How do I tell my parents I'm feeling depressed and suicidal?

Most people would think I feel depressed over a death or something but to tell the truth, not really. I don't know why. Is it the falling relationship between me and my parents?

1)My parents and I fight
2)I get angry, upset and want to cut myself
3)My grades have been falling lately, I'm usually a good student, I've been angry, etchy at my family, wanting to push them away.
4)I usually take my anger out on my little brother, afterwards I feel guilty but don't apologize.
5)If I tell my parents they would think its crap and everything, I'm lying and its an excuse. I've been writing in a journal lately, to try and vent out my anger..

Also I desperately want to quit the Piano, I hate it even though I was the one who wanted it first, when I was eight. Now i'm Thirteen. My parents think I'm being lazy, unresponsible, depsite I've dropped hints and clues about this. I really want to quit, but if I do tell my dad I'm afraid he might get mad at me or kick me out. All over the stupid piano.

I know exactly how you feel.
I remember feeling almost exactly how you described when I was young and living with my parents.
When I was around 13 or 14, I fought with my parents EVERY day about the stupidest things.
I was also really concerned about my grades, my social life, my looks, pretty much everything.

One thing to remember is, no matter how bad you feel, there are tons of people out there who feel just like you or worse.
And believe me, it always passes. Life always gets better.
One thing that I learned how to do when I was around 16 was to project myself about 10 or 20 years into the future.
I'd imagine myself at 26 with a college degree and a promising career with new friends and even a cool boyfriend.
And with my 26 year old self, I would pretend to look back on the things that were bothering me at that moment when I was 16.
When I did this, I would realize that these things that were getting me all angry, depressed or nervous are so insignificant compared to everything else I will do with my life.

Things always seem really bad when you're going through them. By they will always pass. And when they are history, you will always look back and think how stupid you were to make a big deal out of nothing. I've been through some pretty nasty stuff in my life, but I'm still here and happy.

By the way, I also took piano lessons from around 6 years old to 13 years old. I started hating piano lessons at 13 too! Instead of just quitting, I conviced my parents and teacher to start letting me learn songs that I liked instead of doing Mozart and scales all the time. Then, I joined a garage band and had fun with my talent. While I hated the lessons, I never regretted having them. Even though I only took 6 years of lessons, that experience made me better at math and gave me a great appreciation for music. You will still have that for the rest of your life even if you quit taking lessons at 13. Maybe your parents will understand that and appreciate that you just want to move on.

well its perfectly normal to feel like that.. sum times i feel soo frustrated and i go crazy .. but its better to avoid depression stay positive and when you get really depressed take a shower because it calms you down then.. call a friend and chat .. just think of it this way .. in a few years ul be married and happy ..

Do you trust your parents enough to tell them this? I mean, you could just print this out and show it to them. You certainly explained yourself very well here.

If you don't trust your parents to hear this and help you out, maybe a teacher or a counselor at school can help you figure out what to say to them?

It's always really weird to have to tell someone "I'm depressed," but it sounds like you have to figure out how to do it. Pick the easiest person you can find and practice on them. Then have them tell your parent,s or tell your parents yourself.

have them read this post if you can't tell them verbally

Its ok to feel depressed. You dont need a reason like someone dying. If you have a bad relationship with your parents, you can talk to a counselor at school or a trusted teacher. You need to speak to an adult and they will help you feel better. Good Luck.

TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR get them to talk to your parents or get someone from school to do it. You need to get the help that you need and you need to do it fast!!! Tomorrow either call your doctor or school counselor. Get help before you do some thing drastic.

i know it's a tough time for you right now but you can't keep on continuing with your life this way. this must stop.

go to your parents and tell them that you want the fighting to stop, it's definitely not helping you and you are so depressed about it that you are having thoughts of committing suicide. don't think about what they are going to say. because you are definitely NOT kidding.. you can cry out to them. you need their support cause really if you don't have your friends around, they are all you have. they must understand that piano can't put a barrier between you both.
and i think you should apologize to your brother and tell him to understand that you are going through a tough time.

if you feel this way you need to talk with someone.
Depression can hurt you a million ways - sometimes you can't fix it alone. Go to someone that you trust. Write your parents a letter if you can't tell them face to face parents aren't as bad as they always seem. Don't let depression ruin your life - it is something that you can struggle with for life and regret it that you didn't say something earlier. My daughter is 15 now. She had the same exact feelings as you and she was so afraid to tell me - she tried killing herself and ended up in the hospital. She has been on depression medication for 2 years now and she thanks me all the time for changing her life. I suffer from depression myself I know what it is like it has been a lifetime of battling for me. It does get better - with the right support system you will get better a lot quicker. email me if you need to talk renaex5@yahoo.com
Be strong - turn to God he will guide you in the right direction

If you can't discuss this with them, maybe you should talk to a counselor.

