Is is possible to pull yourself out of depression? Am I the cause of my depression? The reason I feel like I..

Is this about me, did I do this to myself? Can I chose to change it? How? I don't eat, I don't sleep, I cry all the time. I can't manage to take care of myself let alone my son and husbands needs when I am have a mood swing. I have no breaks, no escape, no time, I can't drive (due to a fx ankle), I am a prisioner of my house. I have sought other help, but its about working around other peoples schedules. Then I have no friends or fmaily where i just moved to, no one to talk to. No one to trust. No one to leave my son with if even just an hour. My dreams don't help me. I started a new medication, but I think I am getting worse. I think I need to call the Dr monday and see her about this. I am scared, I am worried.

No church, yet. But my husband is fully aware of whats going on, but i think i am making it harder on him. He is supportive

Depression is a neurochemical imbalance. You cannot "pull yourself out of it". Not alone. This takes professional help and medication prescribed by your doctors. And finding the correct meds is trial and error.

Things will begin to improve when you find the right meds and when your ankle is healed.

When your doctor says it's OK to do so, reach out to other people. Take a class, do some volunteer work, whatever. It gets you out of the house and puts you in contact with other people with whom you have at least one thing in common. That's how you start to make friends.

You need to give the medication time to start working. It takes up to 3 weeks for antidepressants to work. You need to be on medication. You didn't do this to yourself!!!
Sorry you don't have a support system where you are now. Do you go to a church? You could let the minister know and they could send some help.
Good luck!!!

don't wait until Monday-call your doctor now. When did you have your son? Is it something to do with that? You're under tons of stress, that's obvious-it doesn't matter if "you did it to yourself", you need help now. I've been through all of this and more. If you need a friend, I'm here. I also have friends all over the country who could be your friend. Where are you?

If I WAS FEELING LIKE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW, I'D CALL THE CRISIS HOTLINE; OR GO TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM. YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSED BECAUSE YOU BRING IT ON YOURSELF; WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD WANT TO FEEL LIKE YOU DO RIGHT NOW? BUT I DO THINK YOU NEED TO GET HELP. ONE OF THE ANTIDEPRESSANTS, I READ SOME WHERE, CAN CAUSE YOU TO HAVE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND OR CAN MAKE YOU FEEL VIOLENT! GO TO THE ER AND FIND OUT WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY, AND REQUEST A PHYSICRIATRIC NURSE OR DOCTOR TO CHECK YOU IN. THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT IS GOING TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO HELP YOU!

well get to a counselor and see a psychriatrist asap and get on medication not ur fault but try to keep busy get out and about and be around loved ones and take care of urself

I have suffered from depression also, and no, you do not do it to yourself. Can you choose to change it - yes you can. You have taken the first step by seeking professional help. If you cannot get out of your house, then might I suggest you brighten up the surroundings you are in. having no family or friends is hard but have you thought of telephoning a support group? They will have lots of resources to help you, seek out groups online that bring people together also in dealing with this and in this you can make friends in other ways until you are in a place where you can do this for yourself. You do not have to be alone in this.

You are not the cause of your depression. You cannot pull yourself out of a depression. You need to actively seek and continue counseling. You may need medication(s), you may need to change medication once in awhile. You may be on medication for awhile. Seek help from social service agencies, some will transport you. Consult with several churches to get phone numbers for agencies and people who will help you. You can do a lot of groundwork on the phone, it may take a lot of calls but it can be done. There are agencies, groups out there looking for people to help. Good Luck to you.

In your case, you can't do it by your self. See an MD. ASAP.In the mean time love your self. and believe in God. HE/SHE believes in you.

Your getting too much into the negative depressed mindset. Stop thinking all that negative stuff it will just make you feel worse. Be more positive. If you have no friends find a way to be more outgoing and make some new ones. You just moved to a new home.. you cant expect everything to happen immediately. It takes time to get used to a new area and make new friendships. You should see this as a new adventure instead of the end of the world. When you cant sleep at night do what i do ... visualize each one of your worries one by one disappearing out of your head and floating away.... It really helps me :) Good luck .. I hope you start to feel better soon!

By doctor, I am assuming that you are talking about a psychiatrist who should be evaluating your needs.

Depression is a very complex disease with many factors affecting the depth and severity of it.

To hit the main points you have recently moved and therefore are not close to the people you were comfortable with and have yet to make contact with people in your new area due to your injury. Plus this sounds like it was not a popular move for you. I would recommend you contact one of the religious organizations in your area, this of course takes into account that you have some religious affiliation, and set up a visitation with the pastor or lay persons to set up some sort of assistance in getting your family involved in the community. There are other organizations which could be contacted if you have special interests plus the local government may have some social services available to assist you.

I am also assuming that you are somewhat ambulatory, i.e. wheelchair, crutches, walker, etc.

Moving to a new location can be very upsetting and can add to a previous depressed state making you feel overwhelmed by all of the changes.

Oh my gosh, I feel so bad. I have struggled with clinical depression since my junior year in college (my dad and sister have suffered from it too). Please see a new doctor/psychotherapist (preferrably someone familiar w/ depression as it may take several differnt kinds of medicines b/f you find the right diagnosis) to consider a new medication.

