Parents alcoholics, no one to turn to, please help, update!!?

i was the lady who posted the question 'parents alcoholics, no one to turn to, please help'. I have read through all the advise given and visited the sites suggested for help but i am still in limbo on what to do. I love my parents with all my heart but HATE what they have turned into!!!!!!!! Nearly all of me (98%) wants to kiss them goodbye out of mine and my childrens lives but that last 2% is really holding me back. I know that they are not going to change as we have given them soooooooo many chances so why i cant i just let them go? They are causing me so much pain and hurt and i know i can safely speak for my sisters. Please read my original question for the full story. Maybe its not advise i need but someone to talk to, maybe posting this question was a waste of time. I just dont know!! Please dont leave nasty remarks or hurtful answers!!!

I am 29 and am a recovering alcoholic. Giving up is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Luckily my parents have been there for me through it all and I couldn't have asked anything more from them. If ,however, I hadn't cleaned up my act when I had they were fully prepared to have me sectioned for my own good. I know this isn't an option for you but they were only going to use it as a last resort.
You've been down every road and tried everything you can and i can really see no other option but to letting them go. If you and your family get together and discuss how to do it - together - I truly believe you'll be doing what's best for everyone. Maybe this is exactly what your parents need. Please don't take this the wrong way, but by hanging on you could be giving them a reason to keep drinking. If you'll always be there for them they have no reason to fight, do they? If they wake up one morning and realise they're on their own it might just give them the foot up the bum they need.
You don't have to walk away for good but you need to put some distance between you and you'll have to be strong and not give in. It may take a few months maybe even a year or so but you'll know when it's right to go back. Let your parents know you're not giving up forever but right now you have to do what's best for you and your family and if they really knew you at all they would understand why you're doing this.
I don't know what else to tell you. Looking in from the outside makes it's easy to judge and give advice, but unless you've been there it's a whole different story. Coming from someone who's been on the inside, I wouldn't judge or blame you for what you know you should do. If you want to email me and talk some time please feel free. I hope this has been helpful. Take care.

i havent read your previous question ,but i think you do need help with this one and i wish you good luck ,sorry i cant help as i have no experience with this

so what are you gonna do then i think you should tell the 2 per cent to cop on and get the hell away from them they are being what they are but you are not your first responsability is to your kids not your parents realise that what your kids see now will damage them later and you know some people dont give a damn about anybody even their own kids be careful that you dont do to your kids what your parents have done to you i wish you luck with your life ,,,drop your parents pick up youre kids and move on down the road

I am the wife of an alcoholic who is now almost 3 years sober so I have an understanding of how you feel. If you need some one to talk to please feel free to email me.
Otherwise I strongly recommend you find some one else to talk to otherwise you are going to end up ill yourself.
Good luck and dont give up hope x

at the end of the day you just need to look after yourselves. your parents can take care of themselves. my mum and dad separated and they told my family it was my fault so i told them just get on with it. they will do what they wont at the end of the day. so just look after you.

hi, i feel for you i really do, my partner craig has an alcoholic mother who really doesnt care about him....then again neither do any of his family...she even kicked him out when he had a broken leg. since we have got together she hasnt been so bad, she is now going to addactions and doesnt seem as bad as she was before but its still constantly there. when she rings its a tricky thing to do when answering the phone, the burning question of is she drunk or isnt she and should i pass the phone to craig or not? he has given up caring i think, he likes her when she hasnt had a drink, he even likes her when she has but is nice at the same time.
can you help them in anyway? have you told them your anguish?
its a hard thing to do to just let go, i think that is something you really need to sit and think about, what positives are they actually giving you?? are there more negative things than positive? do you think they are really good role models for your children, are your children going to grow up thinking that drinking is the best thing to do?
i think craig has let go of his mother now and i think its the best thing he could have done, she rings every now and then to see how we are but really she has no relevance to craig anymore, i think he realises she will never be the mum he wanted.
please think about things clearly in your mind before doing anything you would regret in future tho.
i hope you make the right decision, i hope you can help them.
thoughts are with you.

I am sure people have suggested that you contact Al-anon. I would go to an AA meeting as well.
I know you are not an alcoholic but the support network is tremendous and very knowledgeable.
They are good listeners and they do offer a mentoring service to recovering alcoholics. At the very least you will find someone who understands and to talk to. The AA are a very friendly gang.
Your parents will not stop drinking until they want to. They are happy in oblivion, it is their choice.
You will have to make a decision for your own sanity and let them go. Don't close the door, but you have your own life and family with needs. I wish you well.

if you were my child i know i would be very proud of the way you are dealing with this they must have been wonderful parents for you to stick by them like this if you need someone to listen try me good luck and god bless

my mum's an abusive alcoholic too :(
my dad left and went back to his mothers house when i was a baby, he was a wimp you see.
i feel like smacking the bottles on her head hoping she'll die but i really don't want to either!
i love her loads.. would hate it if i lost her. god knows why! it's so confusing ey.
but my happiness is whenever she is fit for work! a good 6 hours away from her ;]
it must be much, much worse for you though, i can't cope with one, but two?
it must be embarasing for you aswell infront of your children.
i feel for you. i have absolutely no body to turn to. times i really want to, i still can't do it.
and i know it isn't easy for them to just stop drinking.
it drives me crazy when family ask me why can't she just stop buying alcohol and how hard its not.
if you really want to talk to i, you may!
you sound like a really nice person that we don't get these days :)
so many *i*s in this, i feel so self absorbed aha!

have u tried contacting alcoholics anonymous they will be able to tell u where to get help. talking abou t it to someone who knows and understands this type of problem may help u to see things more clearly. my mum has dementia and talking to the alzheimers society really helps me, even just getting things off yr chest can sometimes make u feel better. the other thing u could do is to get yr gp to refer u for counselling. good luck and hope u manage to work it out. i feel sorry for u i could never put my kids thru anything like that.

Hey I am so sorry to hear the grief you are going through.. My three brothers are the same and my mum was when i was a kid.. I have heard of these meetings you can go to for the families of Alocholic and speak to others who have been through this and can offer some advice.

I have also heard that until they reach rock bottom they will not get better. You need to completely turn your back on them and they will come to you when hit rock bottom and they know that they will die without you. This is the hardest thing to do.

I really hope things work out for you

I wish you the best