Has anyone endured a prolonged period of loneliness, living by yourself? how did you cope? i dont just mean?

being alone, living on your own and being happy......im talking about living with being lonely for a time...like living by yourself..

could be for whatever reason, im just interested to hear how you survived....
i live with loneliness and it can be heartbreaking.....but my plight in life...my journey is to re discover home....be around loved ones...find a loving partner...some good friends......emigrate from the uk to somewhere far off hot and sunny, near a desert...beach..surrounded by my loved ones........this to me symbolizes home.....but until then, i will endure painfull loneliness...living in a one bedroom apaertment...coping with BPD...waiting for therapy....speaking to online friends etc..

im the age of 30 now

The time I spent at college was a living hell. I lived by myself for 2 years in a one bedroom apartment in a big city and I didnt know one single person. I was too shy to go out and meet people and I would go weeks without saying one word to ANYONE, even in school. I seriously was invisible.
I was too poor to afford a phone and I didnt really think my foster parents would want to talk to me anyways...
It was really hard to take, I just threw myself into my job so I didn't have to think about my situation and kind of went crazy in my own little world, haha. I wouldn't recommend it.
Just surround yourself with good things. I took daily walks to nowhere and rode public transportation just for the hell of it because I seriously had nothing else to do or no one to talk to. (I laugh now lol) Eventually I moved back to my hometown after college but I still live by myself (but i got a cat- pets help things you know) but its been easier. Find a job you like and force yourself to meet people. Just say hi. :)

I moved to NYC all by myself at age 19 and there were some days where I would just cry cuz I felt like I was so lonely. But just try to keep busy. Go to a bar, meet people. Go shopping. Do whatever interests you. Or take that time and write a book. put the time to urself to good use

hey u!
u shouldnt think of the lonliness, u already know that ur lonely! concentrate on other things like making some actual friends, going to the museum, bars, clubs or whatever places u might like to meet new people...ur never gonna meet them if ur in ur apartment thinking about how lonely u r!!!!!
hey! me being u? i would post an ad for free in a paper explaining who i am and what im looking for and see how many people want to meet me when they read it! i think that sounds kind of fun...dont u?!!!
just try it ok? see where it taskes u...who knows? u might just enjoy the ride!!!!

good luck!

When I started college last fall, I felt so alone. I realized that I would actual go days without opening my mouth to talk because there wasn't anyone to talk to. Without a phone, I couldn't call my friends from back home- I could just chat online. In lectures, there isn't talking, so no need to say anything in class; and I had no friends here. How did I cope? I didn't really. I was depressed for the first time in my life. I would break out in tears while doing homework for no apparent reason, but deep down I knew it was because I felt so isolated. I went home for the summer and that was like my therapy, visiting friends and surrounding myself with my family- it was really nice.
This year is different somehow. I have met a lot of people that I really enjoy hanging out with. I feel like I came back to a different world after last year. It's really great.

You are not alone.This forum is great to start chatting to people and making friends.You have made a move in the right direction.Have you thought about buying a bird for a bit of companion.Please dont feel alone.

i suffer loneliness a lot too. i don't have a significant other, and my friends and i have gone in different directions. i make an effort though when it gets too bad. i will go sit at a cafe and read, go to a bookstore, or go to the gym just to be in the presence of other human beings. it can get really tough at times, i know. maybe there is an organization or group you can join. make an effort to call your loved ones on a regular basis. it can also help to have something to take care of...a fish or a bird or something. best of luck!

Hi--
I'm probably not the best answer for this, but...
I'm 32 and have had a new home every 2 years or so for the last 12 years. 3 countries, 4 languages and 6 cities later, I've had a lot of experience being lonely.
I am married and love my husband, but all his time goes to work and networking so I am alone. What I have found is just go out and walk. Everywhere. Join everything that interests you. And it's better to be online then staring in to the TV.
If you want to move to a new place, then do. It's a great way to meet people when you need help from them, lol!
I've found my best friends outside the US (home) because I would have no idea about shopping, food and I had to say something to someone for help.
I also always kept houseplants to have life around, and a beta fish in a small bowl is great!
Get your therapy, meds if you need. Plan a vacation--that's fun :)
And know that a 1 bedroom flat is cozy and there is a girl in an empty, huge house in the snotty suburbs :( -that's a real frown- lonely, but coping, too.
Best of luck from me!!

ok my friend you wanna talk lonely lets talk.....kara had the best parents in the world and the best brother any sister could dream...i had a great childhood we were so close my dad got cancer and I felt my world dying .he was my daddy i was his little he died 6months later i took care of him i watch this most wonderful man go down to 70 lbs [this is hard for me but if I can help you its worth it] a few years later mom called and said I can't wake up joey I rushed over I knew he had died it was a nightmare trauma more than trauma try having to look at my mom who 1 week later had a nervous breakdown and the blood test revealed terminal lung cancer / my world was gone I had to be strong and take care of mom /mean while I had surgery for ovarian cancer and mom was so worried i was going to die ,I was fine and 1 year later I lost my mom..you talk about lonely I went to hell and back my friend......people family yea they care but I BELIEVE in me and I got HELP .life is here to live it and you go on the heart always goes on my friend .kara