I suffer from panic because of all the abuse i put up with from family i am so scared of leaveing my house because of the way i look and my condition i was always made fun of and hit i don't remember my childhood at all . I ahve lost so many people in my life cause of my condition.and other things i am afraid of being away from home i am on meds for my panic disorder but live in constent fear what can i do .... i get pushed to do things all the time and i am scared to do them i have tryed so many things and it don't help. please i need some help some how . i am not in perfect health as it is but i wish i can have my life bk but from what doctors say i have a mental problem and well need i say more.? I also suffer from panic attacks and extreme anxiety. I can not handle having people standing near me so I cant stand in line at the shops, or enter a small crowded shop. I cant go on public transport and I have a panic attack the second I close my eyes to sleep, EVERY NIGHT!!!!! So I end up staying awake most nights and as I have three children the next morning is sooooo hard!!!
Meds dont work and I also have hardly any friends.
But the thing with Panic Attacks is really its all in your head! YOU CAN CONTROLL THEM.
Yes this is extremly difficult and for some impossible but it can be done. Although I have panic attacks I never let it get out of controll like it used to. I dont need to go into hospital anymore and it never gets to the point where im hyperventilating any more. I cant controll the emotional feelings but I can controll the physical ones, like the electricity that zaps me, the quickend heart beat, the sweating and hyperventilating. It comes down to mind over matter, relaxation and breathing excersises. no one can tell you how to do this, you need to focus and find out what works for you. But the way to stop youself hyperventilating is easy!!! you breath in through your nose VERY SLOWLY and as you breath out through your mouth VERY SLOWLY you say in your mind 'relax'. do this three times and then see if you can return to normal breathing. if not yet do it again and keep doing it untill your calm. NEVER think, oh my god im having a panic attack!!!! NEVER focus on whats happening to your body, NEVER think about how scared you are. Clear your mind and focus on the word RELAX. If you can do this then you are on the road to recovery. If your friends dont understand then their not worth having as friends. Tell them the truth and if they dont get it its their loss. Goodluck. I'm sorry for your situation. I think that you are moving in the right direction in asking for help. I think that a psychologist might be able to help you by listening and giving you some coping skills to help you live your life the way you want to. Good luck to you. Sorry you are having to go through this, Welcome to the club, mine was an accident"head injury" you just have to take one day at a time and keep taking the meds. I have tried and still do volunteer at the Hospital District. It provides some balance as to what other people go through and gives me some perspective. Let me ask you something...when you say you were pushed to do things, but were afraid, when you did them anyway... did you ever give yourself any credit for being brave??? Do you give yourself the credit for the bravery to cry for help? Do you want to get rid of the fear-stinkin thinkin once & for all?
...I can show you a few things that will free you from the bondages of the fears you possess...yes, you can have your life back.. choose a new one...A life that gives you what you need to suceed...in everything...without fear governing your life...remember...YOU are the only one who either can choose in this life for yourself all the best that life has to offer...or a life that holds onto the fears in the past and keeps you living in the uncomfortable-comfort zone you have created for yourself....win...or loose... you choose...I dont know what you believe about God & I dont know what you know about spiritual things, SO I need to say out right I am NOT religious, but a believer of Gods word. And having learned the knowledge that we are spiritual beings with a soul (which consists of the emotions, feelings, intuitions)...in a physical body (which is the mind, the world) we think on three levels...the spirit, the soul and the body..we fight on all levels to become who we need to be, but we choose to do so or not...God gave US this choice, he is a perfect gentle man, I, like him dont force belief on people or judge anyone...this is how I believe..and through the knowledge of my belief...I will let you in on a great secret...fear is a spiritual force....& guess what...fear is afraid...yes..you heard me....fear is afraid...he is afraid of the truth--because truth will set you free from his grasp. Because as soon as you realize the truth he can get in your face with his past scenerios...and you have the weapons to show him up for the liar he is.... So lets search the truth here and get you out of fears grips....forever
