Did i suffer from an eating disorder?

About a year and a half ago, I admitted to my mum and dad that I had a problem with food. Over the months before the confession, I had been starving myself until I was underweight. My periods stopped and you could clearly see my ribs and hip bones. I was stuck in a vicious cycle, I didn't want to eat because I felt sick and I felt sick because I didn't eat. I thought about making myself sick but I couldn't bring myself to do it especially when my mum confronted me about it. I went to the doctors and I had help from 2 counsellors. When my therapy ended, i was supposed to be able to talk to my mum about it. My mum is not an understanding person and she never likes me talking about it. She said I was selfish and i was hurting her, i thought she was supposed to help me get over it. Did I have an eating disorder?

Yip sweetie, you did. I had one about the same age as you so I clearly remember just how bad it was...and my mother wouldn't talk to me about it either! I still have a funny relationship with food. I eat the same thing for lunch every day because if I think about it, I wouldn't eat! People at work laugh at me but I laugh at myself too! I think your Mum has a lot on her plate and unfortunately, knowing her daughter is so unhappy is just adding to her misery and list of her 'failures'. Its exceedingly difficult to deal with for both of you - I hate hearing if my son is unhappy as sometimes there isn't anything I can do instantly to make it better and it sort of rattles me to my very core. When you were little and your hurt your knee, mum could cuddle you and make it all right again...but now you are older, its far more complicated and I think she feels helpless and hopeless. Which is why she reacts badly...am I making any sense...sometimes I just ramble as you know. Anyway, I hope your relationship with food has improved since then and that you know that mum isn't always much help...(I don't mean that in a nasty way - its just a truth we all learn in the end). You have to go it alone sometimes...well, with a little help from your friends...xx

yes, thats anorexia.

yes, and I'm sorry you did, cuz i feel ur pain....
trust me it's not worth it, tho i dont think i have a serious one, i have trouble feeling good about myself after i eat, and it sucks.
especially if ur family wont support u.
find a group of friends you can talk 2, that helps.
much luv
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Yeah, it sounds like you did.

Yes you did have an eating disorder.

Yes you did. Your mom should talk more to you about it. But if she doesn't, then talk to your teacher if they are in shape. You must eat in order for mental and physical health.
Walking, I think, is the best excercise. Get a cassette or cd player and put upbeat music to help your stamina while walking.
Good luck and God bless you.
PS Talk to someone.

You do have the eatting disorder problem. And I think it must started with some rude comment about your weight. You need to build up more in the head, than on the body. Sometimes, how it looks like doesn't mean who you are.
And as a mother, I think your mom feels bad, because she still have trouble to accept you and your problem. Most ppl, when sometimes happens, they always blame someone else, but they don't realize, it is time to solve the problem, stop pointing fingers.
You should go to find someone who you can talk to, maybe a supporting group or online forum. To share your experience, get yourself back up. Life will experience lots challenge and I believe it is yours, and you should fight for it.
Good luck, be strong to get over this.

Sounds like anorexia--being underweight and having no periods is a pretty good sign that something's affecting your appetite. Because counseling helped, I'm assuming that something was emotional; so yes, you had an eating disorder.

I don't think you were trying to hurt your mom. I think you were just reacting to whatever made you feel bad by feeling sick, and then when you felt sick you didn't eat. Your mom is wrong to take it so personally--what does she expect, a perfect daughter? Nobody's perfect, and that's the way it's meant to be.

I disagree with your counsellors, though. You don't have to be able to talk to your mom about it--you have to be able to talk to YOURSELF about it. If, every time you bring it up, your mom just accuses you of trying to hurt her, then it's not your problem; and I don't blame you for not trying to discuss it when she keeps on brushing you off like that. The whole point of counseling was to help you think about yourself, understand yourself. If you can do that, then you're OK. What your mom does is up to her.

Suggestion: Find something that's all your own, something you enjoy and nobody else can ever affect. Whether that's a hobby or a password-protected diary or a place where you can be and nobody bother you... Doesn't matter what. Just something where you don't have to worry about your mom butting in. Things like that really help keep you sane.

yes, its called anorexia, i used to have the same problem