Should i tell the parent?

i asked a question before asking if i should tell an adult about my friend cutting herself most of the answers i got was to tell her parents but the reason she cuts herself is cuz of her family and parents. her mom and dad dont talk they get so mad at eachothers and they yell at her for everything and her mom once told her to go to hell so i dont think her parents would really care. and school counslers TELL the parents so i really dont know that to do. i tried talking to her myself but that didnt work. i know shes not gonna listen to what other people say. and if i do tell the counsler or her parents then shes gonna get angry and shes just gonna end up cutting herself for that! i really need help with this please advice!

yes i would tell her parents!

No, a good counselor will not tell the parent if they know the situation and that sounds like who needs to be told here. A counselor OR CPS - (child protective services). That's what I would recommend.

No, just keep letting her cut herself until she goes too far and dies.

What, are you nuts? That's a serious problem and she needs help. Talk to her parents AND a counselor and get her that help before she's another statistic.

Hun, your friend needs some professional counseling, so somewhere the parents need to be involved in it since they have to ok it and pay for it or set the appointment. It doesnt matter what reason you give the parents as long as your friend gets some help.

she needs some help you need to talk to an adult and her parents need to know how they make her feel is wrong and own there part in her sickness maybe she needs to get admitted somewhere so she can safely deal with her problems

I know it is difficult to talk her out of it.. but do not lose hope. Continue to talk to her.... Ask her: in what way does cutting herself help to solve the problem?

I remember your question. Someone needs to tell soon or she could really hurt herself bad. I lucked out and only cut a bunch of tendons and had to have surgery and PT afterwards. If she gets mad at you or whoever else tells her parents, she will get over it. Just keep telling her it's just because you care so much for her that she couldn't not tell.

She needs some serious counseling and maybe you could offer to go with her if she doesn't want to. Her behavior MUST change but if she's not ready to change, still encourage her for your sake as her friend...maybe if you say it that way it would prompt her into some type of counseling treatment. Good luck to you again. If you want some personal advice/opinion/help from me then please email me at bazimme@yahoo.com or IM me at bazimme. I'd really like to speak with you about this as I've *been there.* Really, try and email or IM....I want to help if I can.

Yes

The best thing you can do is be a good friend and be available to talk and give her support when she feels the need to self-injure. Telling parents or a counselor is really between you and your friend. If she wants your help to tell her parents then by all means do it. I would not tell her parents or a counselor unless she knows you are doing it, ask her opinion on it.

As always, if this progresses into something more serious where the cutting is causing real damage to the point of needing stitches, then you NEED to tell someone.

You MUST tell an adult. This is too much of a responsibility for you to handle. If you can't tell her parents, then you should confide in a teacher or counselor. They do not have to tell the parents.

Cutting is no joke. I lost someone very close to me that one day just cut too far and ended her life.

this is a major call for help she needs help NOW!!!

if the parents don't care contact a family services agency, social worker will work with her and get her all the help she needs, don't wait until it's too late be real friend get her the help she needs be there for her that's all you can do, tell her she's not alone,

good luck

NO NO NO! DO NOT TELL HER FAMILY.

I did this to my best friend and it was the stupidest thing to do. Her family didn't do anything for her.

Urge your friend to talk to a crisis hotline or go to a free health center. If she has insurance, urge her to go to her family doctor and get referred for a psychologist. If she's older than 14 then there's some law that says that parents can't view your medical history if you sign some form. Anyway, I did it when I was 14/15.

She needs help, and even if she gets angry for you telling, she is crying out for help....its probably going to have to get ugly before it gets better, but nothing will ever get better if everything is kept secret. Her parents need to know it sounds like they need help as well as she does.

Its worth pissing her off if you end up saving her life. I would rather have someone be alive to hate me forever than dead and I live with that regret!

Good luck!

You should still tell her parents because if you dont she may end up cutting her looser parents and than every one would blame her.

Cutting does not necessarily mean she is suicidal. She's probably just doing shallow cuts. The only real danger there is the same danger as if she scraped her knee... infection. You are correct to be worried! Obviously, cutting yourself is not a healthy behavior. The point I am trying to make is that you don't need to be so freaked out that you charge in and stress everybody out. You have some time to breath for a second and consider your best options.

You need to tell YOUR mother. You need to tell her because you are not old enough to do anything. If you are stressing out about your friend this much, you need to let your mom help you. At this point, it is not about anybody else but YOU. You are affected by all this. You can go see a school counselor about your friend and find out if they will tell her parents. You can ask your mom to help your friend find free anonymous counseling. Start thinking about what you can do and not what you can't do.

One thing it is always important to remember. You can't control the actions of others... but you can control your reactions. You can't make your friend stop cutting herself. You also can't begin to understand what she's going through. No matter how well you think you know someone, they always have their secrets. Almost everyone will make up a story or offer half-truths about their lives... Especially if they have been abused in some way or if they have a chemical imbalance. Trust me on this. YOU can't do anything you haven't already done. I'm assuming you are in your teens? It is a very difficult thing to sit back and watch our friends hurting. All you can do is offer her your friendship and not judge her. Now, if YOU are feeling freaked out, if YOU are feeling angry or sad because she is cutting, if YOU are feeling helpless and confused, then you need to talk to your mom or a counselor. Do it for yourself, though.

Focus on your inner self and think about how you are feeling. You can get help for yourself. Your friend has to come into therapy on her own or it will be pointless and she will feel like everyone is ganging up on her. Take a deep breath and have a good cry. Everything works out the way it is supposed to, good or bad. Without the bad things that happen in our lives, we would not learn the lessons that we need to learn to become the people we are meant to become. Age doesn't matter, we are all learning. Even my great grandmother (she's 97) has lessons left to learn before she leaves this earth.

If you go to church, then talk to someone there. I hope you feel more at peace soon.

if she is really your friend you would tell someone! before she severly hurts herself and then u will feel bad that you could have prevented it by telling someone

SAY SOMETHING!!!! because if she/he dies and ull wonder y u didnt tell somebody