Side Effect Of Throat Radiology/RadioTherapy?

Ever Since my father had radio therapy to remove cancer of the larynx not long ago, he has developed a constant grunting, and after havuing to put up with 6 weeks of constant weekly commutes of 200km there and 200km back, this constant grunting noise is beginning to piss us off.

Please Help

Ok - It Sounds Sick - But It pisses me off because he doesnt even acknowledge it, also we spent 12 weeks(6 weeks treatment, 6 weeks off work) going without things we normally have like internet, etc and cutting down on food so we could support him 200km away and he was drinking alcohol(he drinks ALOT of alcohol) anyway he got codeine tablets to take away pain and it said no alcohol - he drank like a fish. The fact is - he has never ONCE thanked us for giving up what comforts we were used to, and for putting up with him in such a cranky mood, in fact all he does is harasses us, if my mother does even one little thing wrong she gets scremed at, if my brother and i forget to do one little thing - say put the rubbish bag into the rubbish bin - which all he had to do was remind us, instead he yells and screams at us - this is some 20 weeks out from when he was first treated - so plz dont tell me im sick, im a freak or a syco.

your father is a cancer survivor as of now and at least you have him grunting sound is not his fault-------------many have lost loved ones to cancer ----------om sure they would have much rayher "put up" with a sound then their loved one to be gone

I don't really get what you are trying to say, but maybe you could word your question a bit better. It reads pretty nastily.... Who exactly is it pissing off? You because it is annoying, or your dad because he is having to experience it? I hope it is the latter...

I suspect this is either a side effect of the radiotherapy or the actual cancer or the larynx that is causing this problem.

I hope you can develop a bit more tolerance to your dad who has had to go through this experience and is luckily still alive.

Some people are so consumed by their own battle w/ cancer that they forget it affects those around them too. Its unfortunate but is part of one's personality and can't be easily changed. It sounds like you're focusing on this flaw of his because it is noticeable by all around him and you feel like it can be fixed. It sucks to sit around and watch someone hurt themselves by drinking when you are putting so much time/energy/love into trying to make them well.

Instead of focusing on his attitude and behavior, I urge you to seek a support group for the families of those going through and surviving cancer. You may not be able to resolve his issues but you can find a good place to air yours. The frustration and anger that you feel is normal. But please, don't take these feelings out on him...as much as he's ticking you off, he still needs you!