How do I undo the damage. I was raped by my father when I was 13 and my mom let him she came to my room after my shower and dad leeering at me and said put something up therre so I looked around the room and dumped 16 oz bottle of Vasleine Intensive Care Lotion in my vagina and raised my hips in the air it all went deep insidie and hardly any came out had trouble peeing and lymph nodes became hard and swollen sorry but you may have really messed yourself up I hope you prosecuted you worthless peice of crap parents You need to get help and tell them about your children. If the authorities are ntofied by a counsler they will take it seriously... Report It
Sounds you like you should seek help from a doctor... You need to see a doctor.
RN Sweetie there are two things you need to do.......See your doctor and please ask him to refer you to someone to help you with this mentally........ Yeah you need to see a specialist for this one I don't think a general practice doctor would even be much good here. But at lest go to an M.D. and have it looked at. I hope those 2 people are both dead. I'm really steaming mad now!!!! That really upsets me!! First of all, let me say how sorry I am for your horrible experience and how appalled I am by your parents' ehavior.
You mentioned that not much of the lotion came out. Have you ever seen a medical model of a vagina? It's not straight, there are many folds--that's how it expands to have a baby. It is possible that the lotion got stuck in some of the folds and came out so slowly you did not notice it. Some of it could have been absorbed through the vaginal tissues since they are a mucous membrane. I don't recall Vaseline Intensive Care lotion having anything particularly harmful in it, but it's not designed to be applied to mucous membranes such as the vagina. Your lymph problem may not be connected to the lotion, but whatever is wrong, you need to find out what it is and see if there is anything you can do to fix it.
Now, more importantly, how long ago did this happen? Are you still living with them, and has it happened since? If it happens again, you need to keep on the same clothes (put on other clothes over them if you have to, or at least preserve them unwashed and take them with you), do not douche or take a shower, and as soon as it is safely possible, get to a safe place (where your parents won't see you and nobody will rat you out before the police get there) and call 911. It's a free call from any pay phone and you can call 911 from a cell phone even if there are no minutes left. The police will take you to a hospital and have you examined for evidence (semen, pubic hair, bite marks, bruising, etc.) that the rapist left behind. Also they will test for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). They can give you the morning after pill (also known as Plan B) to keep you from ovulating.
Make sure you tell them from the beginning that your father did this and your mother knew it was happening and failed to protect you. Most cities can have a female police officer available for you and a rape crisis counselor to hold your hand through the process. Also there should be a child advocate whose sole responsibility is to look after your best interests.
If this is in the past, and you are no longer in danger of his attacking you again, have you ever talked to a rape crisis counselor, or any counselor? Have you talked to someone from the district attorney's office? You may be able to prosecute; different states have different statutes of limitations. If you can't prosecute, maybe you can file a civil suit against your father and get some money to help pay for the counseling you will need. Call your local rape crisis center and let them know you were a rape victim in the past; they should be able to answer a lot of questions for you.
Not all men are like your father, but it's sometimes hard to distinguish the good guys from the jerks. Don't let this experience ruin your life. I recommend a self-defense class for your peace of mind--it'll make you feel better to know you can disable a guy long enough to get away and get help. You can make the rest of your life work out any way you want it to, but it won't be easy. Good luck. | 