First time sex with my girlfriend and now I'm worried. Can you read my situation and give me some advices?

Hi, my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time recently. Without condoms, we avoided the intercourse and tried to keep any sperm from reaching the vagina. However, we did have oral sex. Now i'm worried. Is there a chance of us getting any infections, diseases or even getting pregnant? Because now I'm thinking the "WHAT IF" a tiny speck of sperm unnoticeably got on her vagina? And hearing what oral sex can transmit, I'm just really worried about the both of us. How do we transmit diseases? Are these diseases something we would've known by now? Although we said we were going to avoid it as best as we can, could it be possible? What should I do? This is really getting on my nerve. I don't want to risk anything and get her pregnant or sick. Should we see the doctor or something? How should I resolve this conflict? How safe are condoms, pills etc? Would pills harm the girl in any way or just How should i come about this situation?

Yes, you can transmit STDs by oral sex and to be safe you should use a condom. They sell flavored condoms so you don't have to suck on something that tastes like latex. Both of you should go to the doctor, where you can ask all these questions and they can give you not only the answers, but they can also help you with whatever you need such as tests, condoms, birth control, etc. Do you guys live in the U.S.? Planned Parenthood is a great place to go if you live in the U.S. They are super nice and will answer all your questions, give you the tests you need and oftentimes they give out free or discounted condoms and birth control.

Although using birth control, whether condoms, the pill, or another form, lessens the risk of getting your girlfriend pregnant, nothing is foolproof. It's important to weigh the risks and benefits of having sex before you actually do it. I take the pill and use condoms to decrease the risk of getting pregnant. Using a condom is the best way to prevent the transmission of STDs, although they're not 100% foolproof.

Good luck and have fun! :)

yes there is a chance of disease and pregnanacy condoms and birth control are 99% effective and no they wont hurt the girl, go to the doctor and get checked and be smarter!

STD's can be spread through oral sex, and often you will not know you have them until you get tested. You should both get tested now to put your mind at ease.

dude stop worring just a tiny bit of sperm will not get her pregnant..
your dumb go check with your doctor you should have used a condom dude there are chances of you having a disease ask her if she has ever had sex before .if she has alot of times you may have got a disease

Wow- Kevin- poster child for unplanned pregnancy. All it takes is one to get in there to get her pregnant. You can get her pregnant with pre-***, which you may not even realize is there. Next time use protection as soon as you lose the clothes. You can transmit disease through oral sex, though if it was your first time, you shouldn't have had any to give her. She could possibly give you some (mainly herpes from cold sores), but the chances are small just due to the way your anatomy is (not impossible though).
Next time, be more careful. And if you are this worried about it, you weren't ready to have sex.

ok.... unless you're trying to get her pregnant you should always us AT LEAST a condom.... they are about 92% effective i believe... and the pill is about 99.9% effective..... the pills won't harm the girl but it will take a while for it to start working and be effective...... the only way to transmit any STD's is if one of you have then have sex (esp. unpertected sex) with someone..... so i'd first be completely honest with each other and ask one another if they have any STD's.... and if niether one of you have had sex then you SHOULD be fine but i wouldn't bet my life on it..... if she misses her period then she might want to get one of those home pregnency tests..... but stressing out about it won't help the situation...... the same sort of thing happened to me and my boyfriend but we did have a condom..... i was just scared that i'd be that one percent that the condom would fail....... lol

First of all, calm down. Unless your penis was all the way in her vagina she is not pregnant. That "tiny speck of sperm" that touched her vagina is not going to make its way through the cervix, into her uterus, through the fallopian tubes and fertilze an egg. No way papa.

Yes, you can get STD's by oral sex. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can be passed. So can herpes simplex. If you get these you will more than likely have some symptoms. If you don't have any symptoms and your partner does not have any symptoms then relax.

So you can relax as long as you or your partner is not having any unusual symptoms. If so see a doctor. If not, start using a condom.

Any little bit if sperm that comes in contact with the vagina, including pre-***, can cause a pregnancy. That's why the pull-out method doesn't work. You can't get pregnant from just having oral sex. If she is the only partner you have ever had, and you are her only, there is a low chance of you guys having an STD, but you should use some kind of protection anyway just to be safe. Use condoms EVERY time, and maybe the both of you go get checked out by a Doctor to make sure neither of you have anything that you can give to the other. Condoms are sage but they can break and sperm can get out. Birth control pills wont harm a girl, if anything it helps, minimizes cramps, regulates her periods, and stops eggs from dropping. The only bad thing about it is that it lowers the Libido (sex drive)

You should check with your doctor just incase but hes what i think:
1) STDs: if its your both of your first time then the chances are you dont have stds, so theres nothing you can spread to each other. However, try to avoid oral sex when you have cold sores because a cold sore is a strain of the herpes virus and they are very contageous so its easy to pass it from one's mouth to the genital area and they are difficult to distinguish apart and are very unpleasent. So just lay off the oral sex until the cold sore goes away. Also to avoid any kind of sex if your gf has an yeast infection and wait until that clears up as well, because dudes can get yeast infections too. Other then that, your are good to go, and theres nothing to worry about. Unless its wasnt your first time, then you should get a check up just incase or ask your doctor about it at your next checkup.
And its always best to use a condom, though they dont garuntee 100% protection, they are still your best bet.

2. Pregnancy: you can have semen in your pre-ejaculates and she may/ may not get pregnant from that, no matter how hard you try to avoit it from getting into her... just NEVER do that again, unless u want to end up with a baby. And because you are so worried, tell her to visit her doctor though its too early to tell if shes pregnant. but just to be on the safe side, they have the morning after ( or 2 days after) pills widely available now so she can talk to her doctor to see if thats an option. If it makes you feel any better, pregnancies dont occur that often by doing what you did, but it does happen soemtimes. So according to statistics, thers a higher probability she is not pregnant.
Also, before you sleep with soemone, its always a good idea to ask about their sexual history and use a condom, it'll save you the stress and paranoia later.

First of all, go to the doctor and get tested, especially if either of you have had previous partners. Yes, it's scary, but it's better in the end. I personally don't trust condoms now, as I had one break during sex before I got on the pill and of course it happened New year's day so trying to find a doctor to give me the morning after pill was nearly impossible. I ended up getting a lecture from this old male doctor about how I was too young for sex. Geeze. Well soon after I talked to my mom about getting on the pill and I got on it. Then I quit using condoms cuz I tohught I was in a monogomous relationship. Think again. Oh well. Then when my boyfriend and I got into our relationship we never used condoms. I didn't end up getting tested till later same with my bf but we were both lucky cuz we were clean. Since we are now in a comitted relationship, i don't use condoms. I'm on the patch now, which is an option if your girlfriend tends to have bad memory. Once a week. There are other options as well, so talk to your doctor.