Why are so many kids afraid to tell the parents?

A lot of health/diet questions on here are children, and they all say they are afraid to tell their parents about their problems. Why? From a nurses point of view, do not be afraid! A lot of children I see, their parents just want to know why they didn't come to them sooner. DO NOT BE AFRAID! Parents were your age once. They been through it too! It helps to have an adult opinion.

Like when there's a question on here about a kid taking pills without telling their parents. If the parents walk in and find the pills, parents will be upset and won't know what to think, so it will have to come out eventually.

If you are afraid of getting in trouble, then explain that you are scared and need help. It will really strengthen the bond between you and your parents, and they know they can trust you because you came to them and didn't hide it.

Any input or comments from parents/kids would be appreciated!

I'm 28 and have a 9 year old.I hope that he will come to me with everything,any question any problem,and i'm teaching him from young age to share things with me cause if you stop asking questions they will stop talking.I wasnt sharing everything with my parents and i think the reason was that they didnt teach me to communicate well.2 weeks ago i took my son on the train ride away from all distractions from all video games and tv and we just talked about everything.You would be surprised how much they want to share and talk.Cause if tv is on and i try to talk to him he will not be able to concentrate and will want to get over with conversation asap.If i ask him how was your day and he says ok,thats not good enough for me.Tell me about ok.What happened in school etc.If they get used to talking and sharing from young age they will not be afraid to come to you.Don't let them pull away.Cause it happens too quickly.Don't judge,listen and give them advice,but don't yell or judge cause thats when they become afraid to talk to you and try to avoid conversations.I try to make it pleasant,so that he is exited about sharing his joys or problems.My friend has a 13 year old girl but she works too much,she asked me to do that same thing with her girl like i do with my son so that she has someone to come to no matter what.It's surprising how much they enjoy it ,if you let them and do it the right way.

Its because we would get into big trouble, and it may be embarrassing

well i mean
its hard
dont u remember when
u were a kid?
u would do sumthing
and ur parents would
get mad at
u and idk
its just that parents are like yea

Wrong..The bond between kids and parents will never be broken UNTIL either has something to HIDE.....Love and difference...we are all the same

Kids want to continue doing whatever it is that will get them in trouble, but they don't want to get hurt by it. They want to have fun with whatever substance or activity that is against the rules, but they don't want to get in trouble for it. If they do have a problem, overdose, side affect, e.g., telling your parents is the last result, as this will lead to if not punishment, at least a temporary end to whatever activity it is that is causing the problem. Why give up something fun just because you overdo it one time if you can get help from people other than your parents and not have to give it up? Also when a child admits to something like this, the parents lose trust in the child, and freedoms are either questioned or taken away. Hence, telling a parent is a last resort.

Sometimes, kids are just not sure, whether what they do or did are approved by their parents. Some parents aren't concern enough to listen to what their children wanted to say except to hear good things come out from their kids, and these lead to confusion. When they felt they are 'neglected', they will usually take things in their own hands, based on what they hear or see or influence from others.

alot of children today feel as though their parent/ guaridian will not understand their concerns, or just write it off as something minor. the way i view it, the youth of today are more health concious and more means of accessing information then their parents, and in some instances, they (the children) are scared if one of their symptoms could possibly be that symptom of say cancer. they care about their parents and dont want to see them worry.

also alot of children are scared on the consiquences of poor decisions and having to tell their parents about it, they hear through the grapevine that Jane who is 13, is pregnant with Toms baby, Tom is 17, ant they heard that Janes parents called her every name in the book but a child of God, and kicked her out of the house. children are afraid that will happen to them also.

Also alot of parents of today, atleast in my area, are not concerned, or do not act concerned when their child comes to them with a problem, because the parent knows all but in actuality doesnt know anything and is afraid to tell the child that they dont, and afraid the child will look at them differently.

Parents and children of today do not spend as much time together like they did back 30- 40 years ago. parents rarely help their children with homework, and rarely do extra curricular activities with their children, even if it is watching TV, because we have become accoustomed to having a TV in every room of the house, therefore children and their parents do not have a strong relationship, and this leads back to your question, which is why children will ask a faceless stranger on the computer who is 3000 mi away what everything adds up to, because they are afraid, that their parents will either brush it off or will be afraid, and the child doesnt want that.

Most kids think that everything about them is more a personal problem and if a parent knows than the adult will go nuts until every facet of the kids life is everyones job to critisize and consult.