Depression after Miscarriage?

Back in August, I experienced a miscarriage. We caught the pregnancy very early on, before I even missed my period. When I miscarried, I was six weeks along. My boyfriend and I are in a VERY long distance relationship, and I feel like since the miscarriage, things have fallen apart. I feel awful all the time lately... I was fine for a while, but now every time I see a baby, or everytime I hear about someone losing a child, I lose it completely. I burst into tears no matter where I am. It's embarrasing and frustrating, but I feel like I was robbed of so, so much. I don't really know what to do... I feel odd because for the first few weeks after the miscarriage, I was an absolute wreck but then I was fine... and now I'm worse than I was before. I just don't know what to do.

I AM SO SOORY HUNNY ! I KNOW EXACTLY HOW U FEEL I HAD THE SAME THING BACK IN JANUARY I WAS REALLY BAD FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS CRYING EVERY DAY AT LEAST 3X'S A DAY BUT EVENTUALLY AND VERRY SLOWLY I HEALED I STILL THINK OF THE DAY I WAS DUE AUG 25 IT STILL UPSETS ME BUT WE HAVE TO MOVE ON ! MAYBE IT JUST WASNT THE PERFECT TIME IN UR LIFE ALTHOUGH IT SEEMS HARD RITE NOW U WILL GET BETTER (WISH U ALL THE BEST ) GOOD LUCK .....HUGS

It's natural to feel that way.

It happened to me a few times.

It takes a while, you'll never be over it... but think how much happier you will be when you finally have a child.

Express your fears to your boyfriend. If he loves and cares about you, I'm sure he'll understand what you're feeling.

You're having a normal grief reaction to a big loss. Unfortunately a lot of people don't understand and say unhelpful things like, "You'll have another one," which diminish what you're going through.Allow yourself to have these feelings and talk to your boyfriend about them. Don't try to go through it all alone. Don't forget after a couple months, your hormones can still be out of whack, too, and that can contribute to off kilter emotions. If you have to, seek out a therapist so that you are able to sort out some of your feelings. All the best to you.

having a miscarriage can be a traumatic event and more so for those who have done something they shouldn't have done which may have been a contributing factor, but one thing for sure, there is nothing any of us can do to change the past, if you are a person of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ know that you will meet that child in heaven if you are saved someday, but until then live in the here and now using the past as experience for the future, your stress about this sad event maybe also stressing your relationship then again it could expose a weakness in that relationship which might help you in preventing a bigger mistake, best wishes!

I'm so sorry hon
That is terrible.
I would mever get over it if it happened to me.
I guess all i have 2 say is "learn from your mistakes" and "be careful next time.
I hope you start feeling better.
*sniff* *sniff*

Treatment may include supportive therapy, such as changes in lifestyle and behavior, psychotherapy, complementary therapies
Once you are being treated for depression, you can make lifestyle changes and choices that will help you through the rough times and may prevent depression from returning:

Try to identify and focus on activities that make you feel better. It is important to do things for yourself. Don't isolate yourself. Take part in activities even when you may not want to. Such activity may actually make you feel better.


Talk with your friends and family and consider joining a support group. Communicating and discussing your feelings is an integral part of your treatment and will help with your recovery.


Try to maintain a positive outlook. Having a good attitude can be beneficial.


Regular exercise and proper diet are essential to good health. Exercise has been found to increase the levels of the body's own natural antidepressants called endorphins.


Try to get enough rest and maintain a regular sleeping pattern.


Avoid drinking alcohol or using any illicit substances.

I can empathize because I am dealing with a miscarriage too. I think that it really must trigger something in our brains that leave us feeling outrageously depressed and feeling so isolated. I hate it when other people tell me about their miscarriages because I feel like this is MY experience and I don't care what they went through right now. However, you are reaching out with this post so I figure you won't mind.

I have read that there are links between depression and miscarriage. I am seriously considering seeing a counselor. I want to conceive again soon so I don't want to go on depression medication. But there are medications that you can take that will temporarily help you through this very difficult time. Just like when you were pregnant and your hormones made you feel so sad, so happy or so angry-- there is something that miscarriage does to our brain chemistry. They are just starting to study the linkages between depression and miscarriage bc for so long it was just this quiet thing that no one really wanted to talk about.

Get some help and hopefully, your feelings of isolation from your boyfriend will get better when you feel better.