Is homosexuality always homosexualit HOMOSEXUALITY?

My son believes he is gay. Of course I would want him to get married and have children. He is 18 years old, he still lives at home. I try to be accepting of his choice, I will accept him even if he is gay, so far he says that he is still a virgan, I believe him, he is normally homest with me, I am sure that there are somethings that he doesn't tell me, but we do have an open relationship. His father feels differently, he is not happy at all about his sexuality, and doesn't have quite the open relationship the he and I does.

A couple questions:
* Is homosexuality based on family genetics?
*Can homosexuality indicate childhood trauma, he was never neglected or sexualy miss treated, buy maybe by someone out sid the home that we are not aware of?
*How often does same sex relationships turn out to be heterasexual, and live the model family as America see, being a husband to the opposite sex - prosper and become parents. Or simply married or have a relationshop with the opposite sex

It's good that you are willing to accept your son's sexual preference. It's really what your son needs right now, especially having just come out to his parents. I believe his father should just be glad that hi son is healthy and "finding" his "true" self.

*Nobody has proved that it is genetics. I have grown up around lesbians and gays and they all very firmly believe (as do I) that it has nothing to do with genetics. I believe it's a matter of what gender a person can really connect with emotionally, because IT IS a matter of connection and understanding.

*It can but this is NOT ALL the cases. Do not believe that just because a person is homosexual that they have gone through a terrible childhood. This is a common misconception that can offend homosexuals, because assuming that they have all had childhood trauma is basically assuming that they're all "messed up".

*Not likely. It HAS been known to happen, though. Your son is still young and when he comes older he might find that he can also emotionally and romantically connect with women. Remember that just because he is gay does not mean he can't have the beauty of a full family, such as kids a life-partner. I am the daughter of a lesbian and I am straight and have lived a very fulfilling life.

Talk to your son when he is ready and let him know that you support his HAPPINESS, because as a parent, that's what should really matter.

I hope his father finds acceptance.

Good luck.

did you know what you wanted to be for the rest of your life at 18? if he has no sexual experience, he is niether gay nor straight. he may just be curious. he will be whatever he will be, but he will always be your son.

First of all... I'm not sure I understand the intital question. But as far as 'family genetics' go... it's not as if you are gay or your husband is gay and you 'gave it' to him. It's just that's the way he was born, and he didn't get to choose this. I really doubt being abused in any way when he was a child would cause him to be gay. That just doesn't make sense to me at all. And as far as living a normal life, he still can live a normal life. Maybe one day the laws will change and he will be able to get married. He can still have a lifepartner and have children, they can always adopt- but remember, this isn't about what YOU think is right, even though it may be really painful for you. This is about what your SON thinks is right, and if he is happy being this way, then you should be glad he knows who he is.

*Homosexuality has nothing to do with genetics. I was the only homosexual in the family, and that was going back three generations on both sides.
*Sometimes, someone is just curious. I had a perfectly normal childhood, myself, I just enjoyed the idea of being in a relationship with another girl. It made more sense to my 14-17 year old mind that I should be with someone of my own gender, who would "understand" me better (This turned out to be completely wrong, btw)
*I'm not sure what the statistics are, nationally, but personally... I dated another girl for three years, and then went totally hetero. Now I'm with an amazing guy, and he provides me with a lot more emotionally than any girl I've known did. So... I used to think I was totally gay, but now, two years later, I don't feel that way one bit.

Maybe your son is just 'testing the waters'.

try to be open with your child, you know who might help... there is this guy he goes by gay god search him on youtube.... he might be able to help you ;) gl

I'm glad to hear that you try to accept your son since he has come out of the closet. When my sister came out she had a very rough time of it.

There are different theories - but I believe that homosexuality is based in genetics. That doesn't mean that it's "the parent's fault", though.
No, it is not a sign of childhood trauma.
Sorry, I don't quite understand the last question.

Check out this web site - www.pflag.org - it's the website for a support group for the families of gays & lesbians. They have alot of information that might help you answer your questions. The group is very open and they won't think your questions are dumb or that you are a bad person for asking or for wanting your son to lead a heterosexual life. Most of these people have been through that themselves and can relate. They may have a chapter in your area and you may want to attend a meeting - it can help so much to meet folks who have had to deal with the same issues.

Remember - your son is still the same great kid you've always thought him to be - and it took alot of guts for him to tell you what he has discovered about himself.

