Living in a home that is constant emotional torture?

I live with my parents, who both have many mental issues, are complete pack rats, refuse to spend money on anything but more junk, drugs(including nicotine and caffine), and keep getting animals and making really unwise decisions. I'm afraid to leave because of what would happen to our animals, and to the house - I'm afraid to leave because I've been living this way all my life and it's taken a toll on me. I don't think I'll ever be normal or at least live up to what I know I was once capable of. I don't have any savings, don't have a job - probably couldn't get a job because of my mother speaking to any boss I would have, don't have any real skills, and frankly I almost don't care anymore. The worst part is the constant cruelty I witness on a daily basis - I can't stand it, it's driving me literally insane. I want to leave now - I live in missouri, where can I turn for help with this? I want a chance to have the life I deserve!

I just turned 19. I guess in a lot of ways I can't quite put into words how every single encounter with my parents upsets, hurts, and bothers me - It's something someone would have to witness. There are just a LOT of things going on in my household that aren't healthy, aren't good, and I don't want to be a part of my life anymore. I'm not religious, and I would not, under any circumstances, accept help from any religious organization. I just want a small home or apartment, an ok job, and a heathly life - but if I stay in my current town and home I will *never* get that. My break from my household must be complete and sudden for it to work, otherwise the problems(my parents) will follow me.

We need a little more information to answer your question. What is your age?

least face it you care but either it them or you, sign up for training in the field that you love and dont look back you cant take care of all of it and its time to move forward

You all are perfectly normal and don't have real mental issues. The protestant family was invented to be self-exploding for the days of the pioneers. Many families in Europe split up and came to the new world. You can't find free new land in Missouri where I live any more but in the north of Canada there is some real estate on line for very little money. They are very happy to welcome new people. Look in mls.ca for your cheap housing.

Your story sounds so pathetic--I feel so sorry for you.. try calling a preacher or a church and tell them what you have just told us here. Sometimes churches will try to help people to get out of situations that are not healthy for them. You did not say if you are a girl or a guy-- You definitely need to start a new life and there is hope and life out there- You may have to go to the police and ask them to direct you to a place to live until you can get a job and get on your own two feet. Your parents having mental issues and not taking care of themselves is a bad way to be --they certainly do not need to bring more animals int the house if you are being treated badly. I asume the nicotine is cigarettes and coffee and not eating properly- You will be very wise to get out of this situation and get a job supporting your self--if you show people that you really want to do the right thing they will usually meet you half way--there are many organizations that should be willing to help you if you just ask around, Like I say--i don't know if I am speaking to a child or an adult here- If a child then call the childrens Aid society- -ask Police for names of people who can help you. I wish you the very best of Luck-- Its is very commendable of you to see that you need to make a change --Now do it- Don't let your parents hold you back from doing well in your OWN life. Some day they will not be here and what will you do then --if you don't prepare your self for a future--Go for it-- Don't ever be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Make sure you don't get with the wrong crowd-- when you leave--get involved with a Christian church that offers help and maybe a place to stay.

Sometimes we can't control the bad decisions others make. Move out. Maybe if you're not there for them to lean on all the time, they will think about things a little bit.

i think that you should get a jog hang out at ur house till you have enough money to get your own house/apt. dont tell your mom have a job (if thats wat u want) tell her ur going to a friends house get creative when ur at home stay to ur self. once u have enough money get the house/apt. and move put. OR you could bypass the house part and go to collage get some loans and go somewhere else. u dont need to worry bout ur parents they can take care of themselves and the animals. dont worry bout them worry bout u! u can do it! good luck