I think I am depressed. I have comtemplated taking my own life.. ?

It all started when my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. I was really depressed for about two weeks, which I tried to keep away with drugs and alcohol. I eventually got over him, and I started seeing someone new. I was really happy with this new guy, but things didn't work out.. things are "different" now. I still have really strong feelings for him, and since he doesn't feel the same way, it has caused me to be depressed more than ever.

Now, I sit at home, miserable all day, abusing inhalants and whatever else I can get my hands on and often even comtemplating to take my own life. I have never been to a therapist and don't really want to, but I will if that is my only option. Also, don't give me the cliche answer of getting out of the house etc, because that has only left me feeling emptier than I did to start with.

Please give me any advice you can. Thank you.

This is like watching my life six months ago happen to someone else. Everyone thinks its so simple....so easy. It seems to me my dear that you have an issue where you value yourself by the person you're with and define your happyness by someone with which to share it.

When you don't have this, you choose to block out the negative thoughts in your mind with drugs and inhailents. It appears to me that you use relationships in the very same way that you use drugs, to hide from the problem, and avoid the solution. I think you need to see a doctor not because you've thought of taking you're life, because honestly I've read through most of your posts and I don't think you want to die, and I'm speaking of someone who really HAS wanted to die. When I didn't want death because it was a solution to my problems, I wanted it because I knew thats the way I could rest and not have any problems at all. I think you want to get better and you have a bleak outlook on the hope of your situation and you find that death is the only sure solution. I think you should see a counselor to possibly identify the underlying causes of why you feel you need to be in a relationship to be happy, and why when you are not you get so depressed and end up destroying yourself, thus killing any chance you would have with someone worth while.

In the meantime you can always email me or talk to me. My offer is open always.

Communicate with anyone who will listen!! I will even give you my cell phone if you need it. Depression can never be cured if you are dead. There are hundreds of us here who will listen and talk to you. Trust me, that is no answer.

I am not going to waste your time telling you what everyone else probably already has. What I will say is that the world needs you. You will figure out what for later.

Stick around- I PROMISE it gets better!!!

taking your life over some guys is kind of extreme don't you think? You may be depressed from other issues, I would suggest seeing a therapist, that is more of a logical solution then ending your life,

If he doesnt want you anymore, its not meant to be. Hes not worth your pain. If he was, hed be with you right now and there would be NO pain. Look for someone else, it might make him jealous, it might make him want you again but one things for sure, itll take your mind off of that douche. And if youre going to keep doing inhalants and stuff...stick to once a day :)

So you want advice but we are not allowed to give certain instructions, only what you want to hear.
O.K. I will do my best.
Make an appt with your family doctor, and tell him/her what you just asked here. The doctor I am sure will have some good advice for you and maybe will forward you to yet another doctor who is more experienced in this field. Do this tomorrow.

Please, sweetheart, no man or boy is worth taking your life over. Please see a counselor. They will help you through this. If you belong to a church, talk to your pastor - anyone that you feel comfortable with. If you need to talk to me, I will be more than happy to talk with you on a personal level.
Tomorrow is Monday - look in the phone book for a therapist. There are plenty out there - just tell them what you feel and they will help you.

If you are thinking about hurting yourself, even if you're just thinking about it, please call 1-800-SUICIDE. They can help!

Also, you said yourself that you are abusing drugs. You know that is not going to help you get over your depression. Try talking to the national Alcohol and Drug Helpline. They provide referrals to local facilities where adolescents and adults can seek help. Brief intervention. 1-800-821-4357

Please call one or both of these numbers to get the help you deserve.

first off, running from your problems will only make them worse. using inhalents probablly is making it worse, get a therapist,AND a drug conselor. good luck!

man i have been in ur shoes. not for the same reasons but ive been there i know how u feel. i strongly suggest u go see some one it really does help. u might evn want to get on some antidepessants they will take the edge off. but please dont take ur life u are worth far to much for that. and know that God loves u very much and he is there for u, tonight try praying, i promise it will help and i too will be praying for u. but also go see a therapist they can really help. these 2 thing are the reason im sill alive. if u ever want to talk im always here. hope this helps.

i would have to say a counselor would be your best bet, they really do help with alot of things, but they are also very very expensive.

the next best thing to that would be a group type of thing. i dont know exactly what theyre called but i know they exist because my girlfriend goes to one. but i believe the groups are free and are headed by a therapist who will pick a topic for the day and just have everybody talk about them. i guess it could be considered a support group or something.

Step one ;get on Answers. Step two; find another friend like you are socially . Don't bow to the winners who reject you every time. Third step; accept that you are an outsider . Step four; try to learn what other people around you are doing in life. Fifth step; Learn how the aura affects our emotions and change your aura to manage your emotions. Emotional intelligence is being safe in a safe place. Step six... you are losing interest but it OK. Just Dont think you are the only loner in the world. One quartered are loners.

Talk to a good friend, or if they arn't any help, I would suggest seeing a therapist.
I'm so sorry that you are having these thoughts and are abusing alcohol and drugs.
I could easily tell you, "stop, no, this is wrong. think about what you're doing..." etc. But the chances are, you won't listen to me.
And honestly, I dont blame you.
I'm just some girl you dont know whos answering this question on yahoo answers.
I'm not in the business of telling people how to run their lives.
I also am very sorry about your boyfriend.
That must suck a s s.
I've had this boyfriend for about a year now, and a couple days ago, he told me he doesnt know if he still feels the same way about me.
He wasn't breaking up with me or anything.
But I cried for hours.
He went away just after that for a couple weeks, and I hope things will be better when he gets back.
I can't really know for sure though.
I hope so.
I don't know what I'll do if they arn't.

