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well my parents have a drug abuse history they usto do alot of drugs and were addicted so they are now on methadone, but my dad started using crack/cocaine and my mom is now doing cocaine and they are both taking pills, my sister now has a drug addiction problem & my brother sells drugs, they are both in trobule with the law. and as for me i am majorly depressed, and have tried to commit sucidide, and also cut myself. i can't stand being alive, i am 16 and already dropped out. i have no reason to live & im nothing and i have nobody. all i did have was my mom and know shes slowly fading away and i can't deal with this. i know whens shes using and i can't stand it. the time i did try to commit sucicide she was doing drugs, she didn't even care to help me. we fight majorly when she uses because i can't stand it. i have a pshyctrist now, but i did not tell her about my parents drug abuse because i am afraid they will take me away from my parents, i dont want that. what should i do? help =[

Don't give up on yourself. You may not be able to do anything about those in your family. If they want to get better and kick and really have a good life it is up to them. I lost a sister 5 years ago who was addicted to drugs all of her life. I tried to help her and I worked so hard to show her that there was a better way. At one point she almost strangled me to death from a drug induced hallucination. I too was an addict and have been clean for over 20 years. Take care of you and decide that you are going to have a better life. If that means going to live with relatives or going to the authorities and asking to be put into foster care. Anything that would be better than where you are now. I can hear your cry for help and I do believe that you don't want to be caught up in the life that the rest of your family is caught up in. Make that choice for you. I believe in you and I belive that you can have a better life.

God Bless You. You are not alone

PS: Tell your psychiatrist. I know you don't want to leave your family but with the pain your are in that might be the best thing for you now. Take care of you that is all you can do.

How can you expect the psychiatrist to help you when you don't tell her the #1 reason why you are depressed?

You NEED to be taken away from your parents. I don't understand. You are so miserable you've tried to kill yourself and you dropped out of school, you don't want to live.......but you don't want to get out of there??

YOU are addicted to your misery. You don't want to leave, because then things would get better and maybe no one would feel sorry for you anymore.

you have two choices, give in or get out!?!

talk to your parents and tell themyou can' livethat way you want out and find a relative to live with
let them know you ned help

This sounds cruel but turn them in. I know that being a snitch is not cool but where are they going ot leave you if something like an overdose (God forbid) were to happen. It is best for all of you.

Tell your psychiatrist immediately what is going on. Your parents and family are the major cause of what is going wrong in your life.

be calm and inform somebody about it

a couple of suggestions..... both involve at least a 'temporary' seperation from your parents.

the first may be a bit more palatable ( this term in this context means you like it better...... the term has to do with taste and eating & I use it in the hopes that you will see your having to eat a plate of yukky stuff now, but some choices you make can help you instead be eating a good meal)

anyway

emancipation : your psychiatrist should help you with this idea. If the person does not ( & if they can't tell from your communication with them that there are major problems in the home) they are not worth their salt or the paper that their degree is printed on.

you become a legal person like one who is of the age of majority 18 .... in other words you are legally made into an adult.

it may be a big step for you and you will have to get a job to support yourself - but it is a way to begin life away from your parents controll & away from the substances that are controlling them.

second option - stay a minor and request of your psychiatrist that you be removed from the home. Articulate the same you did in your write up of the question and give emphasis on how you know this is bad for you and you can't fight it on your own.

best of good fortune to you.... i will send you positive energy each time i think of you.

you should tell your psychiatrist anything you tell them is confidential.

You have got to tell your psychiatrist!!!!! She needs to know!!! If you can trust anyone, it's her!!!!! Your parents need help and as long as you keep this a secret, in a way, you are contributing to their problem!!! If you get taken away from your parents, it would be the BEST thing for you!!! I know you are scared right now, but how are you going to feel if one or both of your parents overdose???? I am not saying that it would be your fault because it would not be but it's obvious that your parents need help!! You need to tell someone right now!!! Yes, I am sure they will be mad at first, but in the end they will thank you. They are very lucky to have a child that cares about them as much as you do but you have to think about your safety as well as theirs. If you don't tell your psychiatrist, PLEASE tell somebody that can help you!!!

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