cliche, but there are some things kids need to learn to deal with by themselves. Your son seems like he reacted well - he presumably got away from the girl and then went and told the teacher. You aren't going to eliminate idiots from your child's life, and this sort of bullying doesn't always go away: I had a college roommate who left jars of peanut butter on my shelf of the pantry whenever she was mad at me and one of my coworkers last year did pretty much the same thing to me that the girl did to your son. You can't force everyone around him to grow up, but you can help him deal with people who won't.

The point is, don't rely on the school to clear the idiots out of your son's way - they can't. They can keep blatant abuses to a minimum, but the important thing is that your son knows how to deal with them (and it looks like he does, so good job). Since he knows to tell the teacher, I'm assuming he'll let you know if this sort of thing gets worse or if it gets to a point where he can't handle it. It's a lot more responsibility than a kid should have to deal with, but he will have to shoulder it, and delaying that will only make things worse.

Kids don't realise how serious it is thats all - I would leave it now she has been spoken too.

A letter to the principal, and a doctor's note saying how deadly the peanut butter could be. If the principal does not do anything hen I'd take the child to court.

i'd call the school
i'm pretty sure there's a law saying that they have to keep kids with allergies safe, and if he didn't know better, he would have eaten it

Just let it be for now.
If she does it again,
call her parents.
Then consider taking further action if she keeps doing it.

Sounds to me like the matter is already being taken care off, but if is still nagging you then you could call or write a letter to the teacher. :-)

school districts usually comply when you say "well my lawyer seems to think" and then say "I think the Media might agree but I haven't contacted them......... yet" worked for me :)

Kids will be kids...the schools can't stop that kind of stuff...they worry more about hugging and kissing than someone who is actually being harassed

She probably just didn't get it, but I think the school acted appropriately. If it keeps up I would say more, but it sounds like the situation was taken care of.

call the teacher and thank her for understanding the seriousness of your sons problem, and for taking care of the situation with the girl.
thats all you need to do.

i would send an e-mail to the teacher w/ the principal on copy tonight.

tomorrow morning i would go to the school and have a talk w/ the principal. and make it very clear that this kind of s*** can't be happening, and if it happens again, that you will let the school superintendent know....

If you chose not to isolate him, things like this are going to happen. The school took it seriously enough...the girl is too stupid to realize that she was potentially down for a murder or manslaughter rap.

i would tell my son to stay away from the girl

i would ask the teacher about the proble. and then talk to a head person at his school and see wat they would do and say.

How old is your child and the children taunting him?
Kids can be mean. They are worse now then when I was a child.
I would address the situation to the principle. A letter sent with a follow up phone call.

ohh my god what an evil little brat! i think you should let it go for right now.. unless it happens again. you didnt mention how old he was.. but that's horrible. if this little girl does this again.. then notify school officals.

She was just being a kid. It's what they do. He wasn't harmed. He knows not to eat it. She has been disciplined. What more do you want. Electric chair?!

I think you should, this child is being selfish and thinking only of herself. Your child's life is at risk. The parents should be more aware about this and how would they feel if it was their child.all the best with it

I think I would follow this up with a VISIT to the school. I know we parents tend to take things a little too far sometimes, but this is serious business. I'm sure the little girl was just having innocent fun without realizing what the consequences could be. During this visit, I would speak with both the teacher and principal, this is a life or death situation and should be handled as such. I'm sure that the girls parents would be mortified to learn of her behavior.

i would call the kids parents and let them take care of it. you shouldn't let anyone endanger your son's health like that.

their young and don't know any better, go see the principle first and if things don't get any better, go above the principle!

You should go down to the school and talk to the principal.
That's just wrong.
Set up a meeting with the principal and possibly the girls parents.
She may not understand the seriousness of the situation but she needs to be taught it.

I personally wouldnt take any further action besides makeing sure my son new the outcome of actually eating the peanut butter.Kids are going to be kids.Once a kid finds out something about another kid they are going to see if its the truth.She probably isnt going to be doing that ever again and possibly didnt mean anything by it.

It seems the teacher already handled it properly. You may want to talk to the teacher and thank her, emphasizing again the severity of the issue. If it happens again with the same person, the teacher or the school principal should discuss it with the girl's parents. But at this stage I would leave it alone.

Touch base with the teacher on this matter & while you're at it, you can thank her for having spoken to that girl, if it would make you feel better. Kids can be so cruel.


*greentoad...You find this real humorous huh?

A law suit would be in order. There isn't any tollernce for that kind of behavior.

make sure that when he is old enough to have girlfriends his girlfriends dont eat any peanut butter either. kiss of death.

This is technically assault. You could involve the police if you want.

I would make it known to everyone...if faculty at the sbhool didnt respact it...i wld seriuosly consider moving your son to a private school..or home schooling.

If that was my son and he could die from it i would go straight to the principle and sue!

i would probly go to the kids parents a slap them in the face and then spit in there eyes and as for the kid slap her with a peice of cheese