My Mom is rejecting me after finding out I have medicine?

Hi- I live really far away from my family. I recently stayed near them for about a month to care for my sick Grandfather. My Mom became aware that I was prescribed Wellbutrin, Lamictal and Ambien. She herself is bipolar, but is managed with meds.
She started crying when I stopped to get a refill and now talks down to me like I'm a moron and tells me that "I was the one that was supposed to be okay".
I'm returning soon, how can I make her see I'm capable of caring for my Pappy and still the same person?
Thanks for advice :)

You are okay and she is okay too. I dont know if she has realized that. Let her know that the fact that you are taking your meds means that you care about yourself and the people around you. You already are capable of caregiving because you know how to make sure you are ok. Your mom just sounds frustrated and she isnt expressing herself in the best way. She didnt want you to have to deal with bipolar and I think if you sit down with her several times she will come around and find a better way to say how she feels. Im bipolar too and I know I hate hate hate picking up my meds but i know that when I am on them i dont get speeding tickets:P I know with parents its hell because whenever I am angry at them they say oh that must be the bipolar or if i am quiet I must be bipolar. Once people realize that the world isnt ending and you are holding it down they will get off your back.

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THE BEST THING TO DO IS SHOW HER THAT YOU CAN SEE ABOUT YOUR GRANDFATHER AND THEN SHE WILLSEE THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DOING ANY AND EVERY THING GOOD LUCK

She's probably upset that you didn't tell her at the time when you first had symptoms or when you first started taking medicine. You can only help the situation by being open and honest with her now. She probably feels she can't trust you because you didn't trust her enough to tell her. You'll need to explain all that's happened and how you are now before she'll know you are capable of anything.

well if you mom is bipolar her whole life and she had you and I assume she did well raising you, then she should realize that you will do just find taking care your pappy, plus she should of known that bipolar is hereditary so if she wants to blame anyone for you having to take meds she should blame herself and realize that she did find taking care of you.

You should just say,

MOM I am OK

I make sure I take my meds regularly and I am not in denial,
I know my limitations,

Also just remember what BI polar is
she could just be on the otherside of the pole this month.
give her an extra pill this month to help her deal with the extra stress in her life.

Suggest she speak to her psychiatrist about it and the possibility of increasing her meds

Good luck

Meg

it sounds like she is the pot who is calling the kettle black.(the pot is black to) its an expression my mom uses.

let her know that u r able to take care of yourself so are 100% able to help take care of your grandfather.
did u catch ur dynastic earlier than her? if so mention it. also mention that since u grew up with it (her being diagnose with this condition) that u have learned to cope with it.
just keep assuring her and maybe she will come around.
good luck with your mother. and thank u for taking up the responsibility of taking care of your granddad. i hate nursing homes. i think they harm more than help the elderly.

I think your mom is feeling guilty. When she said that to you, she was just in that phase of shock. She feels guilty because mental illness is hereditary and she wanted nothing more than for you to NOT have a diagnosis similar to hers. It hurt her to find that you do. She feels responsible for your illness. She WANTED you to be "OK". All of this is because she loves you very much. If she was depressed at the time, I'm sure it made matters worse. Hopefully, if you are able to spend time with her, she will begin to see that you are still the perfect daughter that she has loved all along. If she has misconceptions about any of the meds (Ambien gets a bad rap)...do some teaching on how it helps you with your specific problem. She still may not agree, but she will see that you are capable of taking care of your Pappy. Best wishes to you, your family, and your Pappy. Sophie

it sounds like she has her own problems, don't take it personally.

it sounds like she is disappointed in what she produced (you) hoping that she didn't pass the same disease on.

unfortunately, she did. give her a hug. tell her its okay and that you two CAN make it through and you ARE the same person.

there really isn't a whole lot that YOU can do besides show her consistent "normal" behavior. this may be something your mother will have to deal with on her own.