I think i have ptsd , from the loss of my mum 4 years ago which i never confronted.Now im confronting this has

anyone got any tips on how to cope with ptsd, or what i should expect now im confronting the death?

See a doctor for a referral to a psychologist. Then you can be properly diagnosed and receive support in a structured way. PTSD is not an easy thing to recover from.

sorry to hear about your mum,i lost mine 6year ago and yes it is hard to come to terms with the loss but you will in time.all the best

greiving is something that in life we have to do and there is no easy way to do it. i would suggest howver that you try to keep your spirts up and think of the good memories you had and know that your mother is at peace and in a better place then you right now. read your bible, psalms 31.

For most people, the emotional effects of traumatic events will tend to subside after several months; if they last longer, then a psychiatric disorder may be diagnosed. Most people who experience traumatic events will not develop PTSD - PTSD is thought to be primarily an anxiety disorder and should not be confused with normal grief and adjustment after traumatic events. It is also possible to suffer (comorbidity) of other psychiatric disorders; these disorders often include clinical depression, general anxiety disorder and a variety of addictions. PTSD may have a delayed onset of months, years or even decades and may be triggered by an external factor or factors.

i lost my parents quite close together 6 years ago, and i suffered quite badly, the only thing that helped me was counselling, and most importantly, TIME. i still get quite stressed about it, but eventually you will learn to cope, but talking def. helps. all the best of luck whatever path you choose to take

Praying always helps, good luck and I as well will pray for you.

I lost my mom very suddenly nearly 2 years ago. She was only 47, I was 30. Unlike you, It hit me hard and fast. I felt paralyzed. I know that sounds funny but it's true. If there was ever a time I thought that pure grief and misery could kilI a person, namely me, it was then. But the old saying, Time Heals is true. But it takes time to pass and during that stage you will experience a lot of emotions. For me I was just consumed with it. It felt like I was walking around in a nightmare. I still have a hard time coping with it. But I have learned to slowly accept it and I can think of her now without breaking down and sobbing. She was your mum and there is no love like the love between a mother and child. She is still with you, albeit not in the physical form. You must have sensed this. God bless you and I hope we both can mend the wounds we have and live life happy. Which is exactly how our mothers would have wanted it.

I lost my mom 9 yrs ago.I don't think you have ptsd but you should talk to a counselor and get whatever your holding in off your chest.I think of my mom all the time and my kids always ask about her because they never got to meet her. Its good to talk about her and how she was its helps you heal.You'll never stop missing her but you will be able to accept she is gone.Hope This helps .Good Luck :)

I hope you're seeing a qualified clinical psychologist, and consider joining a support group. Good luck to you.

its hard losing your mum try to talk to someone, remember your mum always loves you, love does not die and you will be together again, she is in a loveley place with the lord and God loves her more than anyone. He loves you too and you mum is no longer experiencing the pain she had on this earth, take care you mum is in a beautiful place now full of warmth light and love. read your bible and talk to God. Your mum still loves you as ever she did and wants the best for you, love never dies.

Hi there, so sorry to hear about your mum. In terms of PTSD, unless she died in a particularly traumatic way and you were somehow a party to this event, then it is unlikely that you would attract the diagnosis of PTSD. However, this is by no means meant to diminish how you feel or to underestimate the trauma associated with your loss. Many people experience what is known as "complex bereavement", where they are unable to move on from a loss for whatever reason (and this could be because they didn't acknowledge it and go through the recovery process at the time of the event, as you seem to say). It would probably be wise to try and get some professional support. If you are based in the UK, there is an organisation called CRUSE, who specialise in counselling after bereavement and they should be able to assist you.
I hope that this helps and I wish you all the best for the future.