Nursing home?

I'm going to have to put my dad into a nursing home.
His Alzheimer鈥檚 is so bad that he thinks the neighbors are trying to kill us. He truly believes that and I have to stop him from hurting people.

I'm scared to death! His temper has gotten worse he yells and throws things at me and other people.

When he gets upset he bashes himself in the fore head until he draws blood. He goes outside and screams and curses at the neighbors.

I have to hide things that he could use as weapons.

But I'm not sure how to put him in a nursing home. I鈥檓 scared that If I talk to an agency that they will come to my house and ask him questions and that I fear he will retaliate.

He has told me that If I or anyone else tries to put him in a nursing home that he would me then himself.

he's very delusional and violent. How can I put him in a nursing home without a full blown war?

What can I do? I need help before I or someone else gets hurt.

You poor thing as well as your dad. First, do you have family that will support you in this? If so, start using them, ask them for help, but you will need to lead the way. Second, but probably first, pray for guidance. I'm sure your dad is sweet before this disease and all elderly deserve love no matter what. Thirdly, there is Alzheimer's association. You need to get him to a place that is safe for him. Sometimes waiting lists can be long. Plan now, today.

go to this website: http://www.alz.org/index.asp

Call anyone there, they will direct you to someone you can tlak to you your state, I'm not sure where you are located.

Also, talk to a priest, does he have a priest, they will help you with the spritual side.

Contact the nursing homes and ask them about it. Unfortunately their first question is always going to be what kind of insurance does he have. Does he have medicate, does he have supplemental insurance.

I'm really sorry you are going through this with your father, it's probably the hardest thing you've ever had to do in your life. But you must look out for his best interests.

Talk to his doctor about his episodes.

Do you have power of attorney for him? If you've got all the legal documents that say YOU are in charge then I don't think anyone will come talk to him, BUT if you don't then they may need to talk to him and get his permission before they can even treat him.