No, you aren't the cause of your depression. I always thought that too. I am a perfectionist, a very good student/person. Yet, with depression I didn't care about anything, including school work, etc. That is so unusual for me. Medicine and therapy helped that. Depression is a disease. It doesn't go away without treamtent. Don't base your life around other people. Get better. Get healthy and your schedule will fall between what is good for you and other people.

When you are depressed, be selfish. Figure out what helps you get better and accompish that goal. Depression is a long proces to get over (I've been dealing with it for 5+ years, my sister for 7), but it is manageable. You can have a normal llife and live through depression. I thought/tried to commit suicide a few years back and today I'm married and happy. Depression is temporary. It is about timing. etc. You WILL get better. Put your trust in me.

How do you pull yourself out of depression? YOU CAN'T BY YOURSELF! The only way to get out of this depression you feel with all the voices you hear in your head with all the lies you hear is to give it all to Jesus for he is the way, the truth and the life! How do I know? I to dealt with depression and the one thing that really turned my life around was these three things: 1. Knowing that God and Jesus Loved me and I was valued! 2. Knowing I had people on my side at church, in my social life and in my family that cared about me! and 3. I had to get myself out of the atmosphere that I was in! If all you do is stay in the darkness thinking about how it is never going to get better and think why life is not worth living. Than your going to be proving yourself right and it will not get better! But, if you build a personal relationship again with other people and most importantly a relationship with God! Then you will see yourself back with a renewed joy! Know what the bible says about depression: We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed! (2 Cor. 4:8-9)God said: Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me.Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired and weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary and young men stumble and fall; but those who HOPE in the Lord will RENEW THEIR STRENGTH! (Isa 40:28-31,41:10,Ps.50:15)
I would not be telling you this if I had not experienced what you feel myself! Know down inside you are looking for love and happiness but you will never find it the way you are living right now. However, God loves you, and He wants to come into your life and give you a joy and peace that you could never experience any other way. Jesus said, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you" John 14:27. God created you, and God loves you. His only Son, Jesus Christ, loved you so much that he gave His life on the cross so you could be saved and break free from in perfectness, sin and this depression to become a child of God. I know you feel like you are caring your own cross on your back right now but, PUT IN DOWN THIS INSTANT! And give Jesus all your worries and burdens. When you accept Jesus Christ into your life, something wonderful and supernatural happens. God Himself comes to dwell within you! You become part of His family, and you can know the joy of His presence every day. Pray right now and I encourage you to invite Jesus into your heart, ask him to bring back your social life and the joy back into your life! I to will be praying for you sister because I was too once where you are now and the only way am still alive is because my faith and trust in Jesus saved me and he showed me the better life I could be living if only I put my faith and trust in Him. Know even if your legs and arms were broken you still have the ability to pray to God and Jesus and ask for them to come and talk to you! Start developing your relationship with God and Jesus if your imprisoned in your house! I encourage you to read a bible right now! start with the gospel of John! There you will find a story of a man named John the Baptist the paved the way for another man named Jesus that loves you and will bring you guidance and hope to your life, if you look to him and follow him for your life's answers instead of yourself! I can't stress enough how I know what your going though and you really need a change of atmosphere in your life, get out of the darkness and try to meet new people! A lot of Church's have small groups and some even have marriage support classes for you and your husband! So, I would encourage you to do that because it wasn't till I started putting Jesus first before myself that my life started to get better, I had a whole new image of myself and I started to see how much I was really loved and valued in God's eyes. You are so loved sweetheart don't you dare try to take the easy way out and think you can't change because you can! You have so much to offer! I leave you with a passage from the bible that started to pull me out of the darkness and into the light: TRUST in the Lord with ALL of your heart and lean NOT on your own understanding; in ALL your ways ACKNOWLEDGE HIM, and he will make all your paths straight. Prov. 3:5-6. I would like to recommend two great books to you for finding purpose in your life: 1. Joel Osteen: You Best Life Now: 2004 and 2. Rick Warren: The Purpose Driven Life: 2002. Now I encourage you to Go ahead right now, this minute, cry out to Jesus! ask him to lead your heart so you may trust him that everything will be all right and the next step you take will be right in line with what he wants for you in life, and what life is suppose to be like in serving him! Amen

This is a very general view and not specifically for you as the social structure of your life is complex .The best way to see mental disorders is a series of varying degrees of depression and stress. Mild stress produces an excellent person for creativity and performance. More depression saps the energy and creativity that these people once had as the leave neurosis and become bipolar. There are three levels used to describe Bipolar. Then the imbalance of chemicals made by your own brain plays havoc with the whole control system. The auto brain or lower brain can aggressively access messages that were kept from it earlier. As the depression continues and more and more logic substitutions are made the mind goes into a full psychosis where ideas are disassociated and language decays. The end result of psychosis from severe depression is schizophrenia which has been described as incurable . There are of course are always a few people who have been able to recover mental stability. The greatest learning step required for all levels of depression recovery is to see that society as two groups . Study what you group are in and stay with your own kind to find peace and happiness. You just moved and this gives you a chance to decide who is on your wavelength and who is you social adversary. It will take every ounce of thought to get through this and at the end you may decide to keep everything as is and just take medication to deal with it.

Everyone has pretty much said it all already but i just wanted to send you some (((((((HUGS)))))))), this will pass and evolve to something better and i completely understand where you are at. Take deep breathes to get you through the weekend and be kind and gentle to yourself while you are so fragile.