Mental health question..What diagnosis?

My mom has no friends, does not socialise, but does go out to the shops and that's it. When we were young, she used to shout at us and hit us; the had obvious anger isses. I do think she and my dad are manipulative with the use of guilt. We wre not allowed friends in the home as she did not trust them. When I was young, I thought this was normal for all families until I left home at 16. What mental health issue do you think she has? Is it BPD or depression?

omg that is exactly like my mum except she's not violent...she just sucks the life out of me mentally. she needs help. all people like this need help. i think they've lost all connection with who they are...sorry i'm in no position to give a diagnosis. maybe she should consult a professional...i wish mine would. im nearly 18 and hoping to move out soon :D
good luck!

oh and spoiled rotten...you obviously don't know what it's like to live with a mentally unstable, antisocial person who complains all the time and fears everything and doesn't trust anyone. obviously you weren't raised by someone like that so don't make the kind of comments that show how "spoiled rotten" you are.

Hi, thanks for the best answer. Yeah I really know what you're going through, I've been struggling with it for a long time. I'd really like to talk to you if you don't mind, I'll send you an email :) Report It

ohhhhh um it is hard to say. it might be bipolar or something may have happened eariler in her life(b4 u were born) to just make her go nuts. that does happen. :/

depression

bi polar is possible but there are degrees of this and i wouldn't like to say without more info. Mood changes are symtomatic of depression, lack of self-estem, inability to cope and BPD is an extreme case; either way a psychiatric evaluation should be done. You may find there are root problems going back far into the past. Just be supportive as you can't force someone to get help.

It could be anything. Only a Dr. could diagnose her. She could just be very shy. My parents tended to be over protective...yelled and spanked us. That's called a child of the 60's. She may be depressed but your description doesn't indicate any of the typical depression symptoms.

ya know..just because someone acts like a meany (for lack of better term so i wont get a violation), doesnt mean they are mentally ill. They could just be plain mean selfish people.

Do u think its a mental health issue rather than personality. It could be, but it would be hard to say. I think the only real diagnosis if there was a mental health issue is from a mental health practitioner.
Are u asking because u think u might have inherited a mental health problem?
Depending on her age it could be depression or could it be something like Alzheimer's starting up ( you dont have to be old for it to start) (go to a website describing this disease for info). Really not able to say because a practitioner would be the best person to consult.

I dont think your mum has something that needs a diagnosis, what would that achieve?

There might be an element of depression, but maybe it is more that she resents you for having a life; because she does not have one, she doesnt want you to have one and lose you. If that makes sense.

Did she shout at you for particular reasons or just for the sake of it? Does she work?
She may be bored and lonely at home and lashing out perhaps unintensionally because you're the only people there.

I dont know if that helps, but not everything needs a diagnosis, you need to look at the behaviour and reasons behind and think from their point of view.

more like the fact that you didnt like the discipline that you were given for being bad.most do this.your trying to blame it on some else for your misbehavior.

not all behavior is related to any mental illness or disability. sometimes it's just the way a person is or how they were raised. your mom may not have friends or socialize because she is unpleasant to be around. since she isn;t a recluse and does go out, it's obvious she isn't phobic about going out. you say she shouted and hit when you were younger- looking for mental illness to "explain" abuse is never a good choice. you also say both of your parents were manipulative and used guilt tactics. sounds more to me like your mom is just out for getting her way than anything else. even if she has periods where she's depressed, that's normal... true clinical depression would not present the way you are describing. bi polar also does not fit the way you have described the situations.
while it's true that there are varying degrees of illness with depressin and bi polar, both have some definate hallmarks that don;t appear in what you have described. that's not to say it's not there, but only a professional evaluation would determine that.

Depression but not likely to be. Maybe someting else that need the details of her life story. I don't think that she had the BPD. Mental health is common happens to all of us in this world but it can be measured whether its only common, mild or hard even the doctors also have it. I can't give the final diagnosis about her as I need to see her better. Don't worry.

There is a condition called Social Phobic. Imagine for a moment what its like when you see something that really scares you for instance a spider, maybe your an arachnophobia, when you have a phobia of spiders or snakes or mice or whatever, your adrenaline rushes, you break out in a sweat, you heart rate increases maybe you feel an urgent need to empty your bowels, all this can happen to person who is phobic of socialising, i.e. going out and having to meet people, this will lead to depression and in extreme cases agoraphobia. Your Mum goes to the shop because she has to, I bet if she could get away with not going she would! I would have thought all this undiagnosed would explain her aggressive attitude and fear of you having friends around to visit. But your not the only one who has had to suffer this kind of childhood and it is not right. You can't change the past and you can't change your parents and bizarre but true most parents think they brought up their children perfectly and seem to somehow ignore the things which hurt you the most. They some how move any guilt that you feel should be there onto anyone and anything else bar themselves. Don't be to heavy on them especially your Mum as she obviously has some major unsolved issues, just enjoy your life and don't carry a chip on your shoulder about the past as it's been and gone and there's alot of really good life out there to be had!!!!!!!!!!

Everything you have said describes my mum. I be looking at the answers your given.

Many people behave in ways we might not understand but this does not mean that they are mentally ill. Perhaps something happened in her life hat has made her self protective. Paranoia is part of the human condition and not necessarily a sign of illness. She would probably benefit from having someone to talk to to unload a personal problem. Perhaps there was something you were unaware of in your parents relationship. Personally I would steer clear of, "professional " help. She could end up on anti-depressants or anti-psychotics which are more likely to worsen her condition.

I don't see anything in your post that corresponds to a specific mental health diagnosis. It sounds like you're trying to place your mom into a category you can go read about to help make sense of your abusive childhood.

Even though it's not clear your mom has a mental disorder, that dosen't mean she wouldn't benefit from some mental health counseling to help her with her anger and trust issues. People don't need to qualify for a diagnosis to seek help for problems in their life.

Could be menopause.