Enough about me.
I guess I'm just trying to say that talking to people is the best way to solve this.
Someone professional would be preferred, but if youre not comfortable, an understanding friend is fine.
I shouldn't be talking, because Ive never had to deal with what you're dealing with.
But please, don't take your life.
I can tell youre a good person.
:)

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Boyfriend break-ups are situations that can lead to depression.

The reason taking your own life isn't a solution to your problem is because your problem is temporary and suicide is permanent. When you think back over your life, certainly you've had some good times and you will in the future as well. Boyfriends aren't all there are to life. Certainly you must have important relationships with friends and/or family members.

When you have depression it is important that you don't take permanent action based on the emotion of the moment. Also when possible you want to avoid destructive behavior as well.

The best solution to depression is prescription medication. If you don't want to do therapy, then go to your physician and get the prescription. You will need to mention your inhalant use so that a safe medication can be prescribed. Depressant medications can take a week to work.

You will need to be careful when it comes to boyfriend fights and break-ups that you don't sink into depression again. When you are ready to get off medication, you might want to take a tapered dose until you have a stable relationship and are not going through the ups and downs of new relationships.

There are plenty of books and workbooks available on depression. You can get them for free at your public library. They may help too.

If you want there are over-the-counter medications that deal with mild to moderate depression in case you need them in the future. But, for severe depression as you've described, prescriptions are recommended.

First of all, when you brake up with someone you need time to get over it and address the problems that were involved. It is important to learn from relationships, so that you don't carry the problems from past relationships into the next relationship, and trust me this can happen with out you even being aware of it! In some circumstances you never actually get over a huge brake up like this but you'll learn how to deal with it and move on with your life! You shouldn't be abusing yourself with drugs or alcohol, (I'm sure you're aware of this). So maybe it's time you started seeing a therapist and it's also important that you see your doctor too! Hope this helps, I wish you all the very best!!

When we grow up we go through different stages in our life.Every stage makes us stronger and better.Is not the happy and easy times that create our inner strength but the times we feel miserable, down and helpless.
The good thing is any time we get out of such situation we feel victorious and stronger.We feel that we made it and we move to another stage in our life.It's all part of growing up and moving on.
You need to give yourself time to heal.Falling for another guy after you broke up with your ex and breaking up with the last one only makes you feel worse.Drugs and alcohol will make matters even worse because they create more problems and are never the answer.By taking them you are risking your life and your future.
Remember, it's only a stage and will pass.Once you come out of it victorious you will feel much stronger.
Looking back to this stage of your life in a few years you will just be amazed with how far you advanced!!Just give yourself time to heal and good times are coming again!!!
Good luck

For goodness sake go to a doctor. You need help. You need to learn not to depend on a man for your happiness. If you are not happy with yourself then you will be unhappy in any relationship that you are in. It is not a man's responsibility to make you happy. It is YOUR responsibility. If you are having suicidal thoughts then you NEED HELP!!!! yOU ALSO NEED TO STOP DOING DRUGS. Inhaling stuff is one of the most dangerous things you can do. It can stop your heart in an instant and you get no warning signs of that. It will suffocate you. Please I beg you to get some help.

Please listen to me my child. Wondrous creature of the Universe, you, who so quickly sees outward, but has not yet the eyes to seek what lies within the self--your own true self. Misery is a choice. Giving up on life because you have not achieved a desired goal, is a choice. Do not be depressed because someone does not love you in the same manner you love them. No one can ever love you like you love yourself. What is important here, is how much you love yourself. Do you not know that you are the grandest of all creatures? There is no creature like unto you in all of the Universes which composes the Heavens. No, not one. There is not one in the Universe who can compare with your values, or who has your ability to love. See the beauty within--see it fully. For the Light which shines from within, is the Light that all other beings can see. And you will know that you are indeed loved, fully and completely, by the most important being in the world--you. Be of good cheer. A Light is to become known to you through this trial. That Light will burn like the fire in a warm hearth of stones, whose embers are seen by night. It will come upon you. I will send it to you directly. You are loved. You are loved more deeply than you can imagine in a billion dreams. You are loved......The Clarity Channel

there's other fish in the sea, NO GUY IS WORTH LOSING YOUR LIFE OVER, EVER!!! DONT YOU CARE ABOUT YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHO LOVE AND CARES FOR AND ABOUT YOU?. YOU HAVE SOMETHING GOOD GOING FOR YOU IN YOUR LIFE ??? DO YOU HAVE KIDS!!!, IF YOU OLD ENOUGH TO? THINK ABOUT THEM!!! DO YOU HAVE A GREAT CAREER GOING FOR YOU? YOU HAVE GREAT FRIENDS! LIKE YOURSELF AND TAKE CARE! HAVE A FRIEND OR BEST FRIEND COME OVER TO TALK WITH YOU ! TALK TO YOUR FAMILY DOC!!!

Drugs won't help you, they simply change your state of mind. Inhalants are killing you. With every breath, permanent brain damage occurs. You can't it back. Life is precious and fragile. Don't let it pass you by.

Most relationships simply do not work out. Yours are no exception. They are a two way street and if what goes around doesn't come back around, there is no relationship no matter how much you wanted it to exist. You have your whole life ahead of you to find a two way street of a relationship. You won't find if if you end it.

Pain and suffering is a part of life. You've felt it, I've felt it, everyone else has felt it. You're not an exception to the rule in any way but that fact won't make it any easier on you. The best thing you can do is preoccupy your thoughts. You won't think about how much you hate life if you don't give yourself a chance to. Read a book that interests you. Paint a picture. Start a hobby for yourself. Rearrange your living space. Get rid of stuff that reminds you of your exs.

You hit rock bottom, now is the best time for change. You have air in your lungs and a lot of life ahead of you It's up to you what you want to do with it.