Hey all, I suffer from anxiety...and without taking this herbal remedy Im taking for my anxiety I am usually jittery, worried, nervous and very unfocused in social situations. Because of this, I don't see the goodness in life. I am always focused on the negatives and no matter what I always wake up wishing I'd disappear. I feel like crying out to others that the anxiety they saw in me when they first met me -- was not the real me, that isn't my personality!!! Now with these regulated supplements I am more at ease. But now I feel that it's kind of hard fixing those friendships because of what they saw in me at first impression. When they see me they kinda of expect me to react - nervous and jittery. Is it too late to still rebuild those tainted friendships? Please soften me up with kind words...I really need your support....and im in college... ;( Social should be good for everyone by thinking positive. On the contrary, if you think negative then it would seem worse for your life. By focusing a lot about your own shortcomings makes you feel anxious when in social situation because you would think that others might be looking at you. Reduce your self-focus. It might help. Ways of reducing self focus are:
* Don't monitor yourself in social situations, pay attention to what is going on around you:
o look at other people and the surroundings;
o really listen to what is being said (not to your own negative thoughts);
o don't take all the responsibility for keeping conversations going - silence is OK, other people will contribute.
* Begin to recognise that your physical symptoms of anxiety are not as noticeable as you think. Focus on your own body less and you'll stop noticing these symptoms.
* Begin to look at other people to see if they show symptoms of anxiety.
* Begin to believe that people will not dislike you because you are anxious - would you dislike someone just because they were anxious?
* Begin to note that you are not the central focus of everyone's attention. Sounds to me like you're doing fine now. If your friends are true friends they will recognise the "changes" in you and will applaud your efforts - if you were my friend I would not judge you. Your true friends (and that might only be one friend at the end of the day) should accept you for who you are. You could also try making new friends! Good luck x They probably don't know that you have changed. I'd be open about it and say "Hey, this is me. The real me. Now you can see my personality. Forget what you saw before, that was not me!" I think then you can reunite with old friends and socialize and go out with them. I'm sure they would welcome you with open arms. Just be open and yourself with them.
And may I ask what herbal remedies you are taking? | 