First...You need to realize that "what you give your attention to grows"...so quit giving fear a stage...no audience...no play...two...your mind needs to tell your heart some things...like the past is just that...past, but you were abused and it sounds like horribly, you grew up and did the best you could to get thru it and so did the people before you and you did get thru it, give yourself the credit that you are a survivor! You made it this far...and are doing the best you can do right now for yourself to survive....give yourself credit and shut the voice up that is constantly trying to keep the bad in your face and mind...give yourself a chance to believe you can now get over it and realize tht your little child inside is still there...scared...you are an adult now and need to heal the child within a great book to read is coming home by john bradshaw...tell your child you are an adult now and you did survive and you will protect your child from now on and realize that you are now your own parent, quit the abuse..break the chain, your a survivor not a victim...then let go...to let go of the pain from yesterdays, forgive..thats right...you will not stand before God for anything that was done to you...but what you do to them and when you forgive someone for what they have done to you, all the pain is taken from your heart and when you realize they will stand up before God for what they did to you, (you cant plant tomatoes and get corn)... you realize they will pay dearly..you can forgive anyone who's hurt you..learn to look behind their actions. why were they abusing you?, were they abused themselves, were they lashing out in pain? I have found in my healings many people were themselves abused, some so much more than me, and I broke the chains in my own family. Is this a family chain that needs to be broken? You are brave enough to break it...really...You need to learn to stay in the "now". It is the only reality you have~right this minute...now...no past...and the future is not here yet...nothing in the past can hurt you anymore..its gone..the effects may still haunt you but the past is over..learn from it, then quit giving it ANY attention..after you forgive the people in your past...forgive yourself...for everything. if you are still in the abuse..get out of it now...you deserve to have a good life, the past needs to be reckoned with but it is not a prison....define who you are scared of and why...look directly at the fear, the person, if you can talk with them and find out were they abused?...was it physical, mental or emotionally or all of it...if you cant talk to them get a chair and do the empty chair teqnique...when you are alone and wont be bothered and pretend that the person is sitting there, get a pic if you can to make it more real or visualize them there and say what you have been wanting to tell them all this time..realize they cant hurt you anymore...get the anger out of your heart towards the abuse, the people..a child should not have to go thru that..period. And you were wounded, but you survived, quit being the walking dead, realize you have been keeping you in the abuse and forgive yourself and now when you see it in a different light and we know about the abuse, we can see it has no power over us any longer and give yourself the truth to know it IS over and now you have a chance to grow above it and put it just where it belongs...in the past...you need to realize YOU are the only one keeping you there, do you still feel the need to be punished? why? start to question yourself about the things you believe...are you still using the survival mode you did when you were being abused? If you cover it in fear, you dont have to deal with it...but thats not the truth..the truth is you are choosing to deal with it and have asked the general public to help you...that is very brave...you need to do a heavy self inventory of who you are...and what beliefs you hold that are now not true any longer...like the past defines you and you cant escape it...study yourself as if you have never met you and really take a honest look at who you are from where you came from, distance yourself and take a look at your life as if it were someone elses, what would you tell that person? Take inventory: get a note pad and sit & write 10 things you love about you?, 10 things you want in your life?, 10 things you would change if you could, why? 10 things you want to become? 10 ways I have survived the abuse? 10 things I am not afraid of? 10 things that even though I was afraid I did anyways? 10 ways I can improve my life? after you do some self inventory, (always keep the voice that is trying to jam on you or judge your shut down) examine the "you" that has been buried beneath the fears...you are so much braver than you are giving yourself credit for..a great website to explore yourself and change your life with a treasure load of life teachers and good thoughts to fill the brain is www.thesecret.tv...enter..go to secret gifts, then scroll down to the girl on the lawn and watch the video and say the sayings out loud, it will enspire you! And when fear rears its ugly head when the brain is full of good things...fear cannot come in..it trys, but then you slap him with of all your victories over him and he leaves...but you will be too busy planning your new adventures in life to explore so you probably wont even hear his lame excuses to try to stay on you...your to busy painting the canvas of your life...without fear so go for it...have fun...stop the abuse...start living...break the chain and blessing... |
