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Why dont my parents believe i want to kill myself?


ive been suicidal for 4 years now ever since i was 12, my parents knew, but im so good at hiding it when im at school nobody suspects anything. i dont want them to know, but i dont want to die, but i find myself thinking about which bridge is tall enough to kill me but not cripple me. I think about how many pills i would have to take to end it all and it just wont stop, recently its increased even more, i just think about it every second of everyday. whenever i tell my parents they either laugh at me or think im just acting. i dont want sympathy and i dont want to see my school counselor because she is a psycotic nazi who couldnt care less about students. how can i make my parents understand that im serious about this and get them to help me?

Try writing to them(no not a suicide not) but one when you are calm, and able to clearly think and tell them how you feel.Sometimes writing it down helps when somethings very emotional. If they don't listen try to have a responsible family member(aunt or uncle grandparents etc.) tell them what you feel and if your willing to talk to anyone outside the immediate family, they might take it more seriously, instead of just thinking that its "a Phase" and try to talk to you about it.Bc sometimes when you are in that emotinal state you might regret what you might do to yourself so wait to do it when your calm.

You need to make a confidential appointment with your family doctor and confide in him/her. I'm sorry that your parents are not taking you seriously but please get help.

Can you write your parents a heartfelt letter? It's worth a try.

Please hang in there. If you can get some good medication/therapy, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Ok, hold up for just a second here. If you could read your question the way I just did...
I will tell you WHY. You say "Why don't my parents believe I want to kill myself?"
Then the very next sentence you say ".......but I don't want to die......."

So, what do you EXPECT? You want ATTENTION. And you know that saying "I want to kill myself" will get you LOTS of attention, right? You just don't care if you scare the CRAP out of your parents as long as you get the attention you want. Right? You don't care if your parents are upset. Or your other family members or friends, right? You don't care if they are hurt by what you say, do you? No, that's obvious that you don't care.

Listen....if you REALLY want 'help' then you have to ASK for help. You go up to your parents and you tell them that you are very depressed and that you would REALLY like to talk to a counselor/therapist so that you can get BETTER.
Say....."Mom? Dad? Can I please talk to you? I am very stressed and I would really like to talk to a counselor/therapist about it."
School DOES get tougher in 10th, 11th and especially 12th grade. A LOT tougher. I remember. And I remember how stressed and depressed I was. But I didn't run around telling my mother (my father died of cancer when I was 5) that I wanted to KILL myslef because I KNEW that would send my poor mother right over the edge....you know? I TALKED to my mother and I ASKED her to please take me to see a counselor. And she did. And it actually helped us BOTH.

They're in denial; try crying and tell them, tears make people listen!

Sounds like you are begging for help... Look in your local phone book... find a hotline. They are out there. Have your mom or dad take you to the doctor for whatever reason, and while you are there tell the doctor, and let them know that your parents don't believe you. They will be able to find help for you. Let other family members know what is going on with you. You obviously want help.... get the help you need, even if it is someone besides your parents... they will eventually see that you were being serious the whole time. Whatever you do.... get help!!!!!

i think that no parent would ever want to actually believe their child would want to take their own life, its a realization that is probably one of the hardest to deal with.

You can always go to your local health department, and they will admit you into the closest psychological treatment facility. Or you can call the treatment facility yourself, and they will come and pick you up, and you will begin the treatment you need right away. You do not need your parents to say it is O.K. to do this. You are the only one who can decide when you need help and I am disgusted that your parents are not even reacting to this! Once upon a time, I told my parents the same thing and they did not want to do anything either. Some parents just do not want to even consider the idea that their child is sick in that way. It is hard for them, but harder for you. You need to do something now, life gets better. Good luck.

You should talk with your doctor.

You just want attention......

Suicide is usually done during a psychosis when the mind is leaving reality or separating from the body. Language has decayed and there is less pain too. Mostly white males suicide at the rate of 4 to 1 over females and the females usually go into 'cutting' or 'anorexia' and some into depression and become 'bipolar'. The depression chemicals have to be extremely concentrated in the spinal fluid from the upper brains erasing each depressive thought or bad belief or hope. God knows you are in pain and it's all from living with friends and family. We all go through that stage and some are trying to learn how to cancel bad beliefs about love and life on their own. Some are trying many different pills hoping to find one that dulls everything. Don't give up but keep to your own kind of people. The outsiders need you as you need them to support you. The winners don't really know how to help you anyhow.

talk to me dear i can help you. i survived it. my email is dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try 1800 273 talk to help you thru. hang on.

I'll pray for you. Have you ever asked the Lord into your life? I did and He has helped me and blessed me a lot. Try reading the Bible (New Testament first). Is there a church near you with a teen group?
Proverbs 3:5,6 says "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy paths."
God loves you. He has a good plan for your life and suicide is not it. Please look up these Bible verses: Romans 10:13, Romans 5:8, Romans 3:23, John 3:16.

The easiest way would be to call your doctor and ask them to have you admitted since your parents don't believe you! Your doctor would have to either admit you themselves or call you parents and demand that they have you admitted. IF you don't want to go into the hospital than call your doctor and get a recommendation for a therapist and set up and appointment and let them know that your parents don't believe you. That should get you the help that you need. But if your seriously thinking about it get to your doctor fast.

I do understand. I just went through this with my 17 year old. She wanted to die but at the same time did not want to hurt herself. They said it was a obsessive compulsion with death basically you were focosed on death. With prpoer medication there is light and happyness out there. For my daughter there is alot of relief she no longer wnat to die or hurt her self. You need to talk to everyone who will listen even if they are phyco until you get to the place were they van help you. A last resort is your county hospital or any hospital wants you rell them your parents are informed of the responsibiliy they have for you as well as the hospital follows up. It gets better keep reaching out. You are here for a reason stick around to find out what it is.

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