Good luck!

No-one really knows why some people are homosexual and some people are heterosexual and some people are bisexual. There may be a genetic component - it's not clear, and it's unlikely to be a simple inheritance like eye colour. There is NO reason to believe that childhood trauma is likely to determine sexuality in one particular direction, be that heterosexual or homosexual. It may be that some things in the way the individual child experiences their childhood have an influence in the structuring of whatever sort of sexuality, but this isn't about anything being 'wrong'. It's amusing that some of the reasons given for people being homosexual are contradictory - eg "oh, he was always so close to his mother, that's why he's gay" and "he and his father were so close, he wanted to replace that relationship and that's why he's gay"! It's odd that people keep wondering why someone is homosexual, but not why they are heterosexual - just as great a mystery.

In general, if someone feels certain they are gay in their late teens and early 20s, they are unlikely to change. Attempts to make people change usually cause terrible heartache and sometimes real tragedy - as when a young man marries to please his parents and later has a breakdown or is found out in his gay relationship, and his wife (and children, if any) are the ones to suffer.

It is great that your son feels he can talk to you - I'm sorry it causes problems with his father, but perhaps he'll come round in time when he realises it's not going to change. I know you will be disappointed that he won't be providing you with biological grandchildren, but there will be many other things that you can enjoy about your relationship with your son as time goes on, so long as you keep your relationship with hiim strong. I hope he finds a life-partner he can truly love and be happy with, and hope the two of them bring you a lot of enjoyment.

being gay is not based on genetics if he really is homosexual he was born that way and its not a bad thing and its also definetly not a choice to be gay its just the way you are and it does not have anything to do with child hood trauma such as you suggested you need to speak with your husband alone you should support your sons decision he is going to need with all the miss understanding people in this world love him and know that its who he is

I think the most important thing is not all your questions but the fact that he has told you and your husband about his feelings. Do you know that men are sometimes never come out of the closest so to speak? Some men have also married and had children with a woman only to find out later in life that they are gay. This can be a very traumatic feeling that a woman is trapped in a man's body. Is your son willing to have some therapy to see really determine his sexuality. I also think he deserves all the support he can get no matter what from his family as he was honest & open with you.

If your sons says he is gay, then he is gay. The fast you get over it and accept it, the better off everyone will be. Do you really think your son "chose" this for himself, as if it's easier or something?

Come on, you have a son, and you're so blinded by dislike for homosexuality that you're going to allow that to disrupt your relationship with him?? And you husband too? I hope that you and your husband are able to get over yourselves and move past your picture-perfect ideal for how you son is "supposed" to be and just accept him for who he is.

That's cool that you son came out to you. That takes a lot of guts. Your acceptance will have a very big psychological effect on the rest of his life. Check out PFLAG. Educate yourself. This may be some of the most important parenting that you do. Sexuality is such a core part of a person, being rejected, not accepted, or seriously questioned by parents can be very damaging regardless of orientation. If he's not gay, he'll figure it out not by being told but by self-reflection.

1. Family genetics - there is a shool of thought that, for some, homosexuality might be inherited. It's difficult to tell since very few people were out even one generation ago, meaning there's no certainty either way. It is known, however, that a single 'gay gene' does not exist.

2. Unfortunately, child abuse is so prevalent in society that if it 'caused' homosexuality, a considerably larger percentage of the population would be gay. Except in very rare circumstances, this has no bearing.

3. Most gays have a pretty good idea that their orientation is different around the start of puberty. When that's the case, it almost never changes. Some people are bi-sexual, and their orientation can change. Some heteros are curious, do some experimenting, and then settle on hetero relationships. At 18, there's an off chance, but most likely not. The curious usually get curious in college or later and don't turn to mom and dad until they know.

My brother is gay. It's not a choice. It's just who he is.

Last note: Homosexuality is about a lot more than sex. The most important are love and having intimate relationship(s). Gays are no more capable of having those w/the opposite sex than are heteros w/the same sex.

Btw, on Answers, the LGBT section is a more appropriate section to ask questions.
http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/;_ylt=AmYdr...

there are two scenarios.

Either he has mental disorder which may leed him to homosexuality or there is something he is hiding it.

If he is virgin, try your best to protect him from sexuality, you are his mom and you should protect him from such thing.

Forget about sexual choice and this non sense, im sure that most people say that dont accept such thing to thier children. do your best to avoid such thing.