Some people I knew sent me to the counselor, when they found out about my situation (which was similar to yours), and the counselor was more than willing to help. He/She will discuss this with your parents and this should open a window between you and your parents to deal with this.

Whatever you decide to do, don't let this get the best of you. You just have a lot of life left in you. Either way I hope you get this settled without harming yourself.

See anger management, self harm, and suicidal thoughts, in sections 4, 16, and 5, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel those urges, rather than taking it out on you brother. Visit you school counselor, and ask if your parents could be contacted about these things, including the piano: it may well be better coming from someone else. They are legally responsible for you until age 18, but it is better to try and get along with your parents. If you have a music teacher, just tell them you have lost interest in the subject, rather than wasting their time, as well. My standard post follows, but antidepressants are unsuitable for young people. See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including occupational therapy, relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 HYDROXYVITAMIN D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml.

print all that out and let them read it

Do a DEARMAN. It's a technique that is taught to people with mental illness to appropriately and effective ask for things they need or want.

D - Describe the situation
E - Express how you feel
A - Assert yourself
R - Reinforce what you need
M - be Mindful
A - Appear confident
N - Negotiate

For example: (You say what you need.)
D - "Mom and Dad I'm suffering from depression." (This is a straight statement, no I feel, I want, I need or because. Keep it short and to the point.)
E - "I am feeling over whelmed and like I am falling more everyday." (This is where you state your feelings. Validate your self. Be concise, being long winded can sound whiny and people will loose focus.)
A - "I need to get some help and I need to have some of the pressures taken off of me." (This is your I need/I want statement. NO BECAUSE, NO BUT)
R - "I realize you may not completely understand me, but I need your help." (You can re-state what is most important, and add a little more if you need.)
M - Check yourself. Check your attitude, your tone of voice, and how you are presenting things. Make sure you are being open and calm.
A - Are you appearing confident? Would you take you seriously if you were on the other side?
N - "I would like to reduce my anger and depression to make the family a little more peaceful. If I can't get some help and support I can make our home a little better." (Be ready for them to say no, or react in a manner other than what you might want. Be ready to negotiate, give some thing to get something. Be ready for them to set the terms. Be ready to accept it.)

You will want to do another one for quitting the piano. One objective at a time.

I wish you luck. I was never able to talk to my parents and it made for some rough years.

parents"hi honey how are you today?"
you"mom/dad, i think i need to see somebody, ive been depressed lately."

and DO NOT quit the piano, i regret it like nobodys business.
everybody fights with their parents at that age, itll get better eventually

i'm 14 and i feel the same way. i think i hav depression and i've dropped hints of suicide and they just blow it off or they ask me how i feel like it's their job. but i think thats just parents. but never commit suicide. cuz the best thing in life is life if that makes any sense. and about the piano thing. if you want to quit, convince ur rents that u really dont want to play. but u should take up another instrument like guitar lessons. i find that i feel better and cope better w/ music. if u want to quit piano thats fine, i really dont blame ya. but music really helps me cope w/ everything in life.

It sounds like you explained yourself pretty well in here. Maybe if you told them what you told them in here, they'd understand a little bit better. It's okay if you feel depressed, but if you truly are depressed, it's important that you get treated. If you just tell them how you feel, they might understand. Tell them that you think you really need help. If you think he might kick you out, have someone to fall back on. Ask a friend if you'd be able to stay with them if he does. That way you wouldn't be on the street. Also do research. It's important to be prepared and know what you're telling them about. Statistics and facts can help a parent to be less scared and worried when their child tells them about their depression and self-injury. If they truly loved you, they'd try to understand what you are going through and try to be supportive.
Best of luck! =]]