My mother in law has liver cancer? :(?

my mother in law has cancer, she found out about 6 months ago. when we were first told she only had it in her colon. but bad. they did a operation and took out half of the colon on her left side. by the time they did that we found out it had spread to her liver. they were not big cancers but there was alot. she takes hydrocodone every 4 hours, sometimes 2 every 4 hours. she has been taking chemotherapy also. but i dont think that it is helping much. it eazes her awful pain for only about 3 days, then i starts again. its an everyday thing to here her cry and see her in pain. it hurts alot. i dont know how to get close to her cause i dont know what to tell her. when she says that she cant take it no more i say it will get better but neither both of us believe it. its hard to see my boyfriend sufffer to. when he cry's its not easy to say it will get better, it has only gotten worse. please help me, how to get close to her, and to help my boyfriend through it too. it hurts. please sugges.

I would have her ask her Doctor about more or different pain medications. There is no reason that she should have to hurt. There are lots of meds out there for her. Don't tell her it will get better...ask her if there is anything you can get for her...sit and watch a movie with her, listen if she feels like talking, pray with her, and maybe ask her to ask her doctor about either, 1.) better pain management with maybe methadone, or MS Contin, or oxycontin, or a fentanyl patch, and or 2) ask if it is time for hospice to come in because your local hospice will be a wonderful source for any physical, emotional , or spiritual needs she may have.
If they are still feeling like there is a curative option out there, they may not want hospice yet, but still she could ask for something more for her symptoms. That's what you could do to help. Be an advocate for her and just let her be mad, sad, anxious, or whatever with you as a listening ear, and supporter. It is a hard task, but a very rewarding one in the end. Good Luck.

Sounds like she needs palliative care (for pain) because her pain isn't being managed. Call the American Cancer Society (look them up on the Web) and ask them for advice on how to get help for your mother in law.

The problem with things like liver and pancreatic cancer is that they are hard to treat in any way. The pain treatment does tend to become the priority. The ACS should have help for her and maybe some counseling that you and your husband (you said bf and mother-in-law so I got confused) could go to. They focus on helping you realize that just being there is helpful even if the pain is too much for the patient to appreciate it.

There is no cures for metastatic cancers, hon. Her doc needs to get her on meds that control her pain....

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