Ive just lost my Grandaughter to Neuroblastoma and im not coping or grieving WHY?

Hi ive been on here before when iwas told that my little princess was diagnosed with terminal neuroblastoma .We lost her on the 7th of Oct and i was with her .I saw her die saw her buried but still cannot believe or take it in .

I think you got some good answers
about what you are feeling now. I looked at some of them and they are right on.
You need to know that your feelings--or lack of them right now are normal. To lose a granddaughter is so devastating
as to be completely incomprehensible
to anyone but the hardest of hearts.
If you granddaughter could talk to you
she woulde tell you she loves you. Keep you eyes open for a sign from her.
God bless,
prayers for you and granddaughter

you are going through denial it's a normal stage of grieving

Sorry to hear about your loss my condolescences to you at this tough time/ Grief has not time scale honey take care of you and give yourself time. Talk with your family and share the happy time stories that your grandaughter gave you and them . God bless

Eve,

I'm so sorry to hear of your daughter's death. I can only imagine how overwhelming it is and it's no wonder that you might feel numb. I hope she didn't suffer.

Everyone grieves in their own way as are you. You might still be in shock and numb...that's part of grieving and very normal. Don't push yourself to feel something you don't yet. The reality of her loss will come in its own time and you will grieve in your own way.

Then, be with your feelings, without pushing them away. If you have a religious faith, turn to it at this time. Remember your daughter and give thanks that she was in your life. God bless.

it is what we called DABDA, the process of being LOSS OF SOMETHING. like loveones, relatives, work, and etc.

d- denial
a-angry
b-bargaining
d-depression
a-acceptance

You are still in a stage called "denial". Everything must have happened so fast you can't believe it has happened. One day, all of a sudden, it will. Prepare yourself ahead of time if you can, because sometimes you really lose it. I lost a younger sister a few years ago. She was ill since she was a teen though, so it wasn't totally unexpected. Still it came as a shock. Since you can get on line, you may want to check some of the"grief counseling sites" or with a therapist, when you do start to grieve. Grief is a natural process though, so when it comes, go through it as best as you can. I'm truly sorry for your loss:(. Good luck, and God bless you and your family.

The grieving process has different stages. You may still be in the first, denial stage. More info on the different grieving stages here:
http://www.memorialhospital.org/library/...

and sorry to read about your loss.