My grandma is dieing, let her suffer or pull the plug??

My grandma is dieing, she has tuburcelosis, she broke her hip, shes in intensive care, she was doing fine before she broke her hip, shd doesnt eat much. They stuck a tube in her and everything the works. She died once and they res'd her. But im not sure if me and my family should let her live on the way she is by suffering like this. The doctors say she looks really bad and recovering is bad, shes 80 yrs old. But im not sure what to do, My bro says its a good idea to let her die in peace, but she can recover right? slim chance she will, if she did.... shell be in a bed the rest of her life in isolation....so i dont know..

I'd say pull the plug. Let her go to a better place with no suffering. She's had a good life and it was good while it lasted.

Best of luck and follow your heart =)

the family should get together and make a decision and approach gramma about it along with the Dr

My grandmother had alzheimers...I pulled the plug, because she wasn't my grandmother anymore. She couldn't do the things she loved, she knew me as my mother, not as her granddaughter. She was NOT going to get better. My feeling is, if you aren't going to live the way you want, do the things you love to do and are stuck in a bed 24/7, thats not life....and would YOU want to live that way ???

Im very sorry to hear about your grandma, I know its really tough decision, I feel your pain, But she is 80 years old, Let her go in peace, She wont be suffering any more, Hugs to you,

This is the most important question in the world:

CAN GRANDMA COMMUNICATE?

If she can talk to you, or send you signals somehow, she would be asking you to pull the plug if she wanted to die. Do what she wants you to. Do not ask her if she wants to die-- if she really did, she would try to give you that message without being prompted. Asking her the question would make her think you want her to.

Remember that even if a person wants to live, they might not want to do what they need to do to recover. Your grandma might want to live, but need as much support and encouragement as possible to stick to physical therapy and keep up her will to live, because it is VERY HARD. It might be easier for you to imagine someone fat who wants to lose weight. Of course they WANT to lose weight, but they have a really hard time doing what's necessary to lose weight. They might only be able to do it if other people encourage them. So make sure you can distinguish between your grandma wanting to die and your grandma not wanting to do all the things she has to do in order to recover.

Again-- if she can communicate with you-- she will TELL you if she wants to die, without being asked.

If she can't, well... there's an ethical question no single person can answer.

80 years old means she has had a long and productive life. Hopefully a good one. Decide whether you want her to pull through for her or for yourself. Quality of life is important to everyone, and just because she may be able to survive doesn't mean she will have a life she feels is worth living. If she is dependent on others for everything after her recovery she will feel awful. Dignity is the most valued thing with older people. Sometimes the best thing we can do for those we love is to let go even though we fiercely don't want to. Only you and your family can decide what you want to do for your grandmother not anyone else, but make sure it is what SHE would want, not you. I know you are going through a very rough time right now and my condolences to you, your grandmother and your family.

Did she ever make a living will? Did she ever discuss her wishes with anyone?

This is an emotional time for all of you. You don't want to see your grandma suffer, but you would miss her if she died. And you would have feelings of guilt after her death.

You need to follow her wishes, if they are known. But, if they are not known, there is no right answer for this. The adults in the family who have to legally make the decision need to talk to the doctors. Together they must make the decision. And everyone else must be supportive of the people who had that burden of deciding.

My heart goes out to you all!

I believe that this decision should be based on your Grandmother's desires. As an RN, I witnessed pain and suffering, and families fighting across the death bed - what a way to go! I believe in the dignity of each being and each person's right to choose. Have you looked at the form of The Living Will? Options include full resuscitation, no resuscitation, feeding tube, no feeding tube, IV's, meds, no IV's, no meds. Within you, is it kinder to fully support your grandmother's life, kinder to give nutrition through a feeding tube (if she is not eating) or kinder to withdraw the food, kinder to maintain an IV for providing liquids and a channel for giving medication or kinder to withdraw it all? Is your grandmother able to comprehend? If not, has she previously discussed her wishes with you? Life is sacred and beautiful and often there are wonderful lessons to be learned, even in tragedies. Are there lessons for your family to learn such as kindness and service to your grandmother, or becoming stronger as a family because of the service and love you give to your grandmother? In the end, your grandmother's desires should be paramount for this is her life. Perhaps you can consider how you would prefer to be treated if this were you. Choices like these are never easy to make. I recommend that you choose love in all of your interactions so that even though the day will come when you will lose your grandmother to death, the memories you will share will be filled with joy. God Bless!

Oh, I am sorry to hear this news about your grandmother to be dieing. Well, how can I say to you?? In my opinion, it is wrong to let her die. Surely, I am a Catholic. We need to think someone's life to be vert precious one. It is not quite diffrent with killing. For example, my grandmother also passed away because of cancer. My family also suggested two opinion. One was to let her live by a tube. The other was to let her die in peace. However, we did not ask her whether or not she wanted to die because she did not say at all. Like this, we could not ask anything to her. We decided to let her live until she could live. We do not regret our decision even now. We rather think that we made good decision at that time. Think about it. If you are dieing and if your family plan to let you die without asking you, are you happy?? I am not. I think you need more time to think deeply. Pull all thinkings out and make a decision. I hope your decision dose not make any regret. Take care.