I need help with my daughter?

My 13 year old daughter thinks she's fat, and insists going on a diet. I tell her everyday that she is not fat, but she refuses to listen. She hasn't been eating as much lately, and she obsesses over her weight constantly. She's about 5'1" 1/2 feet tall, and weighs about 140 pounds. Her waist size is about 32 inches, hip size 42 inches, and chest size 43 inches. She has a little flab on her belly but I keep telling her thats just baby fat and she'll grow out of it, but still, she refuses to listen. I'm really worried about her and afraid she'll get an eating disorder. What should I do?

Based solely on your description: Your daughter doesn't sound clinically obese, but she is also not thin. It sounds like she needs a healthy exercise regime and a healthier diet. She probably doesn't need to go on a "diet", a ridiculous weight loss program where she starves her self.

So take her to a professional Counselor. Remember teens don't listen to parents but they DO listen to other adults.

I do believe she needs to lose weight. Guess what?! I have the same problem.

I would try to encourage her to eat healthy and to exercise regularly. The peer pressure is SOOOOOO strong at that age to look "just right", but reality is, it's pretty much impossible because of that "baby fat" you talked about. Regardless, it sounds like now is a great time to talk to her about HEALTHY food choices, and maybe even set up an appointment with a nutritionist that can help both of you to learn about nutrition.

Anyway, I hope that helps, you have no idea how much I wish my mother would have taken the time to teach me about nutrition.

oh god it is hard to be a kid.
give her the love
accept that she is really feeling serious peer pressure
take her to see a trusted therapist she can unload on (she needs to hear it from an impartial adult)
send nicole richie a get well card.

Hey i hope you listen to this because eating disorders arnt only in girls but boys as well i am a 16 year old boy and i used to think i was fat i was obsess about it to the point of starving myself my friends and family tried to help until one day i just woke up and i stopped calling myself fat i needed my friends and families help so my advice (And sorry to bore you with my life) Is that you keep encouraging her that she is not fat she will grow out of it hope she is ok i know what she feels like just be very kind to her and keep raising her self esteem thank you for listening and have a great day!

She probably will grow out of it without a problem. In the mean time you have to deal with her and her problem thinking she's fat. Most likely your daughter wants you to assure her shes not fat so don't tell her she is. You also may encourage her to eat healthier and exercise more if this is a problem. Hope I helped!

you need to show her that there are many other ways that are far more healthier for her to lose weight and tone up too than not eating .... if she started exersising ..joins a gymshe will not only lose weight but tone up at the same time ...and be able to eat a good healthy diet ...

Keep the communication open with her,explain that the best thing to do is eat the right foods and excercise and not to be discouraged.It takes work and it would be nice if you could take part with her.

well, i am 16 and her exact same height. i weigh 118 lbs and if i was 140 i'd think i was fat too. hell, i think i'm fat now. she just has a low self esteem and not enough confidence in her body. i hate to admit, but she is a little overweight for 13. let her go on a small diet, nothing too drastic and i suggest maybe a parent-daughter exercise routine to help her get in shape and feel a bit better and in control of her body. she needs ur support. if she wants to lose a lil weight, help and monitor her in doing so...

Whatever you do. do not take her to a counselor, it just going to make her actually become aneroxic or belimic. Everyone obsesses about there weight, but you should like help her out if she wants to go on a diet, make her eat healtier not littler, be there for her because if you despise of what she is doing it will get out of control, so offer to go to like a gym or something with her or do stuff together like running or different things to help and congradulate her on running so far or doing certain things, she will eventually feel confeident and not obsess about her weight.

My daughter was a little overweight at that age. She is now 18 and a beautiful, healthy young woman.
Peer pressure on young girls is criminal these days. I would like to wring their necks! BUT, your daughter needs your support and understanding right now.
Maybe you can help her feel good about herself by suggesting a healthy diet and exercise. Teach her the benefits of nutritious foods and counting calories. Tell her you will help her plan meals and this way you will have quality time together. (shopping, reading labels and cooking) Turn this into something fun.
My daughter is probably the only one in her dorm to eat healthy meals and snacks. Eating foods rich in antioxidants has helped her stay healthy, too. She rides a bike everyday and works out in the rec center on campus. This is her lifestyle that she learned at home. You can do this!

When we are teens, our internal organs grow to full size first of all before our bodies grow. That is why most teenagers get what is known as 'puppy fat'. Then we get taller, our bodies stretch and suit the size of our internal organs. My son got very fat at that age and I wouldn't let anyone say anything to him about his weight, for fear he would go in the other direction. I just tried to make sure he was eating a healthy diet with lots of fruit and veg because I knew that with age, it would sort itself out. I wonder if someone has said something to her. You should ask and also try explaining to her how it all works, letting her know that when her body takes a stretch, all will be well. Her current BMI is 26 and it's supposed to be between 19 and 25, but it's not too bad and teenagers bodies are growing at such a fast rate that the little extra might be useful at this time. I would just make sure she's eating healthy and exercising.

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140 and 5'1''? She definitely needs to lose weight. At that age she probably won't know how to do it herself, so make sure that she is eating enough, but not too much, and getting her exercise.

She sounds like she is pretty healthy right now. She should still have a pretty good head on her shoulders and is obviously not too far into it yet. I know you think she does not listen, but I am sure she hears you and is just not taking it all seriously.

I think alot of young girls dont know what the consiquiences are of their actions when it comes to not eating.

I came across a really good informational video that gave me a whole new perspective on things.

Perhaps if you got her to watch the video it might help?

This video is not of me, but it is of a girl that had anorexia and she is telling her store straight stripped and bare.

Have a watch, see if maybe it could help your daughter? It really helped me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stH-LRTjE...

*this video is not an advertisement now is it associated with me in anyway. It is a 7 min video on the real devisations of the disease anorexia.