I really need a former alcoholic help really bad...?

Please. I am begging for help!

My brother is currently 23 yrs old. He is a extreme alcoholic and nothing will stop him from drinking every day. He started drinking heavily around the age of 19. Before that, he was a crack-head but he stopped and switched to alcohol. Even when he was a alcoholic he made like 80 thousand a year but he lost it because he pasted out from not having alcohol in his system and was in Intensive care until for a few weeks. This was over a year ago. His boss said he can come back if he cleans up and a year later, still is getting drunk to this day! He been back and forth to hospital intensive care until for last year. About 6 times! He went to rehab but didnt take it seriously. Did it for us but dropped out after 2 weeks. Why????? Why is he doing this to himself? What is it? I don't know how to help him. It goes through one ear and out the other! I need help. How can I stop him? I will do anything! He needs to stop or else the doctor says he can die before 30

Go to Alanon to get these questions answered. Go several times and different groups. Each are a little different.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

A-Anon is a terrible choice to make, search and search and you well find a free thinking group who offers facts, well researched answers
people who care enough to tell you stright up how things should be handled, in a non-religeious way so there are no distractions. Go to SOS saveyourself.com
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I would check him into a rehab place asap. dont wait another day. if the funds arent available, take him to a local aa meeting

You need to know that you can't stop him - only he can stop himself, and it won't happen until he's ready. But you can provide him with valuable information - and it sounds as though you are doing that. And support and love, and it sounds like you do that very well.
My advice to you is to go to Al-Anon and find out what you can do for yourself. If you are well and healthy, that will also be a good influence for your brother. This is a hard road, both for him and you and the rest of your family.
I wish you both wellness.

he needs inpaitent rehab, he cant kick his adiction on his own and you cant moniter his condition every second. Your brother has a depentant personality and needs someone who can get to the root of why he started this in the first place. It is really great that he has family that stands behind him but you cant give him the tough love that he needs right now.

I am sorry for your plight. On line and in the phone book, there is a group called Al anon. This really helped me. It gave me tools to deal with people I care(d) about who were killing themselves slowly with drugs or alcohol.

There are people who are there to listen. They are all over. If you can find an Alcoholics Anonymous, they will hook you up with an Al anon.

http://www.cyberrecovery.net/Al-Anon.htm...

Hold on baby, and tie another knot in that rope....

Bless you and your brother

Everything you say sounds just like my son. He started drinking heavy by the age of 20. He is now 44 and stopped about 8 months ago. His last trip to the hospital and the doctors told him take one more drink and you die. He has not had a drink since and has now been put on the list for a new liver. He is now under the strict care of Hospices and they make sure he takes his meds. He did find God and he has a Priest that comes and sits with him a lot now. And this seems to be very good for him.
My son was also on drugs but did not stay long on them.
I found that all the help I tried to give him just made matters worst. He even went to counseling and that didn't work. So all I could do was be there for him when he needed my help. He still calls me once a month. I will be traveling up to see him the beginning of next year. He lives in Calif. I am now in AZ. retired. He refused to come here with us. He lives with a Care Provider that has looked after him for almost 20 years now. The country takes care of him. And he is now on SSI.
There really isn't much you can do but be there for him. Once a person decides to drink and refuses to stop there is not much you can do about it.

unfortunately there is nothing you can do to stop him drinking,
an alcoholic has to hit their own rock bottom, if they stop
for another person when they really don't want to, they will
more often than not start drinking again, the best chance he
has is to go to AA where there are people who are just like
him, but are in recovery, you could ring the local AA number
and they can give you advice, the sad fact is that some
"alkies" never recover, but every one has a chance. It is
very hard for an alcoholic to be honest with themselves, and that is what they have to do to even start to recover

Why is he doing this? How can I stop him?
Whatever the reason he leans towards this behaviour: Addictive personality, genetic defect, depression, etc., it boils down to personal choice. Our free will is pretty much the only thing we truly own, so don't approach it from the angle of stopping him.
Until he wants to stop doing these things, there really isn't much that you can do except give him your love and support.
When he does decide to stop, you can help him find the right rehab facility. There are countless resources out there for alchohol addiction.
Also, there is a new drug on the market designed to help those with addictions overcome them. It works on the portions of the brain responsible for this behaviour. It was originally designed for smoking but there is much progress in its use for drug and alchohol addiction. You can find out more at
Http://www.chantix.com
